Luna you are in denial, unfortunately, and no matter what your husband has empirically reported to you, that the majority of refugees coming are family groups with women and children: according to the UNHCR, that's just simply not the case.
And whilst Syrians make up the bulk of refugees coming through the Mediterranean (though they are, of course, not coming from the Syrian coastline but the Turkish one, and often from refugee camps or resettlement within Turkey: in which case, legally and technically, they are actually no longer refugees), there are more than double that amount of refugees/migrants in Europe from Kosovo alone.
But this isn't actually a thread about refugees, no matter how much you've tried to turn it in to one. It's not a thread about "sending them all back where they come from" or racism or anti-immigration. It's a thread that acknowledges the tensions and problems inherent within this particular set of attacks, and is questioning the way to respond and preserve, protect and advance women's rights in a changing cultural milieu.
What is heartening for me is that so many people have participated in this thread since Monday, with so many thoughtful and enlightening responses. (And as a side, I am also pleased to see many Guardian readers commenting that they are finally at the end of their tether with the paper's hypocritical double-speak!)