Does anyone think its odd that as fewere peopel go to church

[pedro]

oyu get more of this slithgly odd public mournign flowers byt the road lighting candles thing

I find it hard to understand how people find it comforting, I don't, I can't read it all, it's not comforting, it's slightly morbid.

And maybe Pedro is right about the church thing, some people still have that need for collective emoting - some people do absorb themselves in other people's tragedy, like the constant stream of 'oh no daddy' books always on the best seller lists.

If you really want to make a difference, donate to childline, become a volunteer, be nice to other people.

LOL at amaqnda
my nate said" hed be realyl pleased his songs are at numebr one"
arfarfarf

At least he is getting out of the house naily - and lots of older people like to go to church every day anyway....

yes i am
theyll farkign tag me next
anyway the song ahtta chic sang is one of it.

Competitive grief - errrr what a gross thought.

I'd like to think of it as people uniting in their grief ad their concern tbh.

I'm not getting involved as I feel for the family very much but don't feel the need to spend my whole day thinking about it and worrying. I don't want to begin to go there. But somepeople can't help it and need to talk to others who feel teh same.

I'm happy to let them get on with helping each other and not judging them or thinking of them as being cometitive with each other over who feesl the worst, that's an awful thought and I prefer not to think of people in such a way.

I like to see the good in people tbh.

i cant say bum flaps

shhhhhhhhhhhhhhh>

i cannto call epoele the f word or the f word( hte other one - think jonno coleman)

Boco i SO AGREE with you

what is with all these books?? i just couldnt read them, sorry

I've lit candles in church for mners before now instead of on the websites people link to cos that's where I do my praying etc

thing about flowers on roadside etc is that everyone can see it

you can't see a prayer

Not a lot of "live and let live" on MN unfortunately TC.

Have to say that I have been affected by events in Portugal. But not irrationally so I don't think - I check the news regularly to see if they have found her but don't listen to all the media speculation. Have posted on a few of the threads on there. Have lit an candle. Have said a few prayers.

Obv some people feel it more than others for whatever reason. But I have to say the I feel quite sickened at the moment by MN. People accusing others of not having a life if they post on the threads. Mocking people who have lit candles or said a prayer. Horrible thread about reading to your own child instead of going on about Madeleine. All totally unecessary.

Think I'll leave MN alone for a while - it is just depressing me. Some people are never done criticising others.

i think vom is under review

I had to tell people at work to politely go away today as they were all at it

analysing etc

why did she leave them, would you blah blah blah

go away, you don't even have children so WHY ARE WE HAVING THIS DISCUSSION??????

And I turned all the papers in the staff room to the sports pages so I didn't have to look at "anguished" parent photos

I'm with you toatally Buda. And it's a shame people can't just live and let live.

my thread is not horrible!

It may seem a bit snidey now but it was started with the most positive of intentions!

make em into confetti

but Capp

why do you have to have something to see?

Perhaps in the UK - dont know.

Certainly in Greece (many more Orthodox etc) they mark the side of the road wherever an accident has occured with a cross.

So perhaps its a 'trend' rather than filling a spiritual gap?

Fio - No it doesn't but if they had put flowers down would it have meant they cared too much over someone they didn't know?

What does it matter?

If someone wants to grieve or worry or talk about concern, just let them. (not addressed to you Fio just a general comment)