Sorry, but my children bore me to death!

[MrsBigD]

Not meaning to start a major debate here (that already seems to be happening on the articles own board), just thought it was quite well written and touching on one of the things 'us bad mums' don't dare bring up... imho she's a bit extreme in her attitude but simultaneously have to admit that I have had some of the thoughts myself at times

here is the article

Mrs JC, wouldn't say though that there is a difference between "attacking" someone whose parenting methods differ from your own and recognising that someone is lacking in such an indesputable manner? You wouldn't say for example that a mother who abused her children just had a different parenting style would you?

MrsBigD, I'm sure Virginia Ironside didn't mean 5mo babies. I read that more as her meaning the kind of parent who hands a newborn over to a maternity nurse as soon as they get home from hospital, so they can get to the gym and back into their size 8 jeans...

what's a size 8 jeans???

she's going to be on Richard and Judy tonight (hope someone can see it and post what she's like!)

'she tells Richard and Judy why she thinks mothers are over devoting themselves to their children'

Oh God, I have it on while I'm cooking dinner. I'm going to be throwing pans at the TV aren't I?!

I'm not sure I can bear to watch.

Classic! "Over-devoting" themselves.

How short-sighted of them...don't they know the little parasites are only out for what they can get? Give it 20 years and they'll be off .... [tut..rolls eyes]

poor kids. imagine reading an article like that about yourself. how hurtful.

yes, they can be tiring sometimes, but fgs, how about being adult about it and keeping that part out of worldwide publication?

I just can't get over this 'boring' business. Yes, doing some of the things they want to wouldn't be our own choice of activity but does this woman not enjoy seeing her children enjoy them?? Does she not talk to them?? My children are the most entertaining people I know - they are hilarious, cheeky, charming and such fun. Yes they are utterly exhausting but no way would I choose shopping over a school play. That's unforgivable imo and I feel very sorry for her children.

Oh, and if she can't manage shopping, nice clothes, make up, having hair and nails done along with enjoying her children she needs some serious time management lessons. It's not that hard.

Especially considering the nanny, GDG! What a waste of space. Instead of parp I'm going to moo.

kittywits, you're right, I 'wouldn't say for example that a mother who abused her children just had a different parenting style'. that's not really what I'm talking about here - and I'm not really defending her either as you'll see from my other posts - I think she sounds dreadful

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I was thinking about that Dior. It didn't make sense. Then I wondered whether it was the long term slog of parenting that gets to these people. What I mean is that you can have a cute lttle baby and toddler, then maybe another, pass them over to the nanny, then realise that they're not going to go away . Could that be it?

I was thinking about that Dior. It didn't make sense. Then I wondered whether it was the long term slog of parenting that gets to these people. What I mean is that you can have a cute lttle baby and toddler, then maybe another, pass them over to the nanny, then realise that they're not going to go away . Could that be it?

I agree with expat it was majorly insensitive to plaster it all over the papers.My mum was that sort of parent and now that I have a ds I can't believe how little she bothered with us and it does have an effect which in our family is still causing trauma even now.nasty woman

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If we were really over devoting ourselves - we wouldn't need a nanny if we stopped would we?

So did anyone else watch this ridiculous woman fawning all over the sofa on Richard & Judy? She is obviously and successfully just after publicity and though of the most shocking headline she could. Worse was her poor boy, sat on the sofa beside her, suitably embarrassed and trying to justify his silly mare of a mother.

Of course it isn't all singing and dancing but from what she was saying (children allowed to be up all night, interrupting her dinner parties - how very dare they, expecting to be entertained constantly) she is a crap mother anyway.

Often I leave dts to play themselves, how else are they going to use their imagination? I interact, but I don't take over their playtime, she sounded like she didn't know how to mother just smother. Yes routines and the such can be tedious but if she hasn't the imagination or intelligence to think about other things while doing them then she is a very boring person herself. She has taken a very valid point and completely ruined it with going too extreme.

Loved the attitude of the child psychologist to her. Heehee.

I just want to say that I am mum to 4 people, all grown up now. Being a mum is the best thing that I ever did, I am certain that I wouldn't be half the person that I am now if I hadn't of had kids. Of course at times it was boring (and still can be!) but doesn't anything of value call for hard work, and can't boredom and tedium be elements of any type of work? I am naturally on the shy side so parents evenings / school plays / sports days etc were often dreaded but more than made up for to see my childrens pride in taking part and their enjoyment, which gave me a huge sense of achievment. To me there is so much more to being a parent than the nonsense that was in the article. It's about building a family and all of the relationships and values that are integral to that. One of my greatest joys and blessings is having 2 grandchildren that are very much part of my life. I am still watching my family grow and develop and still growing and learning myself. Oh yes, I work full time and have a university education!

spot on, daisyroots.
I actually like my children, and find them interesting. At least one of them is cleverer than me

I think this woman is perhaps confusing her children with toys.

toys or accessories!!!!!!!!!!

I considered the possibility of depression when I first read it, and then I reread the article and concluded that she isn't suffering from depression at all. She's just selfish, emotionally stunted and shallow. She's as happy as a pig in shit, with her nanny doing all the work and her life revolving around money, attention-seeking in the media and pampering herself.

It's her children who are likely to end up dogged by depression in their adult lives.

what a disgrace of a mother...yes we all can get bored with the endless times we have to play certain games but isn't that the joy of being a parent? I cannot even imagine my children going to 'big school' where somebody else is constantly teaching them different things. I love that fact that I say things and the twins pick it up..I love how I can sit and read and talk to my children and they learn so much. I would hate it for somebody else to have to do that at the moment. Its all very well hiring a nanny..but the comment she made about having her nanny stay till the children go to bed so that SHE doesn't have to read them a story is disgraceful. What is the point in having children..infact what is the point in having two? If she found one so boring then why bother having another one?
How upsetting for her two boys. I couldn't imagine having a mother like that. Children shouldn't be boring they are fascinating little people. I really feel as if I just want to pick them up and give them a cuddle. She doesn't deserve them. There are so many people desperate for children that cannot have them she is taking their little lives for granted!

Gobbledigook, you took the words right out of my mouth, just after reading that article I was listening to my DS(2.6) talking to my MIL and was just falling about laughing at the things he was saying, and my dd 15wks was giggling at the leaves on the trees and her grins were just filling my heart. Children are hardwork, sometimes mundane and downright exhausting, but boring, never, never, never! (christ, i wish mine were more boring) You only get out of them what you put in. What I found particularly offensive was her pride in these stupid statements and the lack of consideration for the psychological damage this could do to her children.