'MSbP, Lost Mothers 3'

[kalex]

A new thread for Bunglie, Cheeseball, Spudbrain and Postsue.

With my love and best wishes to them all.

God I sound like a greeting card

Dare I mention the nice peaceful family day out on 28th August in London, a nice mumsnet meet-up, at a rally in Trafalgar Sq. at 2pm?

Go on let me tell you all about it,or I could start a new thread dedicated to 'Hunt Bunglie' in London?

IKNT - I am 'gobsmacked' What a story you have to tell, and yet still be sane at the end, wow, I feel as if you are putting us all to shame. You obviously have the best interests of your children at heart, (unlike our legal system), you have suppoted and helped your children and found them professional support as wel. I do hope that it works out for them and they are not too scarred by all of this. How frightening to find your dd self-harming, I am glad that things are better now and that with your support the trauma of the past will heal the wounds of your family.

Thought you would like to know, Cheeseball has moved out to a place where a partner can no longer hurt her, emotionally or physically -I hope that with the counselling she will now get, she will learn that she did not deserve it and that she finds the self respect that we know she has and that this is the start of a wonderful chapter of her life.
Spudbrain is a 'scubber'- sorry that is what she told me to post, she is busy cleaning her new bedsit and already made friends with a neighbour who is helping her. Apparently the place is really nice and has a lot of potential, as she says she has a lot of stuff to fill it with so I hope she enjoys setting up her new home. She can apply apparently for a grant for furnishings and wonders if anyone has any info on this?

GOOD LUCK Spudbrain and Cheeseball XX

(Still can't get that baked potato out of my mind!! )

Hi all.
Thank you for your kind words all you mumsnet chat/posters, its not often we hear nice genuine words and wishes from other people makes a person feel good inside ..
Friends are God's way of taking care of us, a little bit of trivia there to brighten a day..

My daughter reads the posts with me if she's visiting and asked me to post this word for word ash wrote it down... thank you all from the bottom of my heart... We are fighters, and will fight till the end... if there is ever to be an end from this sharade of false accusations..
And Hi all, thank you for the kindness you show my mother... it has been a strength to her, long awaited and much needed....
oh and by the way for information only...
I don't suffer from insanity; I enjoy every minute of it hahaha (InnKogNeeToe's angel )
Just kidding, about the insane remark ...

Oh I almost forgot.. about some intresting information I found out from the country im in now.. I have searched, questioned and googled for information from one end of the country to another.. and there are only a handfull of cases here ever been accused of MSBP, they all still have their children, and were assesed over a 6 month period and cleared of the label.. thats it all Over .. I was amazed at this so searched to find out why.. as the munch bunch et al work here from time to time... and guess what it is?? The family court here is an open one... not one case of MSBP suspition has ever got to the court.. WOW..

Bunglie Re the info regarding a grant, im emailing it to you.. dont think much has changed...

stay happy all
take care and be safe..
InnKogNeeToe

IKNT So so sorry to hear your story too, but relieved to hear that you have in your own way beaten the system. I hope one day you and your whole family will be able to live'normal' lives were ever you choose.

The comments about your childrens distress were heart rendering and i was wondering whether it would be a good idea to set up a forum, here on anyone else just for the children to communicate with each other, after all they must feel so alone and isolated with their feelings and fears and to be able to share those feelings with others must go a long way to help, what does everyone else think!! Clearly any other kids that have had to suffer this awful travesty may feel free to share too!!

I agree that it is a great great idea to donate any stuff that we may all have for people like Spudbrain and Cheeseball, i for one am ofter clearing stuff out and would love to get them to less anonymous causes for once. Clothes, shoes, books, furniture, household items bric a brac for making a home etc?

Bunglie not ignoring you about the rally but due to have a baby the week before so wont be able to make this one but will be with you all in spirit.

Bunglie, Spudbrain might be able to apply to the Social Fund for a Community Care Grant (not repayable) or a Budgeting Loan (repayable over a period of time). These are available to people on income support or jobseeker's allowance. She should apply through her local benefits agency.

Thanks for the info Freckle, I shall pass it on.

Sleeplessmum2be, Please accept this posting as an official (in triplicate, if you look at it 3 times!), As Permission not to attend THE PEACEFUL RALLY. In fact I would like to add that I would be very pleased to know that at 2pm, on the 28th AUGUST whilst we are all at TRAFALGAR Sq. you will be sat at home, with your feet up and your dh will be running around pampering to your every whim.
As you are sat there relaxing, (and you will relax 'cos Bunglie says so, so tell dh this!!) that you think of nothing but happy thoughts of the impending delivery of your little one. As you are now officially exempt, this is not an excuse for your waters to break and for you to go into labour early, 'cos I wont be here to read all about the wonderful birth you are going to have and the arrival of your little one, so please no early delivery! I really hope that all goes well and I wish you the very best and hope that this is a wonderful experience for all.
Love Bunglie XX

Now I don't want any misunderstandings here......
SM2B is exempt....with the best reason in the world.
You may have noticed that I put one or two words in capitals, Like,
28th AUGUST, 2pm, Trafalgar Sq. PEACEFUL RALLY, I should not like you to think anything other than the fact that I WAS plugging the RALLY again!
Please please, will you all have a think about it? I just aprove of the motives behind this rally, not only is it NOT a demo, but it is for all mothers, seperated for whatever reason from their children. I know that the organisers have had real publicity problems, so if you can't go, please would you pass the info on.
We could turn it into a London MNers meet-up, you don't have to stay all day, well 2-6pm, just half an hour, their is so much to do in London, Children REALLY are welcome and just think, you may even see me. I am working on the disguise. What do you recon about turning my electric buggy into a Dalek, or even the Batmobile, I could then where a silly hood and mask and my Knickers outside my tights.....no one would notice me then! .

I will try not to plug it again.....can't promise though.....

Just realised what I put in my previous posting, sorry I did not mean to imply that it is only mothers seperated from their children who are welcome. Everyone is welcome, the rally is in support of those mothers seperated for whatever reason.
But then you are n intelligent lot and I guess you had worked that out, but I just wanted to clarify it.

I didn't mention the 'R' word, so I didn't really mention it....

IKNT
If you need anything whatever, consider my name in complete confidence for any request however bizarre or leftfield
Your tale as well as others I have read here, enrages an make me weep with the seep effing injustice of it
When oh when oh sodding when WILL THEY put the children first and ask, listen and LEARN!!
And as for Southall
Give me strength, what a joke of a verdict for the damage he has wreaked

And if he we have not moved house by then I and ds and dd will attend the rally also!

Just trying to catch up.

Sounds familiar.

But been incognito (dorry for the pun INCOFNEETOE)
My land line has been caput (bast*s 20p in the swear jar bunglie!!!!!!!!!!) for 3 weeks.

Just trying to find incogneetoes first posting and will catch up soon..

Luv postsue

Hi Cheeseball, glad to hear that you and spudbrain are doing okay (and have managed to resist bunglie's suggestion of combining to become a baked potato!) hope your first excursion into mass catering is a roaring success!

cheeseball and postsue, great to hear from you, cheeseball I could post you some coathangers (have billions) or would that be a bit OTT??? (Hope your dinner for dozens went well! )

So happy to here from you Cheesie. Anything you need, you let us know, the POWER of mn lives.

When you next see Spud u ask 4 a hug and then after she has 2 ask u. And after you can say it's from me

Kalex

Postsue, love 2 u 2. kalex,

and you just need to let us know if u need anything.

Well finally read most of the postings since i have been in non telephone exile. phew that was hard and i'm sweating buckets, and that not because i have just challenged a 9 year old to a dance mat competition but i still won (he he he he he ) cann't say that to her coz she will cry.

Cheeseball and Spud brain well congrats hope all is and that it will go well 4 you, and i am soooooooo glad you have now found each other. It makes all the difference. The mumsnetters here are a tower of strength and i would have probably fallen apart by now on my own but having someone who knows just what you are feeling is magical.

Incogneetoe, (probably spelt it wrong) i am glad you have managed to find this site. Like you i managed somehow to get my daughter back. I then went on to have 2 more children with sporadic SS involvement. (feeling like your every move is under a microscope. I would be happy to hear from you personally and could do through bunglie. OOOPPPSSS bunglie i hope you don't mind me mentioning you as a go between.

Just got back from holiday myself, nothing as exotic or distant as australia but the wonderful county of bedford. Cow's Sheep and roundabouts........................ Timeout for a few days, does wonders for the headache...

Need to get 2 to bed and persuade 1 not want to go online. Will be watching and posting (firewall permitting.................. got hijacked on the computer and has cost a foutune.)

Oh and by the way Knickers or thongs?????????????????????????????????????????

They ate it!!!!!
I cooked (not on my own, one of the other women helped me) Chicken Chaseaux and rice (I think it's posh chicken in a white sauce, but we are not alowed alcohol here so it didn't have the white wine in!
For desert, I did this bit all on my own.....Angel Delight, (butterscotch flavour, my choice 'cos it my fav.

It is good here, I have my own little room, share a bathroom, but that's OK and a counsellor comes in once a week, so you can talk to them about things.

Spuddy is doing OK to, but she can't get a telephone put in as the previous person left a lot of debts or something so she relies on her mobile and its not cheap. She says hello and will get to the library as soon as she can but she says she is so busy just sorting out things.

Have to give this back now, (laptop) but will post later in the week.

I will give her that hug Kalex and thankyou everyone.

I like the idea of posting coathangers Janh, but the girls here tell me the best place is the local charity shop or matalan, whatever that is?

Thanks again and love to all, oh and a big thank you to all those who have written to your MP's and the Hodge woman...keep them flowing

Lots of love again from cheesy and spuddy XX

cheesy, can't tell you how good it is to hear you sounding happy and funny and not frightened any more.

Chicken thing and butterscotch pud sound great!

They are right about Matalan for coathangers but those are generally out of town-ish so you'll need a lift. Charity shop might be better. (Or else pound shops have those ones where you can hang about 6 things on one hanger.) But anything we can help with we would love to, you know that?

Postsue, no denying it you've been reading my knicker thread!!!!

Well the answer is Knickers all the way girls, pull 'em up and tuck 'em in your bra

We know Beety wears thongs nah nah nah nah nah!

Sorry to hear of your probs with the telephone line etc postsue....You should have told them how urgent it was they fixed it as mumsnet is a lifeline to you!!!!

So glad all is going well for everyone, will post more in the morning.....I'm off to bed, and I shall dream of your butterscotch Angel
Delight, my favourite flavour too Cheeseball!
Hugs to all Bunglie XX

I think I may have posted this earlier last week, not sure, but I would really like to know about something called, 'The Deapartment of Constitutional Affairs' ?
An email from my MP mentioned that they are 'addressing concerns about adoption and Wardship proceedings'. It sounds as if they could be a useful source of help, but I can not find any info. about them I understand! I did google them, but ended up more confused. Is there anyone who understands these things and can explain it to this Bunglie, of very little brain......please?