No delayed exit for clutter - March Flylady Thread 2019 for fledglings!

[ChicCroissant]

What would a combo of exit and clutter be, clexit? Exclutter? Perhaps we should just stick with declutter ....

Welcome to the March Flylady thread, we’d love to have you with us as we chat and work our way through our houses in March. Flylady uses the zone method of cleaning so we’ll be focusing on a different area of the house each week – we will post daily links to the Launch Pad on the Flylady website which gives all the details of the current Zone, daily missions and babysteps.

Newbies are always welcome so feel free to join in at any time. Flylady does recommend decluttering your house first, so if you are not ready for the cleaning routines yet it’s fine to focus on the decluttering bit – add the babysteps in if you wish.

Thanks for the CTM reminder! Just what I need tonight

I cant watch things with child birth, it goes right through me!

DO you have any camamile tea Zoo? it can be used to soothe rashes. Seriously not bonkers. Brew up in warm water and wash it over the surface.

I am glad the storm has taken out the tv ariel again. But very grateful that the internet still works. I have a sinus thing. I feel like crap and people keep making more work for me. All I want is a quiet day tomo, unfortunately no such luck.

Must get back on the thread tomorrow.

Just in.
We didn’t win but we sang really well and we were given lovely feedback comments. She said we sang the last song really well. So we were happy with that. Last years choir sang for about 30 minutes and we’re amazing aged abpout 7 until about17 and sang in welsh.

Got back and off the bus to find no dh. Luckily my friend hadn’t drive off straight away as 10:10 still no sign of DH. He was late it was dark, isolated and snowing like mad. Waited ten minutes then we went to find my sons no answer and I carried on walking feet were frozen I had To walk into a puddle of half frozen icy water didn’t I! My friend went back that way to find DP finally there and told him where I was so he picked me up ( no apology) and I shot into the shower and stayed there until I warmed up.
About two inches of snow, apparently he didn’t know until he went to get the car🙄out. Tired out no flying today. He did make me a cup of tea and told me that cat shat and weed on carpet again. He hadn’t put clean stuff in litter tray.

Zoo re shopping 👺dp.

Apologies seem to get stuck in men's throats for some reason!

Glad you got home safely eventually Bower and great the comp went well! I love listening to a Welsh choir; they always have such a beautiful tone!

I'm up again. 3.30pm waking regular as clockwork now . Wind is blowing hard outside.

Missed CTM in the end as DD chose that moment to sit on my bed and have a chinwag! She has a shed load of study to do this half term and so we discussed how she was going to get it all done and have some fun with her friends too. Unfortunately this may mean a shorter time at wreck2. Heigh ho!

Waves to Meet and to everyone else!

I'm up,and I don't want to be
Dreadful night.keep having nightmares about dd1 wedding(next June)I'm not good at social situations,horrendous in groups etc it's.her engagement/housewarming BBQ was difficult as zoolets and me stood out looking awkward and out of place,we can't blend in at all and. I always look so "unpolished"
After average day here yesterday feel 4ally depressed today
Camhs with D's this morning....

zoo

I get what you mean about always looking unpolished. I am the same. I thinks its due to not having much time for yourself. I dont go for a tan, or get my eyebrows and nails done, i dont get hair done on a monthly basis. If i have time to myself i go to sleep.

Bower hope you have warmed up, what a piss poor show from your dh!

Dp and i had a row last night. Well we didnt. I was apparently being snappy and he went off on one, i went for a bath and bed. Arsehole.

I was in bed roughly 830-6am, i still feel drained. Rough as fuck. I dunno if there is something wrong with me, anemic or something maybe.

Sorry you are feeling so rough I've.

Zoo hope camhs meeting goes well

As for wedding: trust me it won't be as bad as your dream! I know these occasions are daunting so really sympathise (I didn't like everyone looking at me on my own wedding day fhs!) but you are such a fab mum that I'm sure on the day you will be so focused on your dd2 and her happiness that you may not feel as awkward as you fear, you will just be fiercely proud . Also, maybe if you have a "job" to do, the occasion might be easier for you, eg you and Zoolets assisting guests with babies/toddlers, or something to do with the cake or similar?? Could you speak to your dd1 about something like that? . Finally if have until now and next June could you possibly assemble a lovely outfit for yourself - one that you feel confident and comfortable in - doesn't need to be expensive (my db's partner wore a fab outfit she had assembled from a charity shop to a close friend's wedding recently and she honestly looked more stylish than most people there) but make sure you have outfit+ shoes+ jewellery+ tights+ underwear + accessories (ie every single component down to matching nail polish) and practise wearing it and doing your hair so absolutely nothing about it makes you nervous on the day ifyswim - that will at least eliminate one source of anxiety - and do the same for Zoolets if poss. Bet you will smash it .

Wrt: being polished, I do have time to do all those things and apart from getting a helmet head practical hair cut (20 mins in and out every three months) I don't do them either! Get bored in salons, hate some stranger touching me, hate looking at myself in the mirror. Do my own eyebrows and manicures/pedicures but apart from that, simply cba!

In summary: I settle for neat and clean nowadays, deffo not polished!

Bower I hope your dh feels appropriately sheepish this morning!

Oops Zoo meant "you will be so focused on your dd1" (not dd2).

Aargh sorry about all the crappy menfolk 😡

I always look a mess now TBH. I am making a symbolic gesture of self care soon though, and when my friend goes back to the piercing place (can’t remember if I said DD had her ears done the other day!) I’m getting my ears repierced - I let them all close years back. She is only charging for the earrings as she reckons it’ll be very easy.

Must get up and get on with home ed stuff. Last week’s return to routine went pretty well.

Thanks guys.i hear the phrase "looking a hot mess" I'm more lukewarm one

I've never had time for myself,pre zoolets I cared for my daughter and brother after my mum died and as had depression the getting hair done etc never happened.i suddenly just see this rough old bag and I don't want to embarrass dd1.her fiance has mahoosive well groomed and very confident family,his mum is very confident overbearing and well turned outwhich is intimidating...

I have avoided mirrors and tend grab stuff and never try it on.niw zoolets getting bigger I really should start giving myself but if time,but it's so ingrained I still feel guilty buying myself a £5 reduced jumper last week(I have been pinching one dd2 sweatshirts)someone put me in a bag and shake me!!

Girls sorted and fed/watered
Lunches made
School run

Just warming hands(bright but cold breeze,last night was howling and bins a flying but ok now) then off to walk to camhs
Dp was ment come,but cried off(or would've got lift) he did put money in my bank to get the zoolets clothes they need from Primark,so now I'm left take D's and carry it all on foot.but at least I'm not trying find it so should be grateful for that

Enough moaning,more doing is my motto for today!!

Laters people

*trying to fund it

Good luck Zoo sorry your do has ducked out of his responsibilities again

Overbearing people are often very unconfident themselves. They like to command proceedings because they feel anxious if they are not in control. So try and remember that when interacting with her; and if all else fails...imagine her naked on the bog never fails!!

And I'm sure your dd1 will be proud and delighted to have you at her side on one of the most important days of her life

Grey, wet and stormy here! Typical for half-term holiday!

We are in town because dh working and I'm not allowed to drive yet and DD and dh are heading off later to do lots of official admin related to their citizenship.

Slow morning! Only got up an hour ago! About to tackle washing up from yesterday and sort and wash laundry. Last calvalry member heading back today so maybe she will help me sort boudoir before her departure.

Oh dear, definitely not a stellar week for the males of the thread by the sound of it. We will press on regardless, taking the higher ground and seething with resentment

Sorry I forgot the links last night A grip will be got

Need to get cracking, no I am definitely not avoiding a sewing job that needs to be done before tonight at all. I am merely cleaning with inspiring videos on the in the background. I have time to stitch later probably not enough time and will be back at lunchtime.

This morning I'm aiming to watch some more How Jen Does It and a new vlogger recommended on the FB group Inspired by Nikki. Complete opposites of my house in style, tone (and tidiness!) but I do find them lovely to watch.

Back at lunchtime, must avoid sewing start doing something now ...

Oh, good luck at CAMHS zoo, I hope they are helpful - often the first appointment are more of an assessment which I can see the purpose of, but by the time you get these appointments you are often desperate for help and want something concrete to work with.

It sounds like we need a princessing thread-type thing as well.

Morning all. I think i’d Get thrown off a princessing thread for not participating . Last week I got dressed in gym clothes, got practically to the door of the gym, decided I CBA and didn’t go in. Will hope for more princessing and self care this week .

In that spirit, I am in gym clothes and will get in the door today.

Ta da:-
Morning routine

To do:-
Calendar check - v busy week for the kids this week
Label dance costumes and clothes for a school trip. I am a bit sad and actually quite enjoy doing this as long as I can do it on my own in front of the telly.
Go to gym
DD1 has a school event this evening so need to get home after school, do quick tea and help her get ready then find something fun for DD2 to do.

Love watching inspirational videos Chic although sadly they often fail to inspire me.

Hope all men needing to step up at least take a small step .

Totally agree SC about overbearing ppl, it’s just hard to remember sometimes. Interestingly it’s something I see in people sometimes. Sometimes the less confident people are feeling, the more confident / overbearing they seem this is never a tactic I use myself at work ever of course.

Big wing flaps to all.

Also I can do the April thread if needed.

Does brushing my hair count as princessing? :o

Right the Caglets did lots of home ed stuff this morning, they’ve now gone for a walk so I’m going to get on the exercise bike and watch anime :o

I was going to say the exact same thing about over confident people. I have a very over bearing friend but when you get to know her you realise she is very anxious and very concerned with how people view her. I know that doesn't help zoo as that kind of person makes me feel a bit intimidated too tbh so I know how you feel! But I made friends with her so I guess you can break the walls down

I'm a bit behind sorry... sicky children will do that to you! Dd is off school but ds went to nursery so I did manage to do some work anyway.

I'm going to go and eat cake.

Still avoiding sewing job here, have watched videos on the techniques though - so will start that soon.

Some minor decluttering and tidying this morning. Bit of laundry. Nothing too impressive tbh!

Well I've finally got round to putting a load of the kids old toys for sale on Facebook , already sold one item!

MN ate my post earlier
Testing one,two,three