Boy is Dad at age 13, he looks so very young

[Lizzylou]

Here, he just looks so young

Bloody hell he is only 4ft tall. He still needs a booster seat in the car!!! My 7 year old is 4ft 5. He is about the size of a 6 year old.

When I was 15 you would have had the piss ripped out of you for dating him.

he is about the same size as my 11 year old and Ds1 is small for his age.

Maybe it's time to stop pointing and staring at them.

Ultimately, we don't know.

They should have some privacy now to get on with what is going to be very difficult for all of them.

Personally I'm now thinking about DS and what he knows.

Sorry, I don't think he necessarily did know that he was going to make a baby. They say in the article that his voice had not yet broken. Well, call me naive if you will, but even I might have thought him incapable of fathering children until he had entered puberty.

He must have had this act of intercourse at about the same age as my ds1 is now (just short of 13). My ds1 has not entered puberty yet and, while I know he would not want to go near enough to a girl to impregnate her yet, it is a worry to think that he might be physically capable.

What a sad situation.

Yes, it takes two to tango afterall.

Let's hope that others do learn from this.

Yeah, actually, maybe he's not the father afterall. Maybe she's just saying he is because he's her boyfriend.

Oooh wot! Now you may be onto something there!

DNA test anyone?

SoupDragon on Fri 13-Feb-09 09:18:36
"I don't think she can be morally to blame either at that age. Is the age of consent not there because we do not believe younger children to be capable of making a sensible decision at a lower age?"

Not entirely. As far as I understand it, the age of consent is set this high to protect vulnerable young teenagers from exploitation by older people.

But the age of criminal responsibility is set much lower (10, I believe), so we clearly believe that young people are in some sense capable of making decisions about their actions. (not that I agree with the 10-year-level).

A 15-year-old who pinched a car would be likely to go to prison. So I would at least have very stern words with a 15-year-old who had sex with a little boy. If you are older, you should be more responsible.

What a terrible story. I'm shocked at the parents - the adults, not these children - not discussing abortion. If either child was mine, I'd have been suggesting it very seriously. Bringing a baby into the world in these circumstances is a very bad idea indeed.

Mind you, if ds was having sex at 12, I'd be horrified and consider myself a failure as a parent.

Given his physical immaturity (never mind his age), if I were his parents I would insist on that DNA test.

I agree with cory he looks phsically immature for his age and not grown up enough to have fathered a child but who knows?

I cannot believe some of the horrible comments about the mother.

My cousin taught her at school. She is one school year above the father. She grew physically while pregnant so is alot bigger now that before. Nobody thought it was odd that they were going out.

Please stop the female bashing. They are both responsible.

OMG WTF and

and can you father a child if you are physically immature and your voice is not yet dropped?

I've looked at the photo of the two of them again, and she is on her knees whereas he is sitting. Clever Sun photographer. He's still tiny though!

slightly off topic but dh came back from the shower and got into bed to read fro 10 mins this morning and both the boys were in our bed.

''How did you two get here?'' asked dh jovially.
In one voice the boys (aged 8 and 11) chorused: ''Well , when a mummy and a daddy love each other very much....''

At least I know they lsiten sometimes....

I'm shocked at the comments aimed at the mum also, she is a child still, but apparently as she doesn't look as cute as the dad it must be her fault.

I'm disgusted that anyone would be flinging the paedo thing around, but is suppose i shouldn't be

lol mollyroger.

I know this is so unimportnat in the scale of things, but I've got to agree that there would be no way in hell any of the girls at our school wouldve gone out with someone from the year below, and if they did they'd have been tarred as weird and freaky. There was a girl in my class pg at 14, but to a much older guy, which we all thought was very cool

I get the feeling this baby will be asimilated into family, there's no way they'll parent it alone is there?

I have to agree with Artichokes. Some of the comments on here are really nasty. It at the end of the day, two children you are talking about.

yes they have made a mistake. Of course they knew how babies were made, but they are teenagers. Bad things don't happen to them. They are invincible dontcha know?

I also think a point you are all missing is that this boy is making an effort to be a father. Like his dad said he could just be playing on his playstation. But he isn't. He is doing his best to try and support the girl. Which more than I can say for some 30 odd year old men I know. Who knows maybe the novelty will wear off. But atm I think he is being incredibly responsible for a boy his age.

He could have just denied it all and gotten on with his life.

he dosen't look like he's hit puberty yet

how would he have been capable?

it is very

FAQ - you said your BF's DD2 was 14 when she started seeing her boyfriend who would have then been 12.6 I presume? I bet they weren't having sex though. When I was that age having a relationship was really just the same as being friends but you held hands.

What a shame all round

My DSs are 15 & 16.5 and thought of either of them being fathers even now is awful. They can barely look after themselve, never mind support a child emotionally and financially.

Tamarto on Fri 13-Feb-09 10:21:35
"I'm shocked at the comments aimed at the mum also, she is a child still, but apparently as she doesn't look as cute as the dad it must be her fault. "

It is not about her not looking as cute; it's about the fact that she is quite a bit older than him and should have felt some responsibility towards him in consequence. A 15-year-old is not a baby. I had a friend who was seduced by a boy of a similar age, similar age gap- she was too innocent to understand what it was all about, he was old enough to understand.

I agree the boy sounds lovely, but he is too young to take on that responsibility. And the fact that his voice has not broken does mean that you would want some proof that he is actually capable of fathering a child.

He is in the year below her at school. There may only be a year and a month between them.

Guaranteed if he looked like a thug this thread would have been hugely different!

Also, how many teenagers do you know that take responsibility for themselves never mind someone else. We can't look at this 'relationship' in the way we look at our own. They are BOTH children.