Swish through September 2019 with the fledglings - Flylady thread

[ChicCroissant]

Let's swish and swipe our way through September, decluttering as we go with the Flylady! We have a mix of old and new fledglings and everyone is welcome to join us for chat and motivation. Thanks to Stressy for running a fabulous August thread!

The Flylady Launch Pad is the place to start each day - each week focuses on a different zone of the house to clean if you have decluttered it first (can't clean clutter) and you can also follow the Babysteps if you'd like to introduce one new element each day and build on that.

If you like to plan in advance, the weekly Sneak Peek will give you advance notice of the missions and zone coming up, it changes each weekend.

The monthly focus for September is making the bed.

Tidy be kind to yourself, grief can be a bumpy path to walk down with no two days the same.

zoo I wish I could rear some indoor curries, I'm the only one that eats them.

Some impressive lists there ladies, I am shattered (again!) but I do think the antibiotics are working really well.

Have not got stuff ready for tomorrow and the room - which I carefully tidied today - looks terrible again!

Launch Pad link and the Babystep about menu planning and knowing what is for dinner.

Yes thank you tidy DH still not convinced but TBH I am the one doing most of the finding out etc (I’m much better connected with the local autism groups etc so I’m getting lots of info that way) and if DD wants to try it then that’s what’s happening, there’s not many things where one of us would “overrule” the other, but this is precisely that.

It’s not an academic school at all and it actually has a crap reputation which is why it’s got a space, but it’s newly turned around by a much stricter HT. DD doesn’t need academic pushing, she needs support to manage what she can, frankly. The other school we looked round was beautiful, but I felt intimidated thinking how on earth would she manage there, she would have to be in every class etc. I would have loved it for 12yo me! But DD is so different and the support centre with all the options to leave the mainstream class etc is just perfect. I really thought DD would object to being different from the main class but actually she responded very positively to the idea of being in smaller groups for some subjects, and the idea of having a very staggered start.

Just need to decide when to apply now, which is a whole other scary decision! And we really need to start the EHCP like yesterday. And look for nursery places for the toddler too. I’m drowning in admin! We have another support worker person coming next week to help with DLA too 😭

Throat still sore 😡😡😡

Hugs to all. Air hugs, to avoid spread of germs!

Laputa sounds perfect,wish ds could go there too....we just wrote letter to LA starting EHCP for D's,and applied DLA so totally in same boat on paperwork front!lil zoo can't wait til year 8 when they do dance for pe.school has fab Aircon studio which she has been using for open ballet classes the past year(sends Germfree hugs)
Tidy I find a good cry a release sometimes
Chic glad sorted internet tictok is deadly here for losing time!
Foxes we often did painting in the garden

Morning fledglings!

Good luck with the paperwork Laputa and zoo, it can be tedious and repetitive but a necessary evil.

Will try and stay off the laptop a bit today as I did get quite a bit done yesterday but even I missed YouTube while I was working. Will be spending today trying to connect our many devices to the new hub which is working well.

See you at lunch!

Laputa it maybe hasn’t a good reputation for being academic enough but is a community school that offers a caring , included curriculum which is important. It sounds like she is really keen to go there perhaps it just feels right.

Tidy agree with others sometimes a good cry is what you need. I felt better after one last week. I’ve been doing quite a lot this last few weeks. You have more to cry about than me let the tears flow. I feel for you.🌺

DH has retired. He is really happy( quite merry) he bumped into an old colleague on the station and had a few drinks with some of them before they went for separate trains. I can’t believe it. Our lives have been so full with kids and routines and disappointments because dad isn’t there for special birthdays or Christmas or New Year and now the travelling and worry about safety is all finished. I just hope I can get through the next few weeks. So sad and a bit angry that this ‘ thing’ has marred our happy time. It isn’t the first time either that special occasions have been spoilt by someone or something else. I just hope it is all cleared up and we can move on to a new chapter in our lives.

I might be on YouTube.🤐

What do you watch?

Ta da
Beds made
Kids are clean, fed and at school
Dishwasher emptied
Started a general tidy of the living room but got distracted by making coffee

Waiting for a phone call back from our doctor. A few weeks ago dd2 was sat playing on the floor and there was a crack, she screamed and held the back of her head. I was sat with her and know she didn't bang it or move a funny way , after she stopped crying she was completely fine so I kept an eye on her and all seemed well. This morning it's happens again , no cracking sound , just screamed all of a sudden and said the back of her head hurt, we were all sat at the breakfast table so we know she hasn't hurt herself, felt where she said it hurt and the base of her skull is swollen on the right hand side she's a bit sniffly so I'm hoping it's just her immune system doing its thing but I will relax more when she's had a check over by the doctor. Took a break from the chores to have a coffee to calm the nerves !

For a second bower I thought you’d made a YouTube video!

I’m just faffing online.

Cagletini has been lining up bricks, according to colour 😂

Tidy Wise to see the GP I hope she is alright. I wonder if it is her neck.

Laputa Ha HA! No I haven't made one but I have been filmed with other people and we have several on YouTube. We didn't put them on, onlookers did.

Oh bless her.
Faffing : Me too I am trying to get through to someone but they are on the phone. I don't want to forget to do it so I am sitting trying again and again. It is an engaged signal but what signal do you get if a mobile is switched off? He could be working

Excuse the crappy “through the high chair legs” photo (she does have a nappy on btw 😂)

Argh still feel crappy and unmotivated. Having a total day off, DD is at a sleepover anyway.

And I’m all unsettled because my therapist has had to postpone. I was really needing that appt on Friday. Damn.

tidy I too would be a bit freaked by that.hope the doc is able to tell you what's happening
Laputa aw,how cute.i miss brick lining days❤️

Tada
Girls up and off to school(dd2 still isn't great but did manage upright and she can watch new season her favourite show tonight so that's bolstering her a bit)
Wash up
S+s bathroom
Two loads laundry
Pop farmfoods(DP drove us as not super local)
Wrote email complaint regarding housing mess up organising a repair(and rang contractor directly and arranged job to be done Monday)
Poineers of tectonic plates with D's
Now for lunch...

bower I hope it's all sorted soon .

Laputa my ds used to do that with his cars all in lines, he was always very particular about it and would go crazy if anyone touched them or mixed them up

Doctor was absolutely rubbish, kept saying 'toddlers do bump themselves and cry' - she was sat stationary both times!! The swelling has gone down now so he couldn't feel that but just for her to cry out is so uncharacteristic for her and for the area to swell and then go down is more concerning. I've recorded, if it happens again I will go back and stomp my feet or take her to out of hours, you know when you just know that what happened isn't normal. It's very frustrating because I'm not a panicky/overprotective mum, I don't take the kids or myself to the docs very often but when I do I come out more frustrated each time. We used to have a lovely doctor who was very thorough but she's on maternity leave, this doctor is just shocking. Rant over

Tada
Met mil at dd2 nursery for Macmillan coffee morning
Took dd2 to the docs
Walked around the dining room to see if I can figure out where the damp smell is coming from - still haven't figure it out.

To do
Figure out what to make with the mince I browned yesterday (any suggestions welcome )
Forget about the doctor and hope that it doesn't happen to dd2 again

Hi all, back from highly enjoyable d🐎 wrangling.

Desperately trying to keep my temper here and not spoil the holiday atmosphere! DD and friend didn't get up in time to come with me this morning (fair enough they were up late chatting & listening to music) and DH has taken them out to lunch. Trouble is, they have all left the place in an absolute state. Breakfast dishes, mugs, coats, muddy boots, cables, books, files have been left all over the place, and muddy dogs have been allowed on sofa cover & on duvet covers which I've only just washed (because no one could be bothered to shut bedroom doors I imagine). . Sorry I know it's very much a first world problem, and I appreciate how lucky I am, but it's as if living between two places is making dh some people think they can trash one and just move to the next and trash that too. I am really losing the cleaning battle ATM. Dd doesn't lift a finger currently either and if I ask her to do something she says I am being "horrible" and "unfair" and a massive row ensues so I don't ask which is probably the wrong thing but I can't take any more angst!

Right had better start cleaning now as we have guests coming at 6 pm!

Waves to all!

Tidy I hope your dd2 is ok x

Bowerbird having lived in S Lakes, I think I can guess which small excellent supermarket chain that is . Shame they didn't have what you want! Hope you can get it sorted. Well done on whipping the house in to shape!

And huge congrats on your dh's retirement! I can genuinely say that I completely and utterly understand the pressures and full on relentless stress that having a travelling/workaholic DH brings. Apart from them being absent on special occasions, they are usually at their worst when they are home owing to the fact that they have given their all to their job and are stressed out, tired, grumpy etc or engaged in the next project so not really "present". Now the pressure is off, I hope things work out well for you both

Chic glad abs kicking in!

Laputa really lovely photo bless her and school sounds great!

Grabs mop/hoover and waves to everyone else!

Laputa WOW JUST WOW isn't she clever! Lovely to have another photo too.

ThanksTidy Should be sorted by October. Thinking about making my Christmas Cake. MMM Next week. I have the buffet to sort first.

SC mm yummy but a bit pricey. Friend rang as she is in Newcastle today so she bought loads over there then we will have a run out on * when she gets there and get the rest and maybe stop at the well known shop next door for a coffee and cake. Won't have time to browse and buy things you never knew you needed!
DH woke up about 11.50am and commented on his lateness i wasn't surprised. we went to a nearby chemist and co op and I made him lunch he is now asleep sitting up on the sofa. Been there about an hour. I think we might go tomorrow am instead. I'm ready to go.

Put the radio on SC and you'll get through it what an inconsiderate pair! I would be very cross.

Thanks Bower I'm nearly three quarters of my way through the worst of it (and the worst of my temper ) and I've got to go and see a man about a barn door now! Safe travelling and hope it all goes well for you and your friend! Ha! to "Won't have time to browse and buy things you never knew you needed!" Oh yes indeed, have succumbed to that in my time!

My DH gets exhausted like that too! When I'm not cross with him , I worry because he works until he drops. Trouble is he goes distant, curt and monosyllabic too and you tend to think you've done something wrong. Then they talk a bit and you realise it's not about you; it's about work. Then you feel sad that it isn't ever about you ... and it is always about work . [Plays tiny violin]

Tidy sorry, managed to miss your post about doctor being crap. You are right to trust your instincts.

Right, onwards the brave!

Meant to say I'm three quarters through the worst of tidying up everyone else's crap! Haven't started on the proper cleaning yet! Going to be a full on rush when I get back. Thankfully very simple roast chicken and salad for dinner.

Have a good evening everyone!

SC total sympathy on mess of others.dd2is my go to helper but with huge amount work plus revision she has become very grumpy if asked to even pick up behind herself and I have retreated to a muttering under breath mum and I shovel clear up behind everyone!

Dp in a mood
Girls just walked in like drowned rats,dd2 sniffing every two seconds and scarlet faced again

Well done for the cleaning sc, hopefully they'll clear up after themselves next time ........ however from my experience, no amount of nagging / asking makes any difference to my kids. They are fairly good if I actually ask them to do something specific , but would step over mess rather than put away - it's like they don't see it.

Bower Christmas cake

Eeee zoo sending and good luck for the evening ahead ! Hopefully dd2 isn't too poorly.

I haven't done much today at all , dd2 was absolutely fine within a few minutes of both episodes so she's ok. After talking to my friends , they've felt the back of her head and they told me that it's swollen on the side. I asked them both at different times and didn't tell them which side I thought was swollen and they both said the right hand side so I know I'm not crazy. I'm going to monitor her and if the swelling appears to get worse or she cries out in pain again, I'll take her to out of hours and get a second opinion.

I'm going to jump in the shower and get motivated to make tea , do a general tidy and get things ready for dancing and football tomorrow

Hello all. Had a busy week at work so just catching up now.

Massive congratulations Carys!

SC, thanks so much for that message; I have had a good read through and I am going to try it. Basically I just need to remember I am an adult and actually act like one.

Sympathy to everyone dealing with other people’s mess. I am terrible at not getting DDs to pick up after themselves but am trying with baby steps (actually focusing on out of the house as this is the most annoying / inconvenient if I am left to carry everything).

Hope your DD is ok tidy

Ta da
Shower
Tea made
General tidy of living room

Ready for a g&t when the kids have gone to bed

How's your evening going zoo?

Still alivethanks tidy
Dp taken lil zoo plus friend to local rollerskating session(he's just watching,not skating!!)having discovered he's been underpaid 5 sleep ins this month and us understandably furious...I have written an email for the boss as he is not good at expressing himself without getting cross.
Dd2 finished online maths and now in her room on tictok having had super rant at me(exhausted and still not well)
Ds scarpered to play his phone during above mentioned ranting so I have put on Netflix and am binge watching call the midwife season one.
Lol zoo due back just before 9,my dinner is now in the oven (roasted broccoli,sweet potato,squash,green beans, peppers,red onions,veggie sausages)-ready about 9-15,so she should be in shower by then!!

In other news dd1 is on the mend post car accident(less back pain today)she applied another job a few weeks ago and had a phone interview.post crash work kept emailing her work and the day after she was expected to continue working from home.i was livid and so was sheshe had an on line interview today for nationwide and has now been offered a job for half the hours and same pay on the mortgage team with possibility training as mortgage advisor(what her future husband did and he's now a mortgage broker)

That’s awesome for DD1 zoo, well done to her .

Tidy, I am enjoying a glass of wine at the end of a long week . Hope you enjoy your G&T.

Big wing flaps for everyone else and thanks for offering to do November Lisette.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking over the last couple of weeks; I think after speaking to my parents. Been reading stuff on here too.

I spend so much time telling myself I am not good enough. Not a good enough mum, not a good enough wife, not good enough at work. Not a good enough housekeeper (although that one is sadly true ). I am so sick of it and it is absolutely pointless anyway. I constantly try to be perfect and of course I can’t achieve that. I have lots of free time 3 days a week when not at work and feel the house should be spotless and life should be organised and I should be working to earn extra money in that time as well, plus doing exercise plus my physio on top of that. But actually, I don’t have much time in the evenings as the kids tend to be doing something every night and so of course the house doesn’t stay immaculate or even tidy. So I am going to try not to do so much of the self criticism any more for at least the next two minutes.

I promise I have actually only had a few of sips of wine so far! Just wondered if anyone could relate.

Evening all, some impressively busy Fridays on this thread today.

YouTube - my current favourites are Inspired by Nikki and How Jen Does It. Diane in Denmark is good too. All people with lovely houses and positive can-do personalities. Sadly, it does not rub off through the screen very much

The supermarket chain in the north - I think I have quite a few of their canvas bags on with the northern quotes, we pick some up when we go back to the NW.

Stressy I've said before that I think we can be really harsh on ourselves, we'd never say that kind of thing to a friend. zoo good to hear DD1 is doing ok after the accident and fab news about the new job. Tidy enjoy the Friday G&T, I am avoiding wine at the moment due to the antibiotics I hope you can find out what is bothering your DD at the moment, I always prefer to know what I'm fighting. Laputa bah to the sore throat, not what you need. Bower congrats on the retirement for DH, did I see a mention of cake there

The tidying is an endless job SC, I have complained this week that it feels as if I do more tidying and decluttering than actual cleaning.

Will head to bed soon although worryingly DD is still crashing round upstairs. She can have a sleep in tomorrow, it's the weekend!

Will post the links in the next message 'cos I've rambled on a bit now ...

Links for Saturday -

Launch Pad and Babystep about taking care of yourself.

Sleep well, fledglings!