Fledglings awaiting April organisation... and a plan - the Flylady thread

[TooStressyTooMessy]

Welcome to the April Flylady thread. This is a lovely friendly thread where we loosely follow the Flylady system (see the Flylady website ) in the hope of having organised homes and lives.

Every day I will post a link to the launchpad which has everything you need for that day if you do want to follow the system strictly. Plenty of options to follow the system more loosely as well :).

Please do familiarise yourself with the Flylady website, especially if you are new. The Flylady is (understandably) keen that people do look at the website.

On the website there is information for beginners. You can also sign up to the Flylady emails but we would advise caution as there are hundreds of them.

We post our achievements (ta das) and our to do lists and any other general chatter about life / flying.

Information on getting started: www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/

The launch pad is also a good starting place:www.flylady.net/c/lp.php

Fly stands for Finally Loving Yourself. The general idea is that short bursts of tidying / organisation are more achievable than marathon efforts. Flylady advises 15 minute bursts is effort but you can tweak this to fit your own circumstances.

Be kind to yourselves, jump in where you are and be careful not to crash and burn!

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A daily summary (which should update automatically every day) is available on the Flylady website at flight plan here.

The link to the current zone and missions is [[http://www.flylady.net/c/sp.php#missions here].

Re. zones, do what works for you. I don’t always stick to the zones myself and do what works best at the time, with varying degrees of success!

daily focus

missions for the week

Flykids mission

April’s habit is usually making your bed which is a nice easy one .

beginner babysteps.

The best place to look for an overall summary is the launch pad.

Happy flying everyone.
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Also a huge thank you to Chic for a lovely March thread as always.

Hope everyone enjoys the Easter holidays! Wing flaps to all!

Hope this doesn't sound too awful but despite loving the very bones of dd, and generally loving time spent alone with her when it's the holidays, just right now it isn't always a very pleasurable thing .

So please treasure the time with your young 'uns before the hormones hit!

[Thus spake the MGMM (menopausal gloom monger merchant) ]

Off to wash more socks ... .

Eeek not filled with hope for the teenage years then zoo and SC!

Ta da:-
Girls haircut
Physio for me while DH has taken DDs shopping

To do:-
I’ve just got back home and have a few minutes before they all get back so am going to put the kettle on and reboot the laundry which has been sadly neglected over the last couple of days.

DOn't know what SC and Zoo are talking about my teen is lovely particularly his passive agressive not speaking to me which means I am not treated to the usual yelling to help him get ready for school

I was supposed to be doing all the things today but instead caught up with some much needed sleep. I am just contemplating what I need to do for the rest of the day to re-juggle plans to fit everything in. I had tightly planned days for the next week.

A lot of life has been happening and as usual when sleep is in short supply the whole world is a disaster. Thanks to the sleep I have now had it is feeling less like a disaster and more like something that is potentially possibly tameable...

hills I wish we had more passive aggressive and less yowling like banshee/door slamming,but I guess that's a girls hormones

We've just watch grand national lil zoo adores tiger bread so opt naturally for tiger roll to win.gorgeous little horse and to make history with second consecutive win was awesome,esp as his jockey barely use the whip ds and I hate to see that n progress. DS NEEDS to continue watching to make such gets the round up of them all make sure no one got hurt...

Up for revue had fatal injury.ds now distraught...

Up for revue was brought down by another faller, I think. Sorry that your DS is upset about it though zoo, not easy to deal with.

FYI zoo I was being partly sarcastic Wild ferral teenager beast here too. God help you if he has the hangrys. Not too bad if he is well feed with food of his chosing.

Well it can't be any worse than my two at the moment!! (Can it??!) I think 5 and 2 is proving to be my hardest stage so far...and I so enjoy the holidays with them but today has been such hard work! They have almost reduced me to tears a few times today because I have no idea how I even parent them! How on earth do I make them listen to me?! I think dh feeling the same as we keep sharing slightly crazed panicked looks

Also I was that shouty mum in the supermarket earlier, the lady on the self service checkout actually jumped a mile when I yelled at ds for poking his finger into a yogurt. It wasn't even our yogurt!!! That boy is both adorable and maddening all rolled into one extremely cute butter wouldn't melt exterior which he uses to his advantage. He KNOWS he is cute.

Dd is obviously cute too but she isn't quite as cuddly so doesn't use it to her advantage as much. And at least she listens a bit more and is naturally well behaved until her brother winds her up and then all hell breaks loose

That's my little rant over

Oh Lord I must be getting old because I could barely watch it. Tiger Roll is a small brave horse who gives his all.

Feel so sad for the connections of Up For Revue, especially his lad or lass who goes home in an empty lorry to an empty stable tonight.

I'm so sorry your ds is distressed Zoo it is really upsetting. There's no getting around the fact that fatalities are a reality of jump racing. As this article explains the racing authorities are working hard to get fatalities as low as possible and equine welfare standards in British horse racing are as high (and highly monitored) as they come. Very sadly, there are more fatalities with horses in the paddock than on the track though, because as well as being immensely strong, the weight of 500kg of horse rests on one tiny cannon bone, so by design, they are fragile at the same time ifyswim.

I personally don't have a problem with an animal doing what it has evolved to do (horses being prey animals are naturally designed to run fast just long enough to get away from a predator) but I understand that people are really worried about it. I personally think that there is more of an issue of equine neglect when it comes to old family ponies neglected in a field, suffering from rain scald or sweet itch with overgrown feet, whose premises aren't regularly inspected by the welfare authorities like racing stables are.

Also, make no mistake about it , race horses are equine athletes, with hearts bigger than volley balls and 2 metre long lungs (which laid out would be the size of 10 tennis courts ) able to pump 75 gallons of blood around the body). They can race at 30 to 40 miles an hour using incredibly powerful legs (back legs have 25 kgs of pure muscle on each leg) . I think their spleen even has a special mechanism which releases extra red blood vessels in to a horses blood circulation at top speeds. Suffice to say , it would be equally cruel to have these majestic creatures just loafing about doing nothing in a field. And if there was no racing, there would be no thoroughbreds.

If your ds is worried though please let him Google Mick Easterby race horse trainer where every horse is cherished as an individual and receives 5 star care. Let him have a look at the photos and daily schedule. Hope it helps a bit anyway xxx

Oh dear Foxes that sounds tough going but your ds also sounds delightful (and intelligent if he is curious like that) ! I

I hate to say it Foxes and Toostressy (should I say it Hills and Zoo* or leave them in blissful ignorance?!! ) but no, unless you are extremely lucky, judging from my experience and that of my friends and family, I'm afraid to say there might be worse to come .

And even worse, no one talks about feral teens openly because parents go around thinking they should have a handle on things by this stage, that they are crap failures, and it's their own personal shame. (I'm only exaggerating slightly )
as everyone else's teen appears to be excelling at D of E and playing in the local brass band. But what everyone doesn't realise is that a lot of the time, at home, many parents are dealing with extremely labile emotions, stress, insecurities, anger, rudeness, and worse, etc etc while the child goes through the natural but difficult process of separating itself off from you and their family and transforming in to an adult. And for some reason, it's usually us mothers who take the brunt.

It's pretty thankless at times but you have to hang in there because your lovely child is still there, just not always apparent, and they still need you even though they intermittently hate you and point out all of your failings on a regular basis while everyone else's parents are cool and much better at everything (and richer) of course

Sorry! .

Treasure the moments people, treasure the moments!

sc I think deep down I know it can and probably will get worse! Because I think once they are teens the problems are bigger and you want to protect them but can't so much anymore. Thinking about today, I was most stressed when out because I had the fear of losing one of them (ds enjoys playing hide and seek in huge shops ) and also the danger of the car park when they were messing about. BUT if it gets that bad I can strap them into a trolley or I can pick ds up and physically get him into the car safely. You can't do that when their teens. I mean, I don't have a teen so I might be way off with that but I've just been thinking about it.

Anyway, finally got them off to bed and yes teddy has form AWOL again!!! He is definitely in the house somewhere this time though.

Hope your ds is ok now zoo I didn't watch it but dh and the dc did but the dc don't understand any of the danger element yet.

Spot on Foxes! The worry when you given advice but then more or less have to stand back and watch them make their own mistakes is pretty traumatic tbh!

Hahahaha re: teddy going AWOL again! . Do you think he's off to the nearest bar? Maybe he's gone to spend his Grand National winnings?

sc he's probably trying to escape all the noise maybe I should tell ds that so he might be quieter 🤔

I would not blame him if he was in the pub. I will join him tbh.

Foxes

hills woe betide anyone gets between a hangry teen and food😂

SC thank for that.hes calmed a lot.he hates animal cruelty and for a couple of years adopted a horse at a redwings horse charity.he got invites to Dylan's" birthday party" and delighted in watch him stick face in special cake decorated carrot "candles" and polo mints,and sharing his best friend..

Nothing to report here of an consequence.ive had head in recipe folders couple hours picking potential menu ideas..
Must finish sifting,write menu plan and shop list by 10am tom(harder than sounds when so many options to chose from,and need check weather so I don't end up with stew on warm day or salad if bloody freezing!)

Lil zoo full of sore throat)/cold.dd2 glands up and aching and has sore throat and fever...

Oh thanks for the recipe earlier btw zoo I might try those!

Zoo scroll down on this website here Irish National Stud and Gardens - your ds might enjoy the video at the very foot of the page, far left, celebrating the birthdays of their "senior" living legends - happy birthday spelt out in carrots!

Yes, sad news about the racing zoo. That charity that your DS supports seems lovely. Thanks for all that info SC; horse racing really is an area I know hardly anything about.

foxes, if it’s any consolation, I think 5 and 2 are particularly difficult ages together. The 2 - 3 year bit particularly .

SC, I fear you have summed parenting in general up with “parents go around thinking they should have a handle on things but this stage, that they are crap failures, and it’s their own personal shame” .

Hills, sleep sounded like a sensible plan for you today.

Big waves to everyone. Just about to do bedtime with DD2 and then hoping to put some laundry away then sit.

I forgot to say sc I also found the info on horse racing really interesting!

Thanks toostressy

launch pad link

foxes I just giggled at the thought of picking ds up to manhandle him in event of a issues. I would probably fail, he'd throw a strop and the pick me up well he would if I was not quite so fat He is already significantly taller than me, and has been stronger than me since he was about 7. He would be most indignant at the whole situation. FYI i do not recommend picking up teenagers as a means for dealing with behaviour