Does anyone think its odd that as fewere peopel go to church

[pedro]

oyu get more of this slithgly odd public mournign flowers byt the road lighting candles thing

dh said exactly this last week

(you and he are as one)

we are
blardy lighting candles fgs

How do you mean more of it. That's always happened hasn't it. Not sure how that can be linked to less people going to church?

no, people are filling void that was previously filled by going to church by inventing their own ritualistic spirituality.

ps i don't do either.

lack of religiona nd fith yet peopel belive all kidsn of crap

are oyu wakign int he night worrying baout a child( lovelya nd alla nd so so sad0 that oyu haev NEEVER MET

i read that as lack of religion and filth!

that too
cleanlines and all

agree totally. people used to turn to God in these situations... in the absence of that they sign condolence books....

Pedro not sure what you mean here. Are yo saying that it's not right to display public diplays of grief in the form of flowers or candles. Flowers have been part of Funerals for ever.
Surely because you don't do either means you don't believe in it but many people do both or just one. If it gives people comfort it's harmless and it shows we care imo.

oh ok.

But you're not really waking at night thinking of that child are you, behind it all is the fear of losing your own. I'm not talking about myself here but of how others see it. Also thre is nothing like grief to unite a community.

but the weddng photos would be so lovely outside a church Fio

or divide in mns case i just think the folk whoc aome out onto mn at this time are the realyl weird ones

You can light a candle and pray at the same time. You don't have to be good enough to go to church to pray. Or to believe in God.

I find it bizzare too.

by us there is a spot on a bridg where someone got killed but the family havent let go for about 2 years and theres new flowers and decorations up there every month. I find this sad because they have nothing else to turn to and eventually you have to let go no matter how hard.

Well I was brought up Catholic but only enter churches for weddings and funerals these days. Have issues with "organised" religon. However - I do still have faith and find comfort in the little that I do.

Have found myself praying for that little girl who was abducted. And have lit a candle in hopes of her safe return. And I have woken up worrying what she and her parents are going through.

Just makes me human I think.

And you can imagine what other people are going through, and feel for them. And you can certainly feel for a child, whether you know the child personally or not.

but everyone handles grief differently if people get comfort form it then why do other people judge it as weird?

Also you may not have the sot of belief where you go to church every week but in times of grief, worry etc etc the majority of people turn to God even if it's only to say 'please God let her be safe' or whatever it is. And if you are so moved to do so and want to deal with the feeling of worry you are experiencing what better way than to go to church with like minded people and reflect for an hour? Seems an obvious thing to do.

i find professional funeral attenders even more bizarre

my town is full of them - FIL is one. reads the deaths in the paper and says "oh i remember that chap - used to live 3 streets away and travelled on my bus once 24 years ago - i better go to the funeral"

lol.