Wasn't there a general consensus that we were going to try and steer clear of upsetting news stories?

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OK - I'll admit I'm feeling particularly sensitive today but there are currently two really upsetting thread titles in active convos. Didn't post on either as a) I didn't want to read them and b)it would have put them back up the top

Greeny and Hunk - thank you - you are saying all the things I wish I'd had the brain power to say when I started this thread. I am lousy at getting my point across.

Do you discuss thes things in RL, do you all sit round having coffee discussing the lastest child abuse case. We tend to discuss whats going on in our own lives, political issues, local news etc.

wot greeny said.

This is local news to someone Skribble .

grotesque virtual Tupperware party

now that is a visual that makes me laugh

But Dior I so agree. I very often avoid the news because it's so upsetting and depressing but I know I can't always avoid a harrowing headline. If I go in W H Smith for House Beautiful chances are I'll see a headline on the newstand.

I was on holiday when 911 happended - just turned on the tv and there it was, unavoidable, no way of wrapping it up.

I just think it's totally unreasonable to reach every poster with this request and even if you did to assume that all of them will accommodate the request and all these endless 'please don't do this or that' threads are getting to me!

Yes of course it is local to someone, then let them all sit around saying how terrible it is. Or post things on the net like my neighbours son has been assulted what can I do to help her out or should I stay away just now?

This is a public forum and as I asked before where do we draw the line on upsetting title threads , are we to do it in other subject matters ?

for folk who eschew sensationalism you seem to be doing pretty well with your own graphic scenario

This is a public forum and as I asked before where do we draw the line on upsetting title threads , are we to do it in other subject matters ?

Like what, Mummydear?

I dont know -I asked the question.

Jools, there's one problem with having a graphic imagination - which is one of the reasons I don't want to see thread titles with the whole gory truth in them - I automatically imagine it.

Then no, just in news stories where there's no debate, just endless the whole way up the thread.

Me too Hunk. I got a graphic image of how devastated my family would be if ds was hurt in that way. I felt a genuine anger and hatred for someone who could hurt my son. That is what upsets me. I know I am too sensitive, but better that IMHO than inconsiderate.

And isn't it great that it has been replaced by endless discussion of the title instead. I really hope that the mother isn't a lurking MNer.

People do do it in other subject matters already, md. Just not in News, it seems.

Which is precisely why we are having to have this 'discussion'.

So what if people get upset when they see a posting in Miscarriage subject matter.

Knowing that the subject is on the forum do we tell them dont look , if title threads are not be be upsettin gon one subject matter then it should apply across the board.

what upsets one person doesnot upset another .

People post on the MC forum because they want support.

The 8yo thread is not for support.

The titles we are talking about are the graphic ones merely there for the shock factor.

I think you are being deliberately obtuse now, md.

As has been said many times before on this thread: there is a world of difference between someone posting upsetting details of something that has actually happened to them, asking for advice, support, kind words, whatever - and people picking out the most horrific stories they can find from their local rag and posting them up on here with nary an explanation, simply hoping for a reaction.

this is about thread titles isn't ?

I may see an thread title in Miscarraige and get upset, for example a title similar to 'I lost my DD 10 years ago today ' , thats pretty upsetting , so I dont go and open up the thread.

Miscarriage threads are different because

Do people post the grimmest details they can muster in the Miscarriage section though, just for the sake of it? Not seeking support or solace, or advice, just for "information", because it's horrible and some people have an urge to spread anything horrible as widely as possible?

I don't believe people can't see the difference. Of course they can. They don't want to stop doing this, because they enjoy it.

If you want to stimulate yourself into a state of frenzied ecstasy for the sheer pleasure of it, go and do it in private like everybody else