fatherhood ruined my marriage - twice

[harpsichordcarrier]

from today's Guardian
what a total twonk

Just read the article and am so so so that "total twonk" -like that phrase hc- would write something like that in the first place.

Fatherhood ruined my marriage twice.
Ok firstly - you have a mouth, you don't wanna be present at the birth TALK IT OVER WITH YOUR WIFE DUMBASS! Also think about consequences of your actions before you have unprotected sex. Oh and the mentality you have about the sex of your baby is the reason why so many women in India and China feel pressurised into having abortions or abandoning their babies. Nice to know you have a progressive mindset - BERK.

Secondly, if your first marriage didn't work out then why contemplate marrying someone just for the sake of the child when you saw what happened first time round? It's not Victorian times you muppet haven't you heard of child support?

It's at times like this I really appreciate the fact I have a real man in my life. That guy is just a waste of space.

My aunt and her Indian husband adopted a beautiful baby girl from India back in the early 1980s when she was just a little over 2 months old.

She's now third year medical student at Stanford University.

Her gender was a disappointment to someone, but a real bonus for a family that already had two boys and wanted to share their home w/a much welcome daughter.

I can barely believe this is for real! I wonder if he realises that he sounds like a jealous 4 year old, usurped by a new baby. When he came home all the talk was about the baby - what, as oppposed to him? What a self centred git.
"I tried the having an affair approach, but that ended in double disaster with divorce from my wife and the new mistress soon pregnant". Double disaster for you maybe. Are we supposed to feel sympathy that your 'approach' failed?
DH thinks it's a spoof, he can't believe any self respecting man would admit to this shite! Unfortunately, I bet it is real.

what a egotistical loser, when talking about his mistress and second baby " I was shell-shocked, and still didn't feel ready for fatherhood, but I did the decent thing. My second marriage lasted only a couple of years."
the decent thing would have been to get a vasectomy!
His poor wife and children.

My DH thinks it's a joke too. He can't believe there are men like this.

Well that's a nice cheery piece for his (presumably old enough to read it) children isn't it? What a sweetie.

Ghosty, I've got a friend whose h walked out because he 'can't handle family life' too. Wankers.

"I tried the having an affair option...So the whole irrevocable cycle churned on once again."

Jaw meets floor.

What a tiny-minded, egotistical, f%ckwitted fool. It's got to be a joke, right? Reminds me why I haven't bought the Graun for a while - can't believe they're printing such self-indulgent, ugly tripe.

If it's real, he's a major tool!

Honestly, it's hard to believe there are such tube steaks out there. But I've gone out w/a few like him, unfortunately.

LOL "ugly tripe"

ROFL"tube steak"

Unfortunately men like this do exist. A relative of mine is going through exactly the same with her DH. They lived together and got married - everything fine and dandy. Have a DD - he turns into a complete arsehole. He clearly doesn't like the responsibility, hassle and wants his no-kids lifestyle back. She, his DW, is in pieces most of the time. They aren't going to be together much longer. for her and their DD but they're probably better off without him, he's turned into a wanker

Just read this - nearly spat my dinner out

Gave it to dh to read and it made him quite angry that the author suggested most men felt the same.

Snafu, that's where my jaw really hit the floor too. "I tried the having an affair approach, but that ended in double disaster with divorce from my wife and the new mistress soon pregnant." Well blow me if that just isn't the rottenest luck! Poor man thinks he's gotten away with it then the mistress gets pregnant - how on earth did that happen? Nothing to do with any input from him, obviously. What a tosser.

I do feel sorry for his kids, but then I also think they were spared a miserable, loveless childhood with an emotionally destitute, pathetic excuse for a father. grrrr.

I had a row with dp when ds was born, in which he shouted "I feel like you don't put me first any more!"

I shouted back incredulously "I don't! You are never, ever going to be put first again, so you had better get used to it!"

I can't believe he accused me, as if by putting the baby before him I was doing him an injustice!

What else can I add?! YOu've all said it so well and, tbh, I wouldn't know where to start!

Arse

What a complete aresehole, he even tries to justify himself at the end by saying that maybe he was too young and immature to get married/become a father, what about the two women he married and had children with? they couldn't just walk away could they? Tosser!

Justifies women's beliefs that men are children, doesn't it? Tosspot.

and

I just don't know what to say!

Why anyone would even give this man the time of day let alone have his children is beyond me!

Well if his attitude justifies women thinking all men are boys then he is doing a disservice to the many men (like me) who don't share his pathetic views on life

I can't actually work out what possessed them to publish this pile of crap!

the sad thing is a lot of men are like this. i think my hubby incuded. sometimes i think id be better off alone, just me and my kids.

What an absolute arsehole. I feel desperately sorry for his daughter. What an immature, pathetic excuse for a man.

This does a tremendous dis-service to all the great Dads out there, like my XP. I can pretty much guarantee this article would have him spitting mad, too.

"I can't actually work out what possessed them to publish this pile of crap!"

Presumably the tide of indignant responses they'll get! It is an utterly shameful piece of writing though.