Sorry, but my children bore me to death!

[MrsBigD]

Not meaning to start a major debate here (that already seems to be happening on the articles own board), just thought it was quite well written and touching on one of the things 'us bad mums' don't dare bring up... imho she's a bit extreme in her attitude but simultaneously have to admit that I have had some of the thoughts myself at times

here is the article

What gets me is when she tries to claim that it's because she is how she is that her children are imaginative or creative or whatever.

Part of me wants to scream "and just think what they could have been if you had been even a little bit interested".

And this isn't another mother we met in the street that we are judging - this is someone who has paraded herself through the media. If she can be paid for her opinion, then surely I can comment on it for free.

In part, I agree with the article. Having kids is the most monotonous, stressful, tiring thing I've ever done. I feel like the person I used to be is lost somewhere under a pile of plastic toys and sicky laudry. I do think my marriage has suffered a little (as she says is likely to happen in the article). However, it's the most fantastic, rewarding, amazing thing I've ever done, too and I wouldn't change a thing. She might discover that, if only she spent some time with them perhaps? I feel sorry for her and I feel badly for her children. I don't know why she had them. I wonder what she'd do if she couldn't afford a nanny.

couldn't be bothered reading to the end of the article as it is so dull but what do you expect from the Daily Mail. The usual drivel.

I've had another thought - if she wasn't rich enough for a nanny then it would just be neglect.

my dd had toothache in the midle of Pirates OTC. i told her to shurrup. how can you not enjoy johnny depp and orlando?

(1) I wonder who her hubby was legging it off to the pub to avoid?
(2) Can you imagine getting stuck next to someone like her at a dinner party, whose greatest concern is whether her shoes match her skirt and which shade her next set of highlights should be? Dull dull dull dull dull. And we have a couple of obsessive "gym mommies" round here. Beautiful bodies, heads full of pure fresh country air.
(3) Our kids are little for such a minute proportion of our lifetimes. I would hate to miss it and regret it later. No-one loves them as much as we do, so if we don't convey that to them, then no-one else will. And they don't know you love them just because you say so - they (mostly) are smarter than that.

Hmmmm which colour should my next set of highlights be?

I wouldn't think it would be much more boring than sitting next to a housewifey type who worries about such things like whether giving a fruit shoot to their child is the biggest bad mother crime someone could commit!

I don't see how you can get bored of your children if you work like that woman in the article does? HOW? One good thing about the holidays is that they can stay up later so I get to spend more time with my LO.

Am I a lazy, superficial person because I don't enjoy packing up their sports kit, or making their lunch, or sitting through coffee mornings with other mothers discussing how Mr Science (I can't remember most of the teachers' names) said such and such to Little Johnny and should we all complain to the headmaster YES YES YESYOU ARE !!!

wtf did not read too much more --sure her son and she was on richard and judy the other day for some piffle was not moaning about them then was she?
WHY HAVE KIDS IF NOT INTERESTED IN BEING PART of there lifes that shapes their future
sorry if repeating other posters not read the whole thread --gotta go dd4 has just woke up!!

if having children has proved so bloody boring y go onto have another 1 surely by having 1 child a second makes it doubly boring, so not only will the 2 boys grow up possibly knowing they were not particulary wanted(i have worked as a nanny and found these so called educated rich bastards have children because its what one does next when one has the house in notting hill and the country cottage in cornwall, the flash car and career)but they have twatty names 2, poor sods.I wonder did she even give birth or did she pay some1 to do that 2!! SAD,SAD OLD BAG!!!!!

Bugsy2, surely the point is that while most of us find some aspects of motherhood tedious, not many of us would drag our children on tv and into the national press in order to make sure they are 100% aware of how boring their own mother (who surely should be the person gives them the most unconditional love) finds them. While most of us go to sometimes heroic lengths to conceal the the things that we do not enjoy for our childrens sakes, this woman has unashamedly used something that can only make her children unhappy as a tool for her own gain, good mothering! huh!

What a horrible mum that woman is!! (Calling her sons Ivan and Constatin don't help either)

Yeah, being a mum is boring, thankless, frustrating and repetetive at times, but how can she not enjoy seeing her kids do something that gives them joy, her examples of goung to the cinema or playing cricket!?!

Odd.

Those poor children
A) for having her as their Mum
B) for growing up to read what she said about them.
Even if you bloody think it- you never ever say it in my opinion.

my parents didn't come to my chosen activity which I did for years & years and excelled at. I was always the one being driven around and cheered on by other children's parents. It still makes me sad even today as it was so very important to me. No doubt my children will take up a hobby which bores me rigid! But I will make sure I take an active interest. I think you only find things boring if you don't understand the rules (which is why I hate cricket!) or you don't have any involvement

Every day 'mum' tasks aren't boring just monotonous, I think there's a difference

oh Teabags thats really sad!
What was it that you excelled at ?

chess

I was really into athletics

Good for you! Bet the some of the other parents who cheered you on wished you were theirs to be proud of!
Still, your kids will benefit from your own childhood misgivings

I havent read the whole article - it bored me. I assume this woman is beng a bit over the top for the sake of attracting attention. I will admit there are aspects of being a parent that are boring or to be more precise repetitive. For example I can't stand story time at the local library as I have been too many times. 'The wheels on the bus' now make my hair stand on end! But overall there are far more good than bad. Yes I find the repetition slightly dull particularly feeding time for some reason. But I absolutley love the little changes in my DDs development which only I would see. I think its very sad that this woman feels its ok to write an article which clearly identifies who her children are with no regard to their feelings. It only serves to reflect how selfish she is. I read about half the article and also felt sad about the way she she seemed to look down on women who did want to spend time with their children. It was as though she thought that anyone educated beyond A-levels are too superior to be caring for their children. I have a degree (which I worked very hard for) and have a job regarded as professional. But I certainly dont have my head so far up my own backside that I think it below myself to want to spend time with my DD. I love the time I have with her and the challenge of my job (work 3 days per week) and feel very lucky. The saddest thing is she seems so convoinced she is doing us all a big favour by revealing this supposed secret we all share about not wanting to be with our kids that she is overlooking the needs of her own children. My DH had the potential to be a very good athlete but his parents showed no interest or encouragement. Even to this day (he is nearly 40)he feels very sad about that. I am very happy to say that I will never be accused of the same thing which to be frank is way more imoprtant than getting my hair done.

I've been a 'stay at home mum' for 5 years now - I will return to work part-time at the end of August (dd is now 5 and ds is 3). I've had such stick from working mums I know about the fact that I've stayed at home as though I'm some kind of 1950's weird boring person who has nothing better to do then look after my kids (honestly that is the attitude I've had) - I'm sick to death of it. If they come over and i've done a home cooked dinner for my kids they're all 'ooooooh, look at you!!! you're so mumsy!!!' in a bitchy way....I've found motherhood hard enough being a relatively young mum and raising my kids abroad (netherlands) what is this shitty attitude that some working mothers have??? I think they think its pro-women's rights to be back at work and have their own lives which their children have to somehow slot into - but what about the right to choose to stay at home, why in our society is it so looked down on? Its hard enough being a mother without people making you feel as though you must be mad/thick/whatever for doing so....
I've personally loved being at home with them - yes its been hard and boring at times but I wouldn't have changed it for the world.

You're quiet right abroad. Personally I can't think of a more important job than staying at home to bring up your children. There is a good book by an American woman called Brenda Hunter and it's called " Home by choice". When I was struggling with my value as a SAHM I read this and it made me realise and understand just how important a job sahm's actually do. I think those women who make bitchy and condescending comments do so because deep down they feel that they are lacking as mothers. It is obvious that you do not need to attack someone if you feel secure about yourself and your position in life. So , you were cooking your children a homemade meal, which is nutitious and shows that you are happy to put that sort of effort in for your children. Your children will remember that as adults. What will the children of the bitchy mothers remember I wonder? You are the winner

quite right kittywits, i sometimes am made to feel that im missing out by not working, or that i should feel resentful for being at home with my children, but i do really enjoy it, and wouldnt rather be doing anything else.

Thanks Kittywits

I really think that staying at home has been the best thing for me and my children.

I do believe that mothers who want to return to work because they have to for financial reasons or because they just really really can't hack staying at home have every right to do that without critisism and I know it must be hard for them not to feel bad etc when they see/meet women who are at home - but to make 'stay at home mums' feel belittled even if its done in the name of underlying guilt is just really crap, do you know what I mean?

The very wise Aloha said that you take your very young children to things that interest you as just being with mum is interesting enough.

After a year of trying to enjoy playgroups/playcentre I decided they bored the arse of me and so I bought annual passes for the museum, tram, cable car, wildlife parks, aquarium and we go to one of those each day instead. Ds is highly trained at sitting in a cafe with his fluffy.

Still can't see how having your highlights done is more fun that watching Pirates of the Caribbean.

Exactly threebob - I personally can't wait to see Pirates of the C - just wish my kids were old enough to go with me!