Boy is Dad at age 13, he looks so very young

[Lizzylou]

Here, he just looks so young

This has got to be a wind up surely?

This is absoloutley shockin

I strongly belive for our kids saftey and own good sex education should be started in primary 5 so by the time they get to high school they know the implications sex can cause and not just taught about if you have sex you get pregnant but the ins and outs and everything in between and what happens when the baby pops out

this pair should be playing football and friends not playing mummy and daddy .

I think often it is not just the facts that these kids don't understand. Sometimes they don't care about getting pregnant or want to get pregnant (there is no stigma anymore like years ago and also in pockets of society it is even 'normal'). Somehow society encourages this from a sub section of people. I have read this as it being another option than low paid menial work to go on benefits etc.

How can we stop this happening to people who know the facts but ingore them? We can't.

Hardly applies in the present instance though, does it, jellybeans? A 12 year-old isn't going to be in the position of looking for low paid menial work anyway.

The baby is just a cash cow.

Chantelle and Maisie were released from hospital yesterday. They are living with Penny, Chantelle?s jobless dad Steve, 43, and her five brothers in a rented council house in Eastbourne. The family live on benefits.

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Dennis, who has fathered nine kids...

What the f*?

Are these people insane? Do they not realise that, if anything happens to our already-strained benefit culture, that their kids are going to die?

The Sun IS a lot of youngsters' sex education actually. In households where it is read daily and the soft porn/celeb/trash content is accepted as What Life Is All About. Along with Jeremy Kyle etc etc. Girls with their tits out and people who shag anything that moves. Nice. A great example to us all.

That article makes me feel a little sick and very sad. He looks to young to father a child.

This is such a sad reflection on society.

Babies having babies isn't it? And they can't really be blamed without knowing of their background. I think it is safe to say that they would have been brought up with no hope, no ambition, like so many people who "live in a council house and are on benefits."

Luckily there are a few of us raising children in that predicament who still managed to bring them up properly. I wonder at parents who seem to be content with their children repeating their mistakes, having babies early, never working, never wanting anything better in life.

omg he looks about 8,why keep it quite and then splash it all over the sun of course they done it for the money ,im speechless kids having kids whats this world coming to,and why they not getting done for under age sex

Oh my God how can those children have been having sex (9 months ago ) they look like babies, both of them.

ilovesprouts - presumably no offence committed as they are both underage

Im preparing to be flamed

but

Whos is actually going to be funding those babies????

Not him on his non existant pocket money,if she cant work out how babies are made shes not gonna be funding it either ......his mum and dad re saying its crazy and they have a large family to support and her mum and dad are already on benefits ....

WE will be funding it!!!!

its ridiculous and its sad yes bloody sad where was the responsible parenting going on whilst they were getting carried away??

And yes i do agree she looks a little lot odd with a young looking boy as her boyfriend what sort of parents encourage this???? and him hving a uniform at her house so he could sleep over I DONT BELEIVE THAT ADULTS CAN DO THIS - I think the goverment should claim back all the money theyve paid for these children in child benefit tax credits and income support because clearly these children havent been being parented.

And the only reason theyve allowed this to be in the papers is for money- shame on them all.

it is shocking but mainly because of how young he looks rather than how young he is.

It's definitely not the first time i've heard of a kid of 13 becoming a dad. His girlfriend is only 15 so not that big an age gap. Unfortunately she looks bout 5 years older than she is and he looks about 5 years younger than he is. That's the only reason the Sun bothered to make this a story.

in a few years they'll both look around the same age, if they can put up with all the hoo-ha and moral outrage long enough

TBH though I'd be shocked at any 13y old becoming a parent. I am also sadened by a 15y becoming a parent.

They are children. They should be doing childhood related activities. Sex and parenting are not IMO childhood activities.

I find this story so very sad and as others have said it says alot about the society we live in. Frankly I find it obcene that they are being paraded in the paper.

obscene

The thing is, back in the old-old-olden days in the UK (and also in other parts of the world today) it would probably have been quite normal for children of this age to have children. If this young lad were Jewish he'd already have had his Bar Mitzvah and, in his culture, would be considered a man (difficult to imagine, I know, with that cute little face!).

But I think in today's Western society our children stay childish for far longer, and so are very rarely fit for such a hefty weight of responsibility. I suspect this is because we allow them to extend their childhood - they don't have to take on adult responsibilities they way children do in other countries - responsibility for their younger siblings, for housework and cooking, for earning a living, etc etc. I'm sure there are benefits of both ways of life, though I do feel for children who cannot finish their education or just have fun hanging out with their friends because they have to look after their families, etc.

I'll stop wittering, now!

God he looks so young. Not only that, but you see some of these programmes about teen parents and some of them seem fairly mature but he just seems like a little boy. He didn't even know what financially meant

But you see this is why we arent living in the old olden days children today have 'rights' and teens have access to precautions in secondary school sex education is taught and kids are more ware - a child isnt a foregone conclusion nowadays nd what makes it so very wrong is no-one in authority is saying this is wrong - are we so politically correct that we now accept this as the norm?????

I dont blame the children so much as i blame the people they call parents-they have failed in their parental duties,and their children and the grandaughter will cost us not just financially.

Nickschick, I think you've misunderstood my post. I was by no means saying it's a good thing; I was presenting a context - i.e. saying that when + where it's been considered the norm, kids have tended to be more mature. Here + now kids aren't mature enough and so it's a bad thing.

omg, he looks just like my step son , same age as my step son , i can't imagine my step son being a father and hope he wouldn't even think of having sex at that age.

there is something going so very wrong in our society

firstly, than teens don;t know about contraception, that the old myths are still prevailing.. i.e can;t get pregnant first time. perhpas that is what they thought?

secondly, that the family are being paraded across the tabloids for us to pick apart

poor innocent baby at the centre of it. will she be brought up by her parents or grandparents..

I think some proof that he is the father might be a good idea since his physical capability is a bit open to .
And no-one would be trying to make some money out of this , would they?

I have been trying to work out all day what has made me uncomfortable about this story and why this thread was making me .

I have finally realised what it is.

I think that usually when young girls become pregnant there is an older man involved - the male is 17 or 20 or 24 and the girl is much much younger. I definitely read somewhere that this is the case. And the girls get vilified and the men who have done it - in full knowledge that they are having sex with underage girl and no contraception etc etc get away scott free public scrutiny-wise.

In this case, unusually, the boy is very young as well. People think it's odd they're going out - why? - maybe they have known each other for years and get on brilliantly. Maybe they have a laugh together. There are loads of reasons. And to say he can't be the father based on his appearance is pretty .

It's just interesting the reaction this has caused, and the outrage, when personally I find the idea of grown men talking 12 and 13 year old girls into sex, knocking them up and then buggering off (as per the majority of cases - again no stats to hand though) much worse.