This woman should parp herself!

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parp!parp!parp!FGS!!

Wasn't a particularly insightful child, but I remember I used to beg her to leave him, and she told us we would be putting up with it until we moved out as there was no way she would leave her husband for us.

God, this all sounds so self pitying, but I don't feel it really. She didn't like me as a child at all. she is always telling me that as a baby I wouldn't sleep and she used to leave me in a pram at the bottom of the garden the second she had fed me until the next feed was due (4 hours). Then as a toddler I wouldn't sleep. Then when I went to school i was so jealous of my baby brother that she couldn't stand me anywhere near him or herself. The I was, (of course!) the nightmare teenager opposed to her rational parenting.

Bizarrely, I have a closer bond with my dad, and always have had, because he only used to hit me when he had completely lost his temper with me. I knew he loved me.

Ha, this wasn't meant to turn into Colditz's Random Therapy Session, sorry

I do put my ds before all others, even when he is being a little bugger.

I don't think her kids would have to rea this to realise that she loves their dad more than them. Kids are very perceptive. I was never in any doubt that my mother loved my brother more than me, to the point where she never quite forgave me for dooing better than him in school/ university. To her mind it was 'wasted' on me because I was 'just' a girl.

Ironicaly my brother and I get on very well and love each other

PMSL Wessex! hahaha - I'm really P*ssing myself at that one!

families huh? something that often keeps me going in life is thinking about all of the f*cked up families I know and the fairly well-balanced offspring they produced.

Anyway I do remember thinking actually, on the way home from hospital with dd about what i would do in a situation where I had to choose between her and dh. would have chosen him. then we got home and I changed my mind.

All can say is that she must be an insecure person.

She wants desperately to feel loved and needed by her husband.

But everyone is different.

I cant actually beleive that someone could feel like that and if she does the children must feel it.

My dh would hate it if I wrote something like this. He expects me to love ds more than him.

dh would die if I sat in a corner just loving him from every fibre of my body. this woman is obsessed with her husband. how suffocating does she sound?

It's impossible to quantify love, isn't it? I was a bit upset when having this conversation with dh once and he admitted he loved ds 'more' than me... but I would have been offended if he didn't put ds first so it's a lose-lose question, really.

I think the way I love ds (unconditional adoration) is so different from the way I love dh (get rid of that stubble, for a start, and do the bleeding washing up once in a while, why don't you!) that you can't really compare them. But I would definitely die for ds. Dh is an adult and can fight his own battles.

Edam, I agree, it is a different love.

Both DD & DH are the centre of my world. I too have a great DH, he cleaned the whole house this w/end, even tho he was sick off work at the end of last week . I have been with him for 17 years in March & we still enjoy each other as much as we did. I don't see why having children should compromise any part of my life with DH.

But wouldn't we be devestated (sp) if "God Forbid" our chid/ren or DH/DP should die? I cannot start to think about losing DD or DH, the mere thought chokes me, she thinks it would be harder to get over DH dying than DC. I don't see how either could be easier than the other!

& do we all sit & discuss our sex lives at Toddler groups? I have been to a few in my time & never discussed this! Strange Woman!

dh says he adores and idolises ds, but loves me even more. I don't like it when he says this, as ds is my absolute number one priority and I feel he should be for dh too. But yes, it is a completely different kind of love. And looking at dh with ds, I don't entirely believe what he says about loving me 'more'.

how can she say that she would be more upset if her husband died. that is just unbelievable to me actually.

I think this woman adores her naval more than her dh. What I find objectionable about this article is her dismissal of the reasons given by many women for not having sex (tired, painful, still feeding, nurturing etc.) in favour of the 'real' reason - their husband having been usurped by the baby. Er, no, I'm kust bl@@dy knackered, luv.

I can't bear these writers who have to come up with 'an angle'; it has to be one thing or another, black or white, no shades of grey at all. It simply does not reflect true human experience and reduces everything to 2 dimensions.

so true franke and totally agree with her trivialising what actually are, very often, the real reasons for less sex. Nothing to do with loving or fancying the partner less - I'm sure it's exhaustion and the overwhelming desire for sleep usually! Pure and simple!

yup franke - she does sound terribly self-obsessed.

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Did I rea that she had three kids (hard to remember I almost dropped off)

Which begs the question....why?

Unless it is to please her ddddddddddh i suppse

I wonder if the man is comfortable with the idea of having a wife who loves him more than the children? If my dh said this to me, it would put me off him.

Oh, the irony if he is cheating on her - lol spagblog.

Or could the writer be feeling her age? perhaps she equates maternal with old, so wants to show how young and up for it she still is.

I fear the repercussions of publishing this parp-tastic pile of dross will be following her around of years. Let's just hope ol' grizzly Adams there doesn't go thru a dry patch since his libido is the only thing propping up her flimsy self-esteem.

I'm going to stop reading the Guardian if they don't stop with this kind of nonsense. tut!

I was thinking about her description of her DH...high instep...rounded bottom...Not very manly is it?
Maybe it wasn't actually written by a laayyyydeee

oo look at the instep on that ..... snurk

the husband looks like a rabbit caught in the headlights

He looks like a 6th former!!

I wouldn't either

She's got 4 kids - poor things!

gdg - great minds again - was just about to say he looks like a teenager