AFTER THE PIT BULL THREAD ADVICE NEEDED DESPERATLY...

[kittylette]

i need advice,

BIL and SIL have a rotweiller/alsation cross, its huge,

theyve just had a baby son

weve told them the dangers (shouldnt have to really) but they sent a pic of the tiny baby lay across the front paws of the dog

i have two sons and havent visted them for 2 years because i wont allow them near the dog

in my pre-kids days the dog attacked me, tried to bite me BIL had to physically beat the dog to subdue it away from me,

its not a nice dog

im fear for the safety of my nephew

should i phone someone?

social serices?

i dont want to but how would i feel if something happened?

when you first meet the dog, you have to sit low down on the floor with your arms crossed and not give it eye contact

surely thats not right?

sjould a dog like that be near a bay?

they say is soft as anytning, its a big baby

Kittylette be careful my sisters alastian died after eating slug pellets that her neighbour put in their garden. Make sure you do not leave any slug pellets (easily available at garden centres) where this dog might ingest them.
I agree that this is not your responsibility, you can't prevent an attack. I hope that it never comes to that.

Goodasgold would never advocate killing a healthy happy dog, but there are some dogs that will never be happy.

no real advice, just to say, i feel for you kittylette and think there's amazing support for you here (well done mumsnetters) but i guess thats cold comfort when your SIL isn't responding and youre still concerned about your nephew

i hope youre not too down and wanted to send you some positive vibes - keep your chin up and sometimes all we can do is trust that things will work out for the best (sorry to sound all noel edmonds with the cosmic vibe thingy! but sometimes i think positivity does work in a funny way) xx

Kitty

have you heard from you sil?

hope you are ok

no, still no reply and no phone call, since spoke to her but didnt mention the dog

i dunno whether to ring her

im sure she wouldve checked her email by now, i think shes just offended

if she was so offended, she wouldn't talk to you at all, no?
maybe she knows your concerns are valid

What a terrible situation for you. Could you perhaps persuade your SIL to get in a dog training/behaviour expert under the pretext of 'setting your mind at rest'. i.e. make it more about you, rather than about them or their dog, iykwim. They might be more persuaded by a neutral outsider who is an expert, than by a 'neurotic' friend. (I don't think you're at all neurotic by the way!!).

I'm assuming the doggy expert would make it very clear to them that they have a potentially very dangerous situation on their hands. On the other hand, he/she might at least come up with effective training strategies which might leave you with a little more peace of mind.

You could even offer to pay for the session(s) (if that's an option for you). That way you would be able to give the trainer the whole unadulterated background of aggression.

What's happened with this dog?

Do you know, I wondered about that too.