November Slatterns/Listmakers - one year on and still taking baby steps.........

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Yes - Slatterns (now Slatterns and Listmakers) is now a year old.

Come and join us if you're a slattern, or simply like making lists for jobs you want to get done each day/week/month.

Never thought 12 months ago that a thread I started to help me get the bare minimum done at home when I was feeling shite would still be going strong 12 months later - even with me frequently AWOL in recent months.

Everyone is welcome, we're a friendly bunch.

That's a shame. Good luck with the hunt.
Would there be somewhere that has a list of agents/landlords that let to those on benefits? CAB for instance.
I'm sure you've thought of all that, but any suggestions or advice we can give, do ask.

Clairy that is shocking behaviour. You do not have to put up with that. You sound like you are coping amazingly, you are very strong.

I think your best course of action is to go to the Citizens Advice Bureau, or possibly your local Surestart Childrens Centre. They will have numbers/websites that could help you.

I think you will be eligible for a council house (i'm not sure on the workings of it, so see CAB)

Women's Aid may also be a good place to go. Even if just for a chat and some advice.

There is always a practical solution, it is just a case of finding it. You will not be homeless. I will try to find you some links for the above organisations.

Chin up, it will all work out for the best

CAB

Surestart Childrens Centres

Women's Aid

I know that it is not obvious domestic violence, but they may be able to help you with some of the practicalities.

TODAY
All up and dressed - done
Orange juice and Spatone - done
Breakfast and tidy kitchen - done
Take DH to station for 11am - done
Unload dishwasher - done
Make beds and tidy upstairs - started
Strip our bed and put sheets in to wash - done
Swap last night's washing into the dryer - done
Fold laundry - done
General tidy because there are clothes and things all over the place including strewn up the stairs - done
Lakeland order - done
Hoover upstairs and downstairs
Lunch and tidy kitchen - done
Out for a walk and to swings - it's pouring with rain here
Order some of things we want in John Lewis online so that we can just pick up tomorrow - done
Meal plan for next week
Ocado order for Monday
DS tea
Pick DH up from the station at 7ish
DS bath and bed
Me and DH dinner
Wine
Clear up
Tidy round before bed

Ongoing/Areas of Doom
Organise paperwork/filing
Buy some new bedding for spare room
Clear out old bedding for charity - done!
Organise books
DH to sort out garage
Junk drawers in living room
Sort out photos for DS' room and put them up - gah printer is broken!
Mend my duvet covers
Sort out kitchen pinboard - nearlyfinished
DH to change all the internal door handles
Find a painter to do the kitchen
Sort out recipes
Make Christmas list for DS
Make list of present ideas for friends and family
Check we have Christmas cards/wrapping paper/gift tags etc - done have ordered more

Clairey - will read in a sec. sounds like things have been tough and you've been coping so well on your own you never let on.

Ali - def worth celebrating

Fri:

• me up first DONE
• breakfast & tidy kitchen DONE
• all dressed AllButDS2
• DH to work DONE
• DS1 to pre-sch (DH) DONE
• rubbish out (DH) DONE
• ds2 nap DONE
• me "piece of quiet" (so says DS1) No
• friend round DONE
• get some jobs done hopefully NotReally
• laundry Load2OnAirer Load1OnAirer
• collect ds1 PIL DONE
• lunch & tidy kitchen DONE
• PIL here at some point HERE
• afternoon plan? MIL BakingWithDS1
• haircut (2.30) DONE
• boys tea & bed
• us all ready
• go to dh's work do

Ongoing:

• get photos of family & hang them up
• get on with friend's family tree GotFileOut
• transfer all family trees over to Mac software
• then go through 1911 census
• organise (Started), upload & order photos of boys
• fix my bike (flat tyre)
• sort out security light outside trying
• filing
• tidy mine (Started) & DH's wardrobe
• check birthdays coming up & make cards

We've not been out today, quite unusual these days.

• DS boobed, changed and dressed done
• beds made done
• pick up a bit in DS room done
• washing in done
• breakfast done
• dry pots done
• emails and MNing doingmostoftheday
• Me showered and dressed done
• 15 mins - landing and bedroom done got loads sorted!

+ fold dry washing done

• hang washing out/up done
• water plants done
• lunch done
• wash pots done
• walk to Range no raining
• tea
• DS bath and bed
• Lost!

Evening had a bit of a rushed day and dp has announced he is working until 8 tonight.
L is been such a grumpy bum tonight she has only just fell asleep the last sleep she had was about an hour at 10am [grr].

Clairey I am so sorry I had no idea you were going through such a bad time if there is anything I can help out with let me know.

BTW I think cauliflower would be fine but you have probably made it by now.

Ali enjoy your night hussy.

Waves to all .

Tidy round done
Try to unblock hoover done
Load of washing in done
Find brother and shout at him done
dressed done
online shop
menu plan
make beds done
wipe round bathroom done
sweep kitchen floor done
dinner done
school run done
tea done
chill
Bedtimes
Bath

Ali you are the secret hussie of the thread
Clairey going to have a read in a minute, but big hugs for you you sound amazingly strong!

Plum moves Ali over in the motherhen nest to make room for Alice, very good advice

Norks have we lost you all together, hope not, don't feel under pressure to read my crap, but anyway you know where we are!

DONE
Christening cake
loaded dishwasher
rang docs about dd1s medical notes

and thats it
I need to feed dcs, dh is getting us a well earned take away,
I need to get stuck in to house tomorrow as my MIL is getting me cakes to price, so I want the house all organised before I can do anymore
Oh and got a letter from appeals to say they hadn't recieved dd1s notes,
rang docs they said they hadn't been requested
so appeals said I could bring them, doctors said I can't so need to sort that on Monday

My plans are somewhat thrown out by the fact that the bit of the Tube that DH needs to get home isn't working, so he is still in London - boo. It has been too wet to go and buy anything yummy, maybe we can call in on the way back from getting DH, whenever that transpires to be!

Plum - I think we need to enlarge the nest, CC had claimed a spot too!

Oh Clairey I just read all that thread, I can't believe all that was going on, and don't know where to begin, I'm assuming you've left him now as you haven't updated the thread,
don't be worrying about your dcs they will have a far happier life with a mum who dosen't walk on eggshells believe me,
they will learn to do the same and grow up and maybe resent you for it,
I haven't spoke to my dad in three years today, and I resent that my mum hasn't stood up to him ever and still won't, he's never hit anyone one, but hes never wrong and dosen't say sorry.
Stay strong and do whats best for you and your family

Thanks Plum, i'm only small and i'll bring chocolate

Tbh, i am (and always have been) one of those people who want to make things better for people. I am now on a voluntary programme run by the Surestart childrens centres called Community Parent Volunteer programme and it includes a one term course on all the subjects (safeguarding, services available, benefits, helpful organisations, behaviour management etc) that we need to be aware of to be a CPV. It helps to know that if someone has a problem you can help point them in the direction they need, rather than wishing you could help but not knowing how IYSWIM?

Clairy i don't know what area you are, so couldn't look up your county council to find helplines etc for you, but that could also be a dood avenue to go down.

Morning everyone, Myself and DD3 went off to visit friends yesterday and had a lovely day.
Clairy I will read your thread in a few mins,

TO DO
Sort Clothes
Washing
Breakfast Dishes
Tidy Kitchen
Bath DD3
DD1 to trumpet lessons
DD3 to musical rascals
Buy something for lunch

breakfast done
cat fed - done

to do

load dishwasher
everyone showered and dressed
youngest to gb, pick up neice on way
return a top
pick up up supplies for today
go feed mum dog and quick walk (is away for weekend)
back do lunch for the minis
wash uniforms
make home made soup
clean living room

morning everyone - lovely sunny (but cold) day here

todays list

empty dishwasher
dress DS3
shower
get dressed and dry hair
start online shop
start putting stuff on ebay
washing
drying
plan Christmas carol service

that's all I can think of now - will add more as the day goes on

Oh, Clairy you poor pet, going through that on your own, how brave and strong you have been. >>>>>

morning all

need to get washed dressed
get dcs washed dressed
deliever cake to aunt
maybe watch Santa arriving at shopping mall, shhh don't tell dh he says its too early for Santa

have put more cake photos on profile

Plum - it is a bit early for Santa!! And grrrr at the mess up re notes. Be firm!

Clairey - so sorry about what's been going on, i really hope you can find a new place asap and start a new life with happy you & happy DCs.

Um, hello everyone else, brain = mush as usual.

tad hungover too after last night

Sat:

• recover from hangover Doing
• DH, FIL & DS1 to Dad's playgroup Doing
• DS2 nap Doing
• MIL sorting dinner (already?! this is why i'll never get my 'mum' badge!) Doing
• laundry x 2 (at least)
• something productive with morning?
• lunch & tidy kitchen
• ds2 nap
• dh out this afternoon
• MIL baking with DS1 (making Christmas pudding, so organised!)
• boys tea, bath & bed
• our dinner
• X-Factor & SCD
• earlyish night (with no wine! or least not very much!)

Ongoing:

• get photos of family & hang them up
• get on with friend's family tree GotFileOut
• transfer all family trees over to Mac software
• then go through 1911 census
• organise (Started), upload & order photos of boys
• fix my bike (flat tyre)
• sort out security light outside trying
• filing
• tidy mine (Started) & DH's wardrobe
• check birthdays coming up & make cards

Is MN broken? or are you all too busy having lives today?

Sat:

• recover from hangover DONE
• DH, FIL & DS1 to Dad's playgroup DONE
• DS2 nap DONE
• MIL sorting dinner (already?! this is why i'll never get my 'mum' badge!) Doing
• laundry x 2 (at least) Load1On
• something productive with morning?- ended up Skype-ing BIL in Aus for half an hour with MIL, so no!
• lunch & tidy kitchen DONE
• ds2 nap Doing
• dh out this afternoon
• MIL baking with DS1 (making Christmas pudding, so organised!) Doing
• newspapers
• put new Christmas reindeer away upstairs for now
• boys tea, bath & bed
• our dinner
• X-Factor & SCD
• earlyish night (with no wine! or least not very much!)

Ongoing:

• get photos of family & hang them up
• get on with friend's family tree GotFileOut
• transfer all family trees over to Mac software
• then go through 1911 census
• organise (Started), upload & order photos of boys
• fix my bike (flat tyre)
• sort out security light outside trying
• filing
• tidy mine (Started) & DH's wardrobe
• check birthdays coming up & make cards

I'm sitting here trying to decide whether to flog my hard back (complete with dust cover) Escoffier which I have just discovered could sell for £60+

TO DO
Sort Clothes
Washing
Breakfast & Lunch Dishes DONE
Tidy Kitchen DONE
Bath DD3
DD1 to trumpet lessons DONE
DD3 to musical rascals DONE
Buy something for lunch DONE

Things a bit mad today / yesterday. Not had chance to post or read through. Been playing playdoh in between breastfeeding etc. etc. Another tough night last night with DD being sick and DS wetting the bed just when she had gone to sleep . Lots to do /done but no time to list. Hope everyone is ok. We are ok but tired and in need of alcohol / chocolate. Counting down the hours to 7pm.

Todo
Bath DD
Feed DD
Bed for DD / DS
X Factor and wine
Food for me and DH
Bed

always - my MIL gave me a copy of escoffier once and i gave it to a chef he was chuffed. sell it you wont use it unless opening a restaurant.

clairey - read the thread. hope you are doing ok. did you find a place?

HMHB - hope you get a reasonable night tonight - and that you've got some chocolate in the house!!

JKS - slight at your MIL coming and getting everything so organised, hope the hangover better!

Plum - your cakes are amazing! Can you do mail order, or alternatively move to England please?

Always - DH is thinking about getting an Escoffier, is it worth getting or is it just a coffee table book really?

We've been out most of the day shopping, Ikea and John Lewis. So annoyed because I forgot to take the details of the order I placed yesterday so they couldn't let me have the stuff! I didn't have the order number with me, and I didn't even have the card I had used because about an hour after I placed the order last night the bank rang to say that they were having to cancel my card because the security had been compromised somewhere in the system! Argh. So DH will have to pop down there in the morning - I want my new pillows!

Successful in other ways though, and we have seen some things that will make good christmas pressies for a few people - along with a whole ton of stuff that we would love to get for DS if we had unlimited space and budget!!

Also seen some bedding we like, DS cut himself on one of the fastenings that has broken (don't ask) and I can't take it off without cutting the actual cover! Going to have to replace, and the ones we have are discontinued. Going to get it as our xmas pressie to each other I think, too expensive to just buy!

No normal list, but have made good progress on the ongoing one today!

Ongoing/Areas of Doom
Organise paperwork/filing
Buy some new bedding for spare room - done
Organise books
DH to sort out garage
Junk drawers in living room
Sort out photos for DS' room and put them up - gah printer is broken!
Mend my duvet covers - buyingnew!
Sort out kitchen pinboard - done
DH to change all the internal door handles
Find a painter to do the kitchen
Sort out recipes
Make Christmas list for DS - started
Make list of present ideas for friends and family - started

Ali - depends on what sort of cook he is.

this is the one I have and it's very much an encyclopaedia of food really (although has recipes in it's sort like use some bechamel sauce with some pot seared roast with x, y, z (presuming that you'd already know how to do the stuff it uses). , you're kind of expected to know what stuff is. Kinda of hard to explain but if you're novice then you'll be looking up several parts of it to cook

Evening all

I know my MIL is fab, comes, cooks, plays with kids, excellent!

HMHB - hope tonight is better.

Sat:

• recover from hangover DONE
• DH, FIL & DS1 to Dad's playgroup DONE
• DS2 nap DONE
• MIL sorting dinner Cooking
• laundry x 2 (at least) Load1InTD Load2In
• lunch & tidy kitchen DONE
• ds2 nap DONE
• dh out this afternoon DONE
• MIL baking with DS1 DONE
• newspapers
• put new Christmas reindeer away upstairs DONE
• boys tea, bath & bed DONE (DH finishing ds1)
• our dinner
• X-Factor & SCD Doing
• earlyish night (with no wine! or least not very much!)

Ongoing:

• get photos of family & hang them up
• get on with friend's family tree GotFileOut
• transfer all family trees over to Mac software
• then go through 1911 census
• organise (Started), upload & order photos of boys
• fix my bike (flat tyre)
• sort out security light outside trying
• filing
• tidy mine (Started) & DH's wardrobe
• check birthdays coming up & make cards