Russia conflict is terrifying me

[Miracle29]

I've seen another of threads on here and to be honest to scared to look through them. I've got my 2 children off for half term and encouraged them to watch films and play as there is so much on russia. My teenage ds has come to me today dating its all over the news on his phone etc and he's scared and to be honest I am. I won't show that infront of my children but I am. I had a massive fear of war when I was little, no idea where it came from but I was always asking questions about war and if we will die etc. My anxiety on this since boris speech has heightened and I'm so scared now. What do we do if there is war? Will there be a war? I'm just so scared. I know there's alot of people who are scared but please put my mind at ease.

I’m keep trying to squash the anxiety down and sometimes l succeed. But then it comes back.

I go to bed every night wondering if I’ll see the morning…

I suspect China are probably very pissed off about all this but are keeping their own counsel.

@RoseRedRoseBlue

I suspect China are probably very pissed off about all this but are keeping their own counsel.

I suspect not, they abhor the West and likely would love Putin to stick us one

@RoseRedRoseBlue

I suspect China are probably very pissed off about all this but are keeping their own counsel.

There's an article in The Telegraph "Taiwan braces itself for the unthinkable as Russia’s invasion sets off alarm bells over China"

China will probably stay silent. UNSC is stymied, so no need to do anything. Biden refuses to answer reporters questions about any exchanges between US and China

I'm feeling very anxious about it all and just trying not to read the news, nothing can calm me.

I had calmed myself this week but again I am so very anxious tonight. I try to rationalise my fears but I am really struggling.

It's weird because if I didn't have dc I'd still obviously feel scared but id be more calmer and think whatever happpens happens, because I have dc that is what terrifies me I don't want them harmed in any way, don't want them scared, upset and hurt. I see them in Ukraine and I could cry for them but my thoughts come to my dc and I end up in a big old mess. I've tried not reading the news, tried focus on something else, tried say to myself it won't happen, I go to a good place then bam I see something to set me off.

Well I did make the decision of a no news day, that is until dp came down and said have you heard about boris 6 point plan he's presenting to world leaders, even with putins threat to not get involved 🤦‍♀️ well that's that out the window...anxiety up. He then tried to play it down because he knows im nervous by saying don't worry it'll be fine, the news always exaggerates. We'll that makes it no easier. Sorry to be a downer on a Sunday morning!

I just wondered how you are? I came on here to see if anyone else is feeling similar.. I go to bed with awful images in my head.. Things I've seen on the news but also made up scenarios in my head. It doesn't help does it. I'm going to try a news free day.. Also to try and focus on all the good. Try and watch/read something funny or happy before bed. Also to try and remember that at the moment we are OK and to cherish that. Hope you're OK x

Hi libby feeling calmer today. I find if I watch the news before bed I have images of those poor children in bunkers and the deaths, its just so awful. Then my mind turns to my family and its just so upsetting. Now I don't read the news before bed and think of something else so I can sleep OK. It is worrying and it's just so awful. I've seen a few threads with people really worried and alot of the comments have been really helpful. It doesn't take away the anxiety fully but does help. I hope your OK x

Hi OP, I completely understand how terrifying this is. I couldnt have kids but I have a dog who I adore and my biggest fear is him being harmed as he is so dependent on us and there is little I can do to protect him. I am aware this must be so much worse if you have kids to worry about and of course they are frightened themselves.
Truth is I feel ok ish during the day and then at night everything plays round my head. I am barely sleeping. I know stepping back from social media and the news would help me but at the same time I am worried about not knowing what’s going on. So last night, was discussing with DH what to do, as he has been feeling similar. We decided to get our news just from the radio for the next few days. That way we are still getting updated eg on the unlikely event of Putin launching nuclear attack, but there are non of the upsetting images. Might be worth a go for you too. Sadly this isn’t going away soon so we all need to get out heads round it and continue with life the best we can

Yes I'm struggling to think about anything else. It's like we have the potential worst outcomes hanging over us and we have to hold on and wait to hear if it is going to come to that or not. I am struggling to get on with the day to day living like this. I feel immense guilt that I have brought children into this world

Listening to the radio is a good idea actually. I'll try that. Some days there are news feeds that seem to be promising and then a few hours later there's something worse on there. I just could not imagine living how they are right now it's so sickening.
Magic fox that's exactly how it feels almost like we are waiting for something. My dp firmly believes nothing will happen and if it does there will be appropriate steps to protect us and the most that will happen are costs going up I do hope he's right.

It’s scaring me too. Very worrying that this could turn into WW3. Why on earth anyone wants to kill people and destroy our planet is beyond me. I think Putin is mentally unstable as is that North Korea leader. My son has just turned 18 so I’m very worried.

Op that instinct to protect your children is why mad won't happen.
It's the most powerful instinct on earth the preservation of the human race.
People around Putin have loved one's, including Putin himself.

How is everyone feeling? I'm feeling a bit more calmer these past few days.
@papertyger that really is true.

Well the calmness didn't last. I've just read we are only a few steps away from nuclear war and China is helping Russia with weapons. Is this a true source or am I reading rubbish? I felt calmer because I'd been reading things were not going so well for russia and there were positive talks etc. I finally thought this was starting to settle but as soon I read the news that stares me in the face....I wish I wasn't so anxious but I can't help it. On the upside my ds seems to be alot calmer now. He's not mentioned it too much now and has said he's not been reading the news. So I'm glad he's not feeling so anxious now. I haven't mentioned my worry infront of my dc.

I just hope that no other power country joins Russia in this attack against Ukraine. At least from the info I receive Ukrainians are still standing strong in defending their country and all the financial and materialistic support they get is much needed. But the media narration is also feeding to my anxiety and i try to keep away as much as possible. I just try to be informed on the current events but don't want to over-consume.

China does not want to poke the west in the eye because they sell so many goods to us. Looks as though they are sitting on the fence a bit out of self-interest.

There was a few positive stories in the week such as peace talks, Russia running our of weapons etc. Then I turned to Channel 4 and there's a documentary on putins nuclear war. I've had to turn it off its scared me hearing what some of them said. I've also read about putin doing a nuclear drill and hiding his family...does this mean its coming. I don't think I've ever been so anxious if I'm honest.

Well these past few weeks I was feeling quite optimistic even when reading the news until today....where one news sites headline was nuke alert Russia set to deploy a nuke!! Wtf! Now my mind is everywhere.

What on earth are these sites you're reading?! I've listened to the news on Radio 4 once today and skimmed the Guardian app and nothing about imminent nuclear war.

Try try try to step away from the black hole of the internet, it's not good for you💐

The news site wasn't a site I searched for it was when I clicked on my browser it comes up with news channels underneath, such as breaking news etc. It was under there. I did click on it and skimmed it but tried not pay too much attention. It was the headline that stood out to me.
I think o do need to take another break to be honest...Internet is not always a good place.

It's just the news sites scaremongering OP. Russia have been testing a new weapon which is capable of carrying nuclear weapons, it doesn't mean they are nuking us. I'd try and stay away from the crappy online papers which have these awful irresponsible headlines.
I'm not dismissing your fears though as I honestly do know how you feel, the whole thing terrified me in the early days too.

Here you go OP... Got this from Daily Mail, after reading past the crappy headline:

Rogozin said in an interview with Russian state TV that the missiles would be deployed with a unit in the Krasnoyarsk region of Siberia, about 1,860 miles east of Moscow. He said they would be placed at the same sites and in the same silos as the Soviet-era Voyevoda missiles they are replacing, something that would save 'colossal resources and time'.

So basically they are just saying that they will be positioning (deploying) these new weapons in Russia, not that they are using them. Hope that helps calm your fears a little!