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Fledglings Flying into Jubilee June

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ExtremelyDedicated · 31/05/2022 22:40

Hello everyone, and welcome to the June Flylady thread.

We welcome newbies and returnees - if you are curious about the system feel free to ask questions or lurk! We do follow it, erm, loosely to say the least. So there is a lot of chat about random life stuff as well as housework, decluttering and organising.

A key element of flylady is not being a perfectionist. Most of us here are not naturals at housekeeping etc, so please don’t feel we are some intimidating group who demand perfectly shined sinks. We are human. We fall off the wagon. We commiserate and help each other climb back on, and we stock the virtual naughty corner with snacks and blankets for the days when adulting is just too hard.

So, the system:
🔹Some baby steps which are designed to help you build up a routine.
🔹Daily missions to help with sprucing up particular areas in the zones, for example the first zone of the month is the entry/porch and dining room if you have one.

🔹Try and do 15 minutes decluttering a day. It didn’t get cluttered in a week so it will take a lot longer to clear it!

🔹Daily focuses to help shape the week.
🔹Here on the thread many of us post to do lists, but also “ta da” lists of things we’ve achieved that day.
🔹We also recommend the Power of Three technique - if you’re overwhelmed with too much to do, just pick three things and don’t think about the rest.

Anyway, I will post some links each day (hopefully) but whether you follow the system or not - many of us just take the bits we like or build our own flylady style system to suit our own lives - do join in if you want a place to chat about keeping a house and family running!

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HillsBesideTheSea · 04/06/2022 14:32

Thanks bean however as fucking painfull as it is already and the fact it is right where bra back strap hits I am going to swerve the salt water. I have lots of options including tcp should i feel the need to go down that terrifying path in history to school days. HmmGrin

Sorry you are feeling so rough That hope you feel better soon and that the little people allow you to recover .

apparently Covid is causing me to kick the coffee habit Hmm my brain feels way more rested than it has done in a long time and it is not from extra sleep. Wibu to hope that covid is giving me super powers or just ousting the chronic illnesses ?

CurseYouPerryThePlatypus · 04/06/2022 14:50

Hey that 🌸 yep well there is a messenger group from a couple of years back but very happy to do WhatsApp too and people can join one/both/neither! As I know some prefer WhatsApp/don’t use FB. Feel free to PM!
Wow that’s huge re the man child. Xx

I am currently sitting in town watching the world go by, sipping a bubble tea. The others got the bus home, I’ll follow in a bit. Got all my town related errands done from my half term list anyway. Ignoring the housework today!

THATissooFETCH · 04/06/2022 14:56

Think id be down for whatsapp maybe!

Yes it is massive. Early days. 3 days total. Telling that DC havent questionned his where abouts yet

BeanAnTae · 04/06/2022 15:57

That 😁 manchild deserveth no less.

BloomingHazel · 04/06/2022 16:34

hills 💐 I hope you make a quick recovery and that the disappearance of your other ailments continues. With the feeling of dehydration etc, maybe try adding some pink Himalayan salt to a glass of water (if you have any). I find it's better than regular table salt as it has magnesium in it too.
that 😱 the DC haven't even noticed the man child has been gone for 3 days!! Does the air feel better with him gone?
Perry good to see you back! Love the name change too 😍 you have had some massive lists. Enjoy your bubble tea (not quite sure what that is!). I love people watching
zoo I hope your DDs are feeling better today. My DD would get really bad cramping, feel nauseous too, so I got her on the lowest dose birth control pill and never looked back! Ibuprofen was also a lifesaver with heavy days, for both of us (I've been on the same stuff for years and it reduced my flow to barely spotting now). I love using hot water bottles too.
Up I hope your DD is feeling better 💐
Waves to everybody else 👋

Ta Das: (so far today, it's only just 9:30am)
🇬🇧 prepped food for slow cooker, for dinner tonight
🇬🇧 rinsed off guide colour of the self tanner I applied last night (lots of self care involved last night - body scrub and shaving) then moisturised
🇬🇧 drank one cup of coffee, need to go make my 2nd cup still

We are starting to get back to a new normal as far as dinners go with ILs. They are coming over here tonight, something that they haven't been able to do for 6 months, when they brought grandma home. MIL looks so much more relaxed, she was worrying about her mom for 6 years, when she first had her stroke. So it does seem like a burden has been lifted off her shoulders, even though it's sad to lose grandma, she really hasn't been herself for years, and now she is at peace. She actually didn't want any of the care she did have, but she hadn't signed a DNR, and legally they had to do everything they could to save her initially. After her stroke she wasn't able to sign one, but MIL put one in place as soon as she could (she knew her mom's wishes and became her guardian).

Anyway, I best get my 2nd cup of coffee! I work tomorrow so taking advantage of my day off.

Stilllivinginazoo · 04/06/2022 17:10

that<proffers hug,carefully avoiding the work germs as still got covid fatigue that won't fuck off>☕.
Hillsinteresting the chronic stuffs are less if an issue.i was dizzy and had chronic palpitations/breathlessness but not sure dehydrated it just old and broken🤣🤣🤣
<Waves everyone>
Thanks for kind wishes.both girls are as human as teens resemble now!
Had go source gaviscon advance peppermint(very difficult) for dd2 which involved hour each way walk.nap after lunch.then taught her how to crochet a granny square now I've got the hang of it!
Has red been back since the update here?
Two LOL done,dry and away
Checked online delivery order before time lapses(delivery is 530-630 tom.i LOVE the early Sunday slot.no one else ever wants it and it suits me just fine!)

BloomingHazel · 04/06/2022 18:00

Red has been back on once since mn updated, she said she had troubles getting on here, it has been a while though. zoo it's good to hear that both DDs are doing better 😊
I'm still currently sitting on the couch, having had my 2nd cup of coffee! BUT my back is starting to hurt, so time to get up and get things done

HillsBesideTheSea · 04/06/2022 18:20

Zoo i was talking about it with a friend and i think it is more of a case that I am so used to the pain, exhaustion, muscles spasms, not being able to breathe, brain fog etc etc that what i am experiencing with covid doesn't rank.

But i am really glad that i have a policy of batch cooking so i can grab something out of the freezer and should into oven so people are fed without effort. Not worrying about germs because like i said 3rd man down. And people gotta eat and as usual i am the responsible grown up

Thanks hazel i have a full trace element/electrolyte routine cos this wimp-ass body seems to think it is a good idea to heat stroke and heat exhaustion in the wimpy English weather. All components firmly in the house.
The line the girls are as human as teenager get made me giggle - such truth!

Sorry I missed the significance That I hope that you are able to find a sense of peace and ability to move forwards. Stupid men children.

Bubble tea and ignoring the to do list sounds perfect Perry

Dancingtomusic · 04/06/2022 22:54

Hills- hope you dont do too much.

That- hope you are ok without man child. Work germs are shit!

Ed- Kirsty Young is so brave to be open about her illness! God bless her as it will help others in position.

Up- hope your dd1 is ok?

Perry- bubble tea sounds lovely.
Hazel- weldone for all the self care!
Bean- did you watch anymore jubilee things?
Zoo- glad both your dds are feeling better.

Chez dancing is a unhappy place.

Marriage is at breaking point.
So exhusted by crap - i need to sleep.

THATissooFETCH · 05/06/2022 00:15

Dancing im sorry you also have relationship shit

House is weird without the man child

I dont really like locking up and turning everything off to come to bed. He used to do that. I get about obsessive with checking things are really off / locked and find it quite stressful

Ive just ordered more fire alarms because that stresses me out too. We already have three.

Weird mood tonight

hills i hope you recover soon

hazel sorry for your loss

Dancingtomusic · 05/06/2022 06:39

That- hope you get some rest overnight. Its good if you have ordered somemore fire alarms if you need them. Sending you a huge hugs!

THATissooFETCH · 05/06/2022 07:33

Thanks dancing i dont know that we do really need them but hopefully itll settle my mind a little

I didnt sleep well, must have been awake 5/6 times and then dc4 (5) was up before 7am

Stilllivinginazoo · 05/06/2022 09:18

Deffo need more☕then that
Dancingsorry things are crumby at yours.
I have the "luxury" of just not replying to texts to come over!there's been passive aggressive texts as he's tenancy ends end month and I made clear ain't stay here.ive got more than enough stress already without him adding to the chaos...

Tada.
Up at stupid o'clock for my online delivery to arrive(heavy stuff)
Put away
Get brekkie organised.
Write list for stuff we can carry(only place I can guarantee delivery is ocado,but too expensive for full shop)
Pay some online bills
Best put clothes on and get going
Hope everyone has a good day!

Stilllivinginazoo · 05/06/2022 09:19

*to clarify I wasn't naked when "Matt in the fig van" arrived with the shopping!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

THATissooFETCH · 05/06/2022 10:35

Tbf i bet they see all sorts delivering at that time!

ExtremelyDedicated · 05/06/2022 10:55

Morning all,

That from what you have said in the past I’m not altogether surprised at the departure of the manchild, but I imagine it’s still a huge adjustment and can’t have been an easy decision, Fledglings are here to hold your hand.

Dancing - Fledglings are here for you too, MrD it seems does not cover himself in glory in the husbanding department either.

Zoo - yes, I bet nothing fazes the ocado drivers.

Hills good that the batch cooking and other essentials are all in place, top Flying marks.

Hazel I’m glad things are falling into place for your ILs following DGrandma’s death, it is always sad to say goodbye but it sounds as though life will be easier for them from now on.

Up - hope DD is feeling a bit better today.

I am lounging on the sofa with DD watching the Jubilee concert (we were out last night). Need to go and make some goodies for Jubilee picnic this afternoon in a bit.

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BeanAnTae · 05/06/2022 11:02

Zoo 😁 poor delivery people see lots of stuff I imagine.

Dancing sorry to hear your partner is not being supportive and to That too 🌷. It must be very hard. I have parents who don't get on and it is very hard to be in such a relationship.

Dancing - I'm not from the UK and my country has a presidential system but we raised a glass to Her Majesty. It was very low key up here in Scotland. I am concerned that the Queen is looking frail and I do hope that it is just very old age and not illness.

I enjoyed watching the VIPs in frocks. I'd never manage high heels so I'm slightly fascinated by all the tottering around!

Currently I'm Googling Queen Maxima of the Netherlands as she's a hoot and has a very distinct dress style.

I've also been googling Dutch homes - their style is quite similar to my home in Scotland - small hall and stairs, then into living, dining, kitchen. My word the stairs look LETHAL - twisty and shallow.😱

BeanAnTae · 05/06/2022 11:06

Red if you are reading, I do hope all is okay with you. I know your sister is unwell and I hope she is still okay. I love hearing about your pottering, your garden and your trips and church life. All well here with me - we are tackling the garden at the moment. Blue skies up here in Aberdeen - positively tropical!!!

CurseYouPerryThePlatypus · 05/06/2022 11:19

Morning all. Just about. Had trouble sleeping last night but then slept till 9!!! Took a while sorting DD1 out - she and her friends are going on a day trip sans adults, so various booking and calculating what friends owed etc.

DH is working today and I have heaps to do - lots of little bits from my half term list that I really have no excuse to do, plus various bog standard Sunday type things. First though, taking Cagletini and DS to the park for a quick play/pokemon hunt.

Dancingtomusic · 05/06/2022 11:40

Thanks, That, zoo, Ed and Bean.

I felt so lonely last night as I cannot let my dad know what has been said. I am going to have to pretend all is ok. Cant tell my bro either.
Told my sister - thank goodness she had 5 minutes to relay the important bits.

I am staying positive and cheerful for the kids. My natural 'i will cope with anything' nature has kicked in and I am staying focused on what needs doing in the house. MrDckhead said that state of the house is driving him insane. I told him I live in fear- so I stopped talking so I wouldnt get my head bitten off. I told him now both kids have gone to fulltime school it leaves a empty nest feeling and most marriages struggle at this point. Losing his mum has been terrible for my marriage- thats why I cried so much.
This morning we have managed to talk briefly about the kids and it stayed light and positive.

There is something significant going on outside my family house- which is a possible big step. Pm and I will tell you. I feel like I am carrying a huge wardrobe on my shoulders and trying not to buckle.

Todo-

  • empty the last bits of stuff from sitting so MrD feels like he wud sit down - (I would rather he didnt. And he piss off into his Den.)
  • sofa of doom- has got to such a huge problem- now it shall be renamed ' Marriage breakdown sofa.'
This has to be cleared by the end of today. This is a huge task.
  • figure out if I can manage to take the kids to my dads- so dad is happy or continue down marriage breakdown path of more insults about clutter.

Mmmm, difficult choice.

🍒👋everyone.

HillsBesideTheSea · 05/06/2022 14:19

that you can never have too many fire alarms imo

Also on that note TEST your fire alarms

Totally get the door thing. Thankfully i can get ds to double check i have done the locks to stop the cycle but the way he communicates i suspect that is more effective in deterring anything. Hmm Grin

Saw a thing on youtube shorts yesterday that went along the lines of (and i am paraphrasing a bit):

"the reason why so many men are disappointed to have girls is that they know they will have to spend a lifetime protecting them from everything they have spent years convincing other women doesn't happen."

Also mn give me my damn keyboard hotkeys back, i dont want to be pissing about having to click a god damn popup every fricking time i want to insert an emoji. On that note - do you think we have lost our halloween and easter and christmas special emojis because that would be sad. Sad

Dancing - sorry about the significant thing. I hope that it can be resolved in the right manner. Just remember significant things can also impact marriages. Makes everyone tense and unpredictable. BUT no excuse for being dickheads and not trying to be kind. Hopefully Mr Dickhead gets his head out of his arse soon.

And yes someone will probably tell me they have changed the rules and no swearing allowed. That would be a sad sad day.

Forgive the extra spelling mistakes of late, mn has been eating all the text around the spelling error when you right click to select the correct spelling for me of late, so i have given up and allowed my posts to be way more chaotically spelt then usual. Blush

Red i hope you are doing ok

Hope everyone is able to enjoy today and be properly prepared for the coming week.

Ta da
Communicate with people
sort out contact details for various stuff
deal with drama - always with the drama Hmm
get far too little sleep 2hrs -sigh
figure out what to do about our super spreader. It is not just a covid issue but they bring coughs, colds etc back and then spread it about with the carelessness of a preschooler/ receptionist
make bread dough
Look at state of other bread and try to figure out where all the other big bowls are hiding in ds' room as he has been fending for self food wise for a while
Deal with the potatoes that were prepped for batch cooking and then forgotten about - not harm they just need 2 hrs processing today, to cool and then put in a jar.

I need to figure out what i have the ability to do as insomnia makes me dangerous in the kitchen. But the only high tech feature i love is the setting that turns the cooker off at the end of the timer. That thing saves my butt waaaaay to often. And i really want pizza for tea! but that requires some bench and washing up taming as well as the making of the pizza....

Dancingtomusic · 05/06/2022 17:40

perry- hello! Sorry i didnt see your message! Its good you caught up with your sleep. Hope your ds and dd1 enjoyed pokemon hunting.

Hills- hope you get a chance to rest at some point.
The Youtube short is true.

Dancingtomusic · 05/06/2022 17:47

Oops pressed send by mistake.

Being married is hard work- but glad to report that lines of communication are open now. Perimenopause has alot to answer for - its definately impacted my marriage.

Tadas-
Watched the jubilee coverage on bbc1- loved all the amazing costumes and such interesting things! I was cheering and had a tear in my eye at the end! Goodness that beautiful parade has cheered my heart up!

🍒👋 everyone!

BloomingHazel · 05/06/2022 23:06

Yesterday I didn't do much, lots of relaxing, watching my show. We did have my ILs come over for dinner, which was nice. I had prepared an easy dinner that cooked in the slow cooker all day.
Today I was at work at my 2nd job, ended up leaving early as I didn't feel good, not sure what it is. After eating lunch I took a nap for an hour and a half! I feel more refreshed, but still not better. I made myself some chamomile tea with honey to see if that helps. If not, I'm reaching for a hot toddy!

Sorry to hear of your marriage troubles Dancing & That I hope things improve for the both of you, one way or another.

CurseYouPerryThePlatypus · 05/06/2022 23:16

Evenin’ all. Not caught up yet just dropping lists before sleep.

YesTaDa
🇬🇧walked to town
🇬🇧library trip with Cagletini
🇬🇧a few errands like buying replacement jeggings
🇬🇧put Cagletini to bed
🇬🇧organised plans for teen outing on Sunday, money etc

Trying to remember if I did anything else of note 🤔🙈 probably not, was shattered after town trip.

Ta Da
🎈took Cagletini to the park for aaaaages
🎈put laundry away
🎈uni reading
🎈laminated various things
🎈decluttered DS’ clothes - bag for rags, bag to wash for friend’s son

Again not sure if that’s all, I haven’t kept track very well this weekend. Today was frustrating as I know there was lots more I could have got done from my half term list, but it was difficult between being tired/achy from the park, needing to keep an eye on Cagletini who was at risk of danger napping etc. Period pain kicking me hard this month too 🤔🙄

Annoyingly I also felt too tired to do the getting ready for the week ahead stuff. But I don’t have an early start tomorrow or anything so not too disastrous really.

Night! 🍒👋