November Slatterns/Listmakers - one year on and still taking baby steps.........

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Yes - Slatterns (now Slatterns and Listmakers) is now a year old.

Come and join us if you're a slattern, or simply like making lists for jobs you want to get done each day/week/month.

Never thought 12 months ago that a thread I started to help me get the bare minimum done at home when I was feeling shite would still be going strong 12 months later - even with me frequently AWOL in recent months.

Everyone is welcome, we're a friendly bunch.

Morning

MumRugrat i was on the x factor thread last night so had a good bitch about it on there. So fixed now and not enjoyable to watch

Get everyone up done
Get DD dressed
Breakfast doing
Sort cat done
Empty dishwasher DH done (and reloaded)
Clear up breakfast stuff and put dishwasher on again
Make beds
Put washload on
Sweep stairs
Tidy and sweep hall
Sweep kitchen
Flash mop all hard floors
Put some stuff back in the bathroom
Put some washing away
Lunch
Do horses
Cook dinner
Clean kitchen
Tidy up living room
DD bath and bed
Make practise birthday cake
Make some red pepper and tomato soup

Morning all, will read back in a while, had a lovely day yesterday despite DD3 having me up at 5.15, though she was in bed at 6.30 the night before, could cope with that if it was a regular occurence, but unfortunately she had a snooze yesterday and ended up not coming to bed til near 11.

TO DO
Absolutely loads

Morning CC. Hope you get all your jobs done.
DD and I just having some breakfast.

Poor DH struggling with DS this morning whilst I was feeding DD. DH slept in the spare room as has work this morning. I was up ever 3 hours with DD and as she fed at 6.30 we went back to sleep and I woke up when DS popped in at about 8am. DH got DS up at 7am for nursery. DS would not put his trousers on. There was a bit of shouting and DS eventually complied. DH hates getting angry with DS and hates being late for work.

I am wondering, even though I have been up lots in the night with DD. Should I set the alarm to help DH and DS or have that extra bit of sleep I so desperately need to survive?
Would be interested to hear your thoughts. What do you do?

HMHB - sleep gets my vote, every time! DH will learn ways to talk DS round, eventually

Morning all

Just waiting for DS2 to go back to bed then i can shower & dress, and start on the day...

Mon:

• DH up first DONE
• breakfast DONE
• all dressed 2done
• DH to work DONE
• DS1 to pre-sch (Nanny) DONE
• DS2 nap
• put away clean clothes
• stuff off ongoing list
• tidy DS2's medical file
• email friend re his DS's birthday (forgot card)
• dress to dry cleaners from Fri
• oil DS1's bedroom door hinges
• collect ds1
• lunch & tidy kitchen
• afternoon?
• boys tea, bath & bed
• quiet night on my own

Ongoing:

• get photos of family & hang them up
• get on with friend's family tree GotFileOut
• transfer all family trees over to Mac software
• then go through 1911 census
• organise (Started), upload & order photos of boys
• fix my bike (flat tyre)
• sort out security light outside trying
• filing
• tidy mine (Started) & DH's wardrobe

Good morning I had two glasses of wine last night and felt like I had been knocking back doubles all night .

CC @ your list.

HMHB sleep you need it all that will happen if you start trying to do too much is you will get really knackered and end up rowing and been snippy with each other that is what happens here.

Waves to other slatterns.

Tidy round
Sort L's clothes
load of washing in
kitchen floor
do something with dd4.

Will be back with more later .

Thanks JKS. I would put my conundrum on a different thread but thought I'd ask the lovely slatterns who are always so nice and helpful.

I do realise that I am v lucky to have a lovely DH who helps with the kids and also lucky to have DS in nursery to give me some time with DD. I bet there are lots of mums out there having to deal with a tiny baby and 3 year old all alone.

Right - time to get dressed.

Right so far I have

Got everybody up
Made Lunches
Made Breakfast
Ranted and Raved about hanging clothes up and making sure shoes are in the wardrobe
Hung a wash up on my new airer
Put another wash in
Decluttered a corner of the sitting room
Tried to get caramel off my glass TV stand
Tidied sitting room
Folded PJs and put dirty underwear out for wash
Swept sitting room
Still havent convinced DD3 to get dressed

Do you all want to know how slatternly i have been this week? I have had to put some washing on so that DD has something to get dressed in before we go out this afternoon

Have just had some freebie eczma cream delivered from filling out a form on MN, it is my first MN freebie and very excited

Get everyone up done
Get DD dressed
Breakfast done
Sort cat done
Empty dishwasher DH done (and reloaded)
Clear up breakfast stuff and put dishwasher on again
Make beds
Put washload on done
Sweep stairs
Tidy and sweep hall
Sweep kitchen
Flash mop all hard floors
Put some stuff back in the bathroom
Put some washing away
Lunch
Do horses
Cook dinner
Clean kitchen
Tidy up living room
DD bath and bed
Make practise birthday cake
Make some red pepper and tomato soup

As you can see i am on a go slow this morning

Morning everyone, have got a monster list this morning that I will post in a sec.

HMHB - definitely sleep. It's good for DH and DS to learn to sort themselves out, if you 'rescue' them all the time then soon they will think they can't do anything without you! Which equals a disaster I think!
Can DH play to the 'DS, Daddy needs you to help him look after Mummy and DD' aspect? Make him feel all grown up and like it's special? They will work something out I'm sure

CC - that is a lot to have done already!

Alice - ditto on the go slow, didn't wake up until gone 9!

Thanks Ali and CWWM. Sleep is soooo essential!
Morning drifting away from me. At least I'm up and dressed though!

List a bit mixed up DD crying...back soon.

Today's List
DS up and dressed done
Feed DD
Feed DD again
Vitamins done
Breakfast done
DS to nursery dh
DD Nap
Find baby groups to go to - baby yoga found!
Lunch
Tidy up lounge
Dishy on
Washing on done
Write thank you cards / get pics of DD printed to send out.
Food shop
Dinner -
DD bath
DD/DS to bed

Ring re bilton cott

TODAY
All up and dressed - done
Unload dishwasher - done
Sweep kitchen and hall - done
Tidy kitchen and clean hob - done
Orange juice and Spatone - done
Breakfast and tidy kitchen
Make beds and tidy upstairs
Ocado 10-11am - here now
Put away shopping
Wash new bedding for spare room
Lunch and tidy kitchen
Wash nappies
Dinner x 3
Clear up
DS bath and bed
Tidy round before bed
Take ADs

KITCHEN
Mop floor
Windowsill
Insides of windows
Wipe over microwave, toaster and coffee machine

LIVING ROOM
Tidy
Dust

DINING ROOM
Tidy
Dust
Tidy one sideboard cupboard

HALL/STAIRS
Hoover stairs
Wipe bannisters
Dust

OUR ROOM
Tidy
Dust
Hoover
Empty bin

DS' ROOM
Tidy
Dust
Hoover
Shake out throw

BATHROOM
Floor
Clean loo and basin
Dust shelves
De-limescale bath and shower screen

Ongoing/Areas of Doom/Extras
Organise paperwork/filing
Organise books
DH to sort out garage
Junk drawers in living room
Sort out photos for DS' room and put them up
Mend my duvet covers - buyingnew!
DH to change all the internal door handles
Find a painter to do the kitchen
Sort out recipes
Make Christmas list for DS - started
Make list of present ideas for friends and family - started
Organise kitchen shelves now I have new baskets from Ikea
DH to build DS' little chair
Go through toys and pack away baby ones that DS doesn't play with anymore
Adapt Norks' masterplan to my house
Organise a new window cleaner
Buy bag and contents to have emergency DS kit in the car at all times - done
Put up extra hooks in my wardrobe
Wash new bedding for spare room ready to use

Today's List
Up showered and dressed done
Vitamins done
Breakfast done
DS to nursery dh done
DD Nap doing
Find baby groups to go to - baby yoga found!
Lunch with friend
Tidy up lounge
Dishy on
Washing on done
Washing out
Write thank you cards
Food shop
Dinner
DD/DS bath
DD/DS to bed
Pay cheque in

Ring re bilton cott

Important
Register DD's birth
Register DD at doctors
Send info to accountants
Write thank you cards
Probably lots of other stuff

Wow Ali - big list!!

Ds2 decided he wanted a bath before nap so i let him have one - he always falls asleep in the evening before i can get him in there so it's worked out well (meant he actually got dressed too )
Delayed me a bit though.

Mon:

• DH up first DONE
• breakfast DONE
• all dressed AllDone
• DH to work DONE
• DS1 to pre-sch (Nanny) DONE
• DS2 nap Doing
• put away clean clothes DONE
• stuff off ongoing list 1done
• tidy DS2's medical file
• email friend re his DS's birthday (forgot card)
• dress to dry cleaners from Fri
• oil DS1's bedroom door hinges
• collect ds1 (Nanny)
• lunch & tidy kitchen
• afternoon? - may send Nanny & Ds1 out as it's sunny
• boys tea, bath & bed
• quiet night on my own

Ongoing:

• get photos of family & hang them up
• get on with friend's family tree GotFileOut
• transfer all family trees over to Mac software
• then go through 1911 census
• organise (Started), upload & order photos of boys
• fix my bike (flat tyre)
• sort out security light outside trying
• filing
• tidy mine & DH's wardrobe DONE
• discover quite how many scarves, gloves, hats, etc. we've got DONE
• find my nice leather gloves from last year DONE - yey have been looking for them for a while!

i have done nothing but sit on here and play games why is it when dp is of work i dont get anything done. i spoke to the school this morning and have not got any info im very as i havent got to meet dd new teacher

todo
everyone updone
everyone feeddone
everyone washed and dressed(me and dd1)done
dd1 to school (talk to school about moving my dd1 down a yr without consent)done
make beds
wash up
washing
clean clothes away
clean bathroom (when dp is not in there)
clean kitchen
tidy dds room
tidy our room
tidy living room
clean floors
hover
polish
fluff sofa
lunch
school run
dinner
dds bath
dds bed
tv
me bed

Rugrats - i'm still at the school!

Mon:

• DH up first DONE
• breakfast DONE
• all dressed AllDone
• DH to work DONE
• DS1 to pre-sch (Nanny) DONE
• DS2 nap Doing
• put away clean clothes DONE
• stuff off ongoing list 1done
• tidy DS2's medical file DONE
• email friend re his DS's birthday DONE
• dress to dry cleaners from Fri
• oil DS1's bedroom door hinges
• collect ds1 (Nanny)
• lunch & tidy kitchen
• afternoon? - may send Nanny & Ds1 out as it's sunny
• boys tea, bath & bed
• quiet night on my own

Ongoing:

• get photos of family & hang them up
• get on with friend's family tree GotFileOut
• transfer all family trees over to Mac software
• then go through 1911 census
• organise (Started), upload & order photos of boys
• fix my bike (flat tyre)
• sort out security light outside trying
• filing

Right so far I have

Got everybody up
Made Lunches
Made Breakfast
Ranted and Raved about hanging clothes up and making sure shoes are in the wardrobe
Hung a wash up on my new airer
Put another wash in
Decluttered a corner of the sitting room
Tried to get caramel off my glass TV stand
Tidied sitting room
Folded PJs and put dirty underwear out for wash
Swept sitting room
Convinced DD3 to get dressed
Put Bacon on to boil
Talked to a friend on the phone
Cafe World
Farmville
Washed Breakfast Dishes
Decluttered Computer Desk
Hung up another wash
Put in another wash
Cleaned counters
Swept Dining Area floor
Read reminder letter that DD2 has a hospital appointment next thurs. I am a bit because I thought it was later in the month

Today's List
Up showered and dressed done
Vitamins done
Breakfast done
DS to nursery dh done
DD Nap doing
Find baby groups to go to - baby yoga found!
Lunch with friend
Tidy up lounge
Dishy on
Washing on done
Washing out done
Write thank you cards
Food shop
Dinner
DD/DS bath
DD/DS to bed
Pay cheque in

Ring re bilton cott

Important
Register DD's birth
Register DD at doctors done
Send info to accountants
Write thank you cards
Probably lots of other stuff

Afternoon!

DS slept through til 5, but then woke again at 6.30 just as DH was getting up for work. I brought him in with me and he fell back to sleep, and we didn't get up til 8.30.

HMHB, I am of the opinion that sleep is very important indeed, but DH having time with DS that isn't just about fun is very important too.

That's very mumof2rugrats.

• DS boobed, changed and dressed done
• Me showered and dressed done
• bed made done
• breakfast done
• fold dry washing done
• rinse and spin nappies done
• dry pots done
• clean sink done
• hang out nappies done
• put load of washing in done
• lunch cooling
• bring bin back round
• take recycling out
• go out - Morrisons?
• snack and play
• tea
• DS bath and bed
• SEW DH BUTTON ON
• watch some good telly and snuggle

Bloody hell CC - you are flying through your jobs!

JKS - at your scarf and glove overload. I found a ton when I did our wardrobes the other week - at least now I know not to buy anymore this winter!
Totally forgot to reply to your AD question yesterday. I found to begin with that I could just cope that little bit better with what had seemed like catastrophes before - DS wetting our bed, losing paperwork, meeting a rude shop assistant. Then I found that I was more interested in things again like reading and catching up with friends and that I could concentrate for long enough to watch a film or even do a whole task without getting distracted. I got more smiley gradually, but DH noticed a difference within about a week of me starting to take them. I do feel less sad, I think because I don't dwell on everything so much IYKWIM?

Sorry for the waffle!

TODAY
All up and dressed - done
Unload dishwasher - done
Sweep kitchen and hall - done
Tidy kitchen and clean hob - done
Orange juice and Spatone - done
Breakfast and tidy kitchen - done
Make beds and tidy upstairs - done
Strip our botton sheet AGAIN! because DS escaped and wee'd during nappy change - done
Ocado 10-11am - done
Put away shopping - done
Wash new bedding for spare room
Lunch and tidy kitchen
Wash nappies
Dinner x 3
Clear up
DS bath and bed
Tidy round before bed
Take ADs

KITCHEN
Mop floor
Windowsill
Insides of windows
Wipe over microwave, toaster and coffee machine

LIVING ROOM
Tidy
Dust

DINING ROOM
Tidy
Dust
Tidy one sideboard cupboard

HALL/STAIRS
Hoover stairs
Wipe bannisters
Dust

OUR ROOM
Tidy - done
Dust
Hoover
Empty bin - done

DS' ROOM
Tidy - done
Dust
Hoover
Shake out throw

BATHROOM
Floor
Clean loo and basin - done
Dust shelves
De-limescale bath and shower screen
Empty bin - done

Ongoing/Areas of Doom/Extras
Organise paperwork/filing
Organise books
DH to sort out garage
Junk drawers in living room
Sort out photos for DS' room and put them up
Mend my duvet covers - buyingnew!
DH to change all the internal door handles
Find a painter to do the kitchen
Sort out recipes
Make Christmas list for DS - started
Make list of present ideas for friends and family - started
Organise kitchen shelves now I have new baskets from Ikea - started
DH to build DS' little chair
Go through toys and pack away baby ones that DS doesn't play with anymore
Adapt Norks' masterplan to my house
Organise a new window cleaner
Buy bag and contents to have emergency DS kit in the car at all times - done
Put up extra hooks in my wardrobe
Wash new bedding for spare room ready to use

Everyone doing well with jobs today - must be that monday feeling

Ali - thanks. I can't decide if i'm happier due to the pills or if i just reached a low last week and i would have been happier this week anyway
Certainly thinking about it i haven't had much interest in other things/other people/meeting friends for a while. And I've been trying to arrange some dates to see friends over the weekend so that's progress

Hoping to send Nanny & DS1 out in a mo, not sure exactly what i'll do first - lie on sofa with junk tv or productive jobs...?

Mon:

• DH up first DONE
• breakfast DONE
• all dressed DONE
• DH to work DONE
• DS1 to pre-sch (Nanny) DONE
• DS2 nap DONE
• put away clean clothes DONE
• stuff off ongoing list 1done
• tidy DS2's medical file DONE
• email friend re his DS's birthday DONE
• dress to dry cleaners from Fri
• oil DS1's bedroom door hinges
• collect ds1 (Nanny) DONE
• lunch & tidy kitchen DONE
• ds2 nap Doing (was only up 45mins)
• afternoon? - may send Nanny & Ds1 out as it's sunny
• boys tea, bath & bed
• quiet night on my own

Ongoing:

• get photos of family & hang them up
• get on with friend's family tree GotFileOut
• transfer all family trees over to Mac software
• then go through 1911 census
• organise (Started), upload & order photos of boys
• fix my bike (flat tyre)
• sort out security light outside trying
• filing

JKS - that sounds so similar to me. As I have gradually got better, I've been able to look back and see just how low I had got.
Maybe do one job and then you can lie down with a cuppa AND feel virtuous?

of your sun, we seem to be actually inside a cloud today, all damp and still and freeeezing!

I have been going non-stop today, and I hardly feel like I have got anywhere when I look at my list - v.depressing.

TODAY
All up and dressed - done
Unload dishwasher - done
Sweep kitchen and hall - done
Tidy kitchen and clean hob - done
Orange juice and Spatone - done
Breakfast and tidy kitchen - done
Make beds and tidy upstairs - done
Strip our botton sheet AGAIN! because DS escaped and wee'd during nappy change - done
Ocado 10-11am - done
Put away shopping - done
Wash new bedding for spare room - done
Lunch and tidy kitchen - done
Run dishwasher with grillpan etc in - done
Fold, air and put away clean washing - 2 loads done
Unload dishwasher
Wash nappies
Dinner x 3
Clear up
DS bath and bed
Tidy round before bed
Take ADs

KITCHEN
Mop floor
Windowsill
Insides of windows
Wipe over microwave, toaster and coffee machine

LIVING ROOM
Tidy - done
Dust

DINING ROOM
Tidy
Dust
Tidy one sideboard cupboard

HALL/STAIRS
Hoover stairs
Wipe bannisters
Dust

OUR ROOM
Tidy - done
Dust
Hoover
Empty bin - done

DS' ROOM
Tidy - done
Dust
Hoover
Shake out throw

BATHROOM
Floor
Clean loo and basin - done
Dust shelves
De-limescale bath and shower screen
Empty bin - done

Ongoing/Areas of Doom/Extras
Organise paperwork/filing
Organise books
DH to sort out garage
Junk drawers in living room
Sort out photos for DS' room and put them up
Mend my duvet covers - buyingnew!
DH to change all the internal door handles
Find a painter to do the kitchen
Sort out recipes
Make Christmas list for DS - started
Make list of present ideas for friends and family - started
Organise kitchen shelves now I have new baskets from Ikea - started
DH to build DS' little chair
Go through toys and pack away baby ones that DS doesn't play with anymore - done
Adapt Norks' masterplan to my house
Organise a new window cleaner
Buy bag and contents to have emergency DS kit in the car at all times - done
Put up extra hooks in my wardrobe
Wash new bedding for spare room ready to use - done

Not strong any more, got this snotty email today:
Dear Claire,

Further to your recent email enquiry, all our available rental properties are advertised in full on our website.

We do not however have any available properties at present that are able to accept a tenant in receipt of Housing Benefit. You need to be in full time employment, earning 2.5 times the amount of the monthly rent for referencing/credit check purposes.

Thank you.

It's just completely pointless.

oh no clairey! nightmare

Oh Clairey ((((hugs))))

I am pretty sure that your H has to pay the rent still on your marital home until the DCs leave school, he cannot make you homeless, and if he does then you become a priority for council housing. Have you asked over on the legal board?
I really think you should see a solicitor, check with CAB because I think you should get legal aid in the position you are in.

I so wish I could help you - whereabouts are you?

Afternoon my day has not gone to plan due to a friend popping over with her sick yes sick child why would you fetch an ill kid to someone else's house which has small children in?

Wow Ali massive list .

Rugrats tell school you are going to the governors that make shake them up a bit.

((hugs)) Clairey .

Tidy round done
Sort L's clothes done
load of washing in done X2
kitchen floor
do something with dd4.
Sort out clean washing
tea
rr
baths
bedtimes
relative xmas list