FLYing Babysteppers, Graduates and Newbies

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This is a thread for anyone who feels daunted by the grown-up FLY thread!!! Particularly those who:
Are starting FLYing (Newbies)
Have just finished babysteps (Graduates)
Or
Are experienced FLYBabies but, for whatever reason, want or need to babystep again (Babysteppers)

Here are links to the mission page, the sneak peek page and the Riley challenge page.

And those all important reminders:
Mon reminder
Tue reminder
Wed reminder
Thur reminder
Fri reminder
Sat reminder
Sun reminder

I am a babysteps graduate. I don't FLY everyday, but on the days I do, I really find it helps.

Shannara I think we decided to just stick with one thread until it's full.

Right, full of energy, ready to get started. Going to compose my thoughts and will be back in a bit. I'm determined to have a good week because DSD is away on a school trip so I can get her room straight. Also need to put holiday washing away.

funnypeculiar thankyou

this is all because of you

Dont know how long it will last but today I feel good

Trinity, you are a star!

Tiger, you are not the only one whose DC made an eraly start.

The change from Summer Time and the third cold in six weeks has put DD well out of kilter. She woke well before 6 (after struggling to settle last night and several calls during the night), so I had not even started to FLY/babystep.

Went downstairs to prepare bottle, found there was no boiled water, then discovered that dog had pooed in the study .

Anyway, back on the wagon now...

ignore the new thread i did i didn't actualy think it was going to work.

Ello

Full time school - surely I can keep on top of it again now?!

Go Trinity, Go Trinity, Go Trinity

Right, washing in (have about 1000 loads post holiday , sink shiny, phone call made to creditcard company (blagged back a late charge ), off to do my 15 mins decluttering....

Rebel - hope you found your paperwork...

Well done Trinity I'm really proud of you.

Been reading through and want to say a few things:

Trinty, I?ve just read and posted on your other thread. I?m so glad for you! See babystep 20, it might help.

Unknownrebelbang, it?s amazing what really over exaggerating praise when used with hardly any censure can achieve. I?ve had a really large, aggressive teenage boy, swearing his head off at me because I set homework he don?t like. I tactically ignored his loudness, said ?language? quietly and calmly, and then really over praised another lad for brilliant homework, really good effort so pleased with you, have two merits, I?ll tell your form tutor, keep it up, you?ll do well in life. The next bit of homework from the bulshy lad was actually done!!! Seriously, whilst I was ready to scream back, calmly telling off and gushing praise, so long as it?s sincere, does work!!! Don?t praise getting out of bed, or anything like that. I didn?t ever say ?oh well done, you came to school? or anything!

Shannaratiger, here?s how I understand FLYLady?s babysteps:
To start babysteps go here everyday. Follow the instructions day by day. They are not difficuly and are often really quick.

My advice is if you don?t feel like doing something one day, then don?t!!! Take it as slowly as you want. Also, if something doesn?t suit you, don?t do it! TBH I don?t read the reminders!!!

Once you feel ready (and it?s on day 13 I think you can start looking at Kelly?s Missions, which is why I have included the link to the mission page and the sneak peek page, which sums up all the week?s mission in one place.

The reminders are simply a tool to remind you to do certain jobs. Like I said, I don?t read them. I just read my control journal.

Finally, the Riley challenge is for children, to help get them involved in cleaning and clearing up.

Oops ? spelling ? difficult, not difficuly!

I just wanted to ask you guys, what are your daily lists? Are they really long, or really simple?
Mine are:

Morning Routine

1. Get dressed
2. Make bed
3. Take dirty clothes downstairs and put laundry on
4. Breakfast and clear away
5. Check calendar for today's events
6. Bathroom swish and swipe

Afternoon Routine

1. Lunch and clear away
2. Put clean laundry away
3. Weekly Home Blessing activity
4. Kelly?s Mission
5. 2 minute hot spot
6. 15 minutes zone work (declutter/clean) or errands

Evening Routine

1. Dinner and clear away
2. Shine sink
3. Lay breakfast table and fill kettle
4. Prepare DH packed lunch
5. Check calendar for tomorrow?s events
6. Pick out tomorrow?s clothes

I feel that things like shower, brush teeth etc. I already did so don?t need to put on a list. But I didn?t always get dressed straight away in the morning, nor was my washing under any kind of control. Morning was a mad rush, and now I feel calm in the morning. The house is still full of clutter, but I think I?m getting there!

Plus I love posting here and feeling like there are people who know exactly where I?m coming from!

Sorry for so many long and pointless posts today!

Morning all

Well done Trinity, glad choosing a different babystep worked for you, keep it up!

DS is saintly, he actually had the best sleep ever Saturday night, so we actually did benefit from the extra hour from the clocks going back! I couldn't believe it. Less good last night but still!

Cinders my routine looks like this

Morning
Dressed to shoes and make up
Make bed
Hotspot
Sink
Kitchen worksurfaces
Dishwasher (when I have a new one )
Washing on
Swish and swipe downstairs loo
Possibly 5 minute room rescue

Afternoon
Fold and put away washing
15 minutes declutter
Mission

Evening
Sink
DIshwasher on
Kitchen worksurfaces
Hotspot
Clothes for tomorrow
Swish and swipe bathroom

Off to finish morning routine now, catch up later

So not too detailed

Hi Cinders, thanks for the advice and the list.
i have some of the routines under control eg:

1. get up and make bed
2. Take washing through with me and put it on straight away 3)Breakfast and clear away, straight away. Shining the sink. these have already saved loads of time, eg. by the time i leave for playschool at 11 the washing is sometimes washed dried and put away rather than still sitting in the washing machine. i am still struggling on keeping to the cleaning routines eg. 2 minute hotspot, 15 minute zone work. Like u say though i'm getting there.

Thank you guys. Have been feeling LOW about house all weekend, v. overwhelmed, ds brought a tummy bug home so had that on top of morning sickness and lay on sofa all day feeling everything was impossible, but having seen other people getting through has REALLY HELPED. Especially Trinity's post about feeling shit in the evenings which brilliantly summed up how my evenings have felt recently. I will focus on getting clothes ready too this week.

I have SO much resistance to this stuff that I self-sabotage constantly - I just get it going and then it all falls apart again - my mum is a neurotic anxious 3-vacuums-a-day housecleaner and I suspect it comes from that - but since it's 17 years since I left home I can't blame her forever!

This week I commit to:

• getting clothes ready for me and ds the night before
• turning negative thoughts into positive ones
• posting on this thread once a day

now must do some work!!

Good morning, as a recent graduate with Jas I just wanted to say I was really apprehensive in joining the main FLY thread, but they are lovley and made me feel really welcome.

So please come on over and try a dip in our pool of FLYing - the water is warm and we will be very gentle with you.

Hi systemaddict glad you're feeling more positive this morning.
Was thinking earlier about stuff and thought about day 5 task, that i didn't do, about negative thoughts. I have realised that alot of my mess is due to listening to those negative voices telling me that i can't do anything right & am messy etc. Like you am going to try and turn them into positive thoughts that i can be a good mum, keep the flat tidy and be more organised.
Also i am allowed to sit down on the computer without feeling guilty.

Hello all. I'm having a good day today so, even though the house looks a complete state post-holiday, I'm feeling virtuous.

Cinders, to answer your question, my list looks like:

Wake up
Up, make bed, get dressed and put make up on
Swipe bathroom
Empty dishwasher
Load washing machine
2 minute hotspot
Check calendar
Make DSD's packed lunch

DS's morning nap
15 minute declutter
Kelly's mission
5 minute room rescue
Swipe ensuite and toilet
Make other beds
Hang out clean washing

DS's lunchtime nap
Decide on food for tea
Complete one admin task from to do list

Bedtime
2 minute hotspot
Put dishwasher on
Put bin bag out
Swipe kitchen
Shine sink
Put clothes out for tomorrow

This week the 15 minute declutter and the 5 minute room rescue are being replaced by a general mucking out of DSD's bedroom while she's on a school trip. Spent about half an hour in there this morning.

My name is Moodlum and I keep failing to keep up with flying, babysteps, reminders and all that malarky.

Am I too late to join your lovely clean organised thread and try and get my house back on track?

I shined my sink last night and put the washing away as soon as it was dry so I'm on the right track surely?

My name is daisy and I failed the to keep up with the babysteps miserably as well...I went on holiday for a couple of weeks and don't know where I am with it.

Hi cinders . Congrats on your graduation....

my house is reasonably tidy though and I'm still shining my sink (it's my new obsession) so something must have sunk in!

Back to normality tomorrow after the hols so will try to get back on track and actually write down some routines!

I'm not MNetting as much either so will dip into the fly threads when I can.

good luck to all!

grrr just done a long post and lost it!

Well done Trinity, hope you've had a good day today.

Bienchen, how's dd?

Hello Flame, course you can do it!

Cinders - funny thing is I'm good with other people's children (school/cubs etc) and I have the patience of a saint when dealing with some of the offenders I work with...my own boys drive me maaad, lol.

Systemaddict - your mum sounds like my mam was. You either follow or rebel - my brother followed, I rebelled.

Madscaryhouse - thanks for the invite, not sure I'm ready just yet, lol.

Hello Moodlum. Find a step that works for you (see Trinity's posts) and start at that point instead.

Hello Daisy. Jump back in!

My list is quite small. I'm still doing the bare minimum, but building up gradually.

I'm also getting DH on board. He's always done his fair share, but I'm asking him to do specific tasks that fall in with the plan, rather than leaving him to his own devices.

DH's shifts, and all the activities the boys do, mean we don't have two days together the same, so the routine can be a bit hit and miss when DH is not around.

Morning:
Exercise bike and get ready
En Suite and downstairs loo, quick flash.
(need to incorporate main bathroom into this).
Make the bed - DH still in it.

Whenever:
(depending on commitments: either myself or DH complete the various tasks)
Laundry - done.
Mission - done.
Hot spot - done.
Five min room rescue - done
15 minutes - to do - still in the bedroom.
My personal 15 mins - MN will have to do today.

Evening:
Prepare tea (DH if he's around).
Think about tea for tomorrow.
Shiny Sink (includes dishwasher/worksurfaces) - to do.
Clothes ready for me, uniform sorted, but not the PE kits.

Unknownrebelbang ? no idea how I?ll be with my own teenager(s?) as my DS is only 18 months at the moment!! And Ds is good with jobs I ask him to do. In fact, have started his list and he checks it every evening!! How good is that?

Moodlum ? I agree with unknownrebelbang, find just one step that works for you and keep on with that for a while. Don?t try anything else until that sticks!!

Hi Daisy < Cinders trying to rub yucky mould out of her hair >, come in, join us, and bewail the fact that today I?ve done nothing, which tends to be my cry!!!

Shannaratiger, my fave thoughts are ?A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step?, Lao Tzu and ?To climb steep hills requires a slow pace at first?, Shakespeare.

SA, how are you doing with sorting your clothes? One thing at a time!! Keep with us hon!

Morning all.

I've just found DSD's diary clearing out her room (bit of a give away really, it was behind the only neatly stacked pile of books).

I haven't read it but I'm all shaken up, it's bound to be all about what a terrible stepmother I am.