Flying high in July (or trying to!) - the FlyLady thread

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A warm (or cooling with our current weather) welcome to the July Flylady thread. This is a lovely friendly thread where we loosely follow the Flylady system (see the Flylady website ) in the hope of having organised homes and lives.

Every day the thread leader (me this month) posts links and missions from the Flylady site and also some friendly (!) personal comments. This is quite a ‘talky’ thread but we try our hardest not to be cliquey and new members are very welcome! I will do my best to keep track of everybody .

Please note that Flylady is (understandably) keen for people to click on her site so please do have a look around the site and the links. On the website there is information for beginners. You can also sign up to the Flylady emails but we would advise caution as there are hundreds of them.

We post our achievements (ta das) and our to do lists and any other general chatter about life / flying.

Information on getting started: www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/

The launch pad is also a good starting place:www.flylady.net/c/lp.php

Fly stands for Finally Loving Yourself. The general idea is that short bursts of tidying / organisation are more achievable than marathon efforts. Flylady advises 15 minute bursts is effort but you can tweak this to fit your own circumstances.

Be kind to yourselves, jump in where you are and be careful not to crash and burn!

The first day of the month is Sunday. Since it’s a weekend there is no official mission or zone work, unless you want to of course.

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Here is the daily summary for Sunday (also available on the Flylady website at flight plan which should update automatically each day).

I assume we are going into zone 1 next week which is the entrance area. However this week we have been in the living room. The Flylady website can take a few days to update the zones when the month changes so I will have a good look at it tomorrow and Monday to see where we are.

The link to the current zone and missions is [[http://www.flylady.net/c/sp.php#missions here].

Re. zones, do what works for you. I don’t always stick to the zones myself and do what works best at the time, with varying degrees of success!

Spend 15 mins decluttering, or whatever you can manage, in Zone 5/ zone 1.

When you have finished decluttering, the detailed cleaning list (if you are at that stage) for Zone 5 is here.

daily focus

missions for the week

Flykids mission

Once I figure out July’s habit I will let you know what it is!

beginner babysteps.

Happy flying everyone.
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Sorry second link didn’t work. It should be this.

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Here is the daily summary for Tuesday (also available on the Flylady website at flight plan which should update automatically each day).

We are in zone 4 this week which is the bedroom or boudoir as we like to call it .

Re. zones, do what works for you. I don’t always stick to the zones myself and do what works best at the time, with varying degrees of success!

Spend 15 mins decluttering, or whatever you can manage, in zone 4.

When you have finished decluttering, the detailed cleaning list (if you are at that stage) for Zone 4
is here.

daily focus

missions for the week

Flykids mission

July’s habit is swish and swipe which is a quick daily clean of the bathroom.

beginner babysteps.

Happy flying everyone.
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Thanks all. When Cagletini arrived I put it all in a box but the living room was such a tip the stuff always ended up all over the place tbh and the box got stepped on and crushed! I really really want to avoid that this time! I could slide the mat under the sofa, but not sure if I'd rather switch to only changing her in our room from now on. Definitely want a box for the stuff but hopefully in a tidier place it will work better.

It's fun thinking of where everything will go! I am far less stressed about it than I was, now that we are actually here I can relax about it not all being instantly perfect. We have so much unpacking to do anyway and we really can't know what's needed until we have at least sorted the bulk of the boxes out. I think I'd like to aim to have the second ikea order done by the end of the summer holidays.

I ordered Tesco but didn't manage to plan for many meals. Just going for the usual meals - the oven left by the previous tenant is amazing but needs getting used to (for a start it's a gas hob).

I'm really sneezy and only just got the baby to sleep. I am also thoroughly gross and need to test the shower tomorrow

You are doing great cag whats method cleanung

Well yesterday was exhausting but not in a flying sense.
On Sunday we had the mother of all rows and "d"p left...he said a lot of hurtful things and upset D's telling him he loved him but would be getting a new daddy(I'm not remotely involved anyone else btw)the fallout was horrific for D's who was hysterical for 2hrs,leap to window every time a car slowed convinced daddy was back to say sorry.he sob for two more hours after that.he start again at 10pm til gone midnight and had tears intermittently yesterday
I said nothing deliberately hurtful just tried to explain his behaviour was creating an atmosphere and upsetting zoolets so have nothing to apologise for,he doesn't apologise...
I know by his behaviour he's unwell(MH) but that doesn't make it ok or an excuse.i am sometimes told by dd2 I'm being grumpy when I don't realise it and will apologise and instantly make an effort
He had cheek text me last night will I still be allowed see kids on my days off,like I'd ever stop him....he texted D's and he started cry again.dd2 out s angry and ignoring his textsranting at me
Yeh,so that was my last 48hrs

"D"p was very selfish and immature to involve the Dc like that and it's unforgivable to say what he did about getting a new Daddy to your Ds.
Must have been heartbreaking for you to see your Ds distraught like that.
What an arse!

Don't have to take DD to work today but her cat work me up early. Going to try for another nap as still tired

Thanks honky I'd expects zoolets to blame me that he left but they know(D's was downstairs when started,and for about half the row )I didn't say or do anything to be mean.who wants to be creeping on eggshells around someone who is constant snipping at the mum over nothing?!

Anyhoo
Tada
Fed cats
Brush scoutcat

So the paranoia about identity theft set in and it was gone 2 before I slept. Crap ton to do today and could have done with a good night's sleep. Thankfully the night before wasn't too bad and there will be coffee and an early night tonight. Lots and lots of coffee.

I am awake earlier - front door has a delightful squeak, loud enough to wake the dead , but i forgot to take my no tumble dry trousers out of the dryer until gone 1am so I suspect I shall be putting them on wet and being grateful that this weather is supposed to be getting up to what no doubt will feel like 50billion degrees.

zoo people can be such bastards sometimes sorry that he put the zoolets in the cross fire. You do know that if you are concerned about his mental health and know who his doctor is you can raise concerns with the doctor who will use the information to help get him the right help, although they will not be able to tell you anything about the situation he is in. Mum had to do this with dad and they tweaked his dosage when he came in for something else.

I have sneezed about 15 times already today

Cag i keep nappies wipes etc in a drawer in cabinet in livingroom2 (where ds3 can not get them) and changing mat down side of sideboard. I always change him downstairs. Dont know why i just always have with all 4 dc!

Sorry your day was so difficult foxes

I take my hat off to all of you who bake birthday cakes. All of ours come from the supermarket.

Zoo i cant believe he said that to your ds! Wtf! Spiteful fucker. Honestly i would looser my mind if my oh started pulling our dc into our disagreements. What i dont get with yours is he has his own place to live, so when he isnt up to being civil why doesnt he just fuck off there

Had 10 minutes.

Just read today's posts.
I had a changing unit upstairs and one mat down behind sofa. Meant I could change DD either places. With the DS x3 Iwasn't living in a bungalow and changed them in the bedroom.DS 3 decided to toilet train himself at 18 mths when we moved!

Zoo
That is awful your poor children and poor you too. 💐

Because he thinks if he goes home in a mood I will somehow hold that against him I've
Hills his mum used to badger doctor when worried and only one in practise would speak to her as rest say he's an adult and has to engage for us to help him.i think he's still not dealt losing both parent within a two year gap.dads anniversary(4th) is aug 31st,mum's second is in September.they baby him and pander his entire life in mistaken belief it would make life easier for him as suffers depression/anxiety.thats left him very entitled and he has learned how to argue by his mum,another damaged individual(once when we had a fall out as I wouldn't pander as she wanted me to she said if I was your mum I would've died too(she died when I was 17) to get away from you!!)he sways between young kid and teenager emotionally most of the time.a stark warning how not letting kids learn to do stuff for themselves fucks them over...

Off shopping now!

Whinge away zoo
What a dreadful thing to say to you. I couldn't forgive that remark.

Yes but his mental health issues are affecting the kids. and it is entirely possible the doctors were sick of her treating him like a baby. So saying look i think he is struggling because of this incident and I am concerned is not out of line. The advice mum got from the doctor was should situation x arise then her only option would be to contact the police and then social services could help with the situation. Seems awfully extreme to me but help is only really available in the extreme cases sometimes

As he works in MH hills be pointless,he knows all the rules back to front and what to sayall I can do is step back and hope the routine of just work/go his flat will and not having deal anyone else will level him off.hes used to be told put himself first last and always

Shopping done,near melted
I now sit by fan read paper whilst wait wash to come out machine onto airer then I'm off to clean church ignores state of house

Zoo I would definitely step back for now. You look after yourself and the DC

zoo . Take care of yourself today.

Ive, I don’t bake birthday cakes either! Luckily we know a couple of people who are very good bakers.

We have had a lazy ish start although I am up and dressed, we’ve all eaten breakfast and dishes are done. Someone is coming to look at oven at some point this morning so needed to get them done in case he turns up soon.

To do:
Handwashing (gymnastics kit which shouldn’t go in machine )
Nudge DDs into doing teeth etc

Have vague hopes of getting DDs involved in some decluttering and also they want to look through their books they brought home from school. That would be good as then I can put them away.

Possibly out later depending on oven fixing situation.

Oh zoo 😱😥 I have no words! At least no words that aren't swearing.

Had quite a productive morning with phonecalls (switching utilities etc) laundry bit of unpacking and cleaning. Tesco delivery is late, I even double checked that I'd put the new address!

We are just going to stay in today, DH will be working soon and we will unpack more while he's out. In an ideal world I'd pop to the old house to get more done but it's roasting and I'm still exhausted (and really sneezy) so I'll save myself the bus fare (Caglets' key cards have run out so we've been using cash which adds up fast) and the energy.

That sucks zoo hope you're ok

Dd just had her last ever session at nursery school and has now gone to a friend's house to play for a bit. Ds asleep so I'm going to have some lunch in PEACE

Officially the summer holidays now...☀️🕶️🏖️

Ta da
Daily routine
Meal plan for next week
Online food shop for next week
Sorted out bank card

To do
Hang out washing
Decluttering , still working through clothing at the moment and then shoes I think.
Dinner - not very good for this weather but toad in the hole. I basically picked it because dd wants to make something she can have with the green beans she grew 😍

Aww she is growing up!

I am going to put another wash on, then we will have a huge amount of laundry to put away. Not that we really have anywhere to put them as we've not bought our wardrobe or the kallax for the girls' room yet. All the trofast stuff is as yet undecided too (in terms of where it will live). So for the moment most clothes will be in boxes etc. But at least they'll be in the right rooms!

Aw that's cute foxes hope she enjoys her special beans too!!

Tada
Deep cleaned church incl brasses
Realised no bottles water left when got in,walk co op round corner.had nothing..walk back shops.again
Wash on airer dry
More wash on
Fed zoolets

To do
Melt into a puddle????

Ta da
Hung out washing
Ironing

To do
More ironing / clothes decluttering
Cook dinner

I'm with zoo as well, melting into a puddle!! I realise I'm crazy to be ironing but it was the next thing to do for clothes decluttering- I am attempting to get all my clothes actually away. I've done lots but need a break for cold water and to just sit for a little while. The dc are already arguing and driving me up the wall. I'm blaming the heat for that too. They're so grumpy.

Tada
Wrestled 5ft grass with kitchen scissors for an hour as lack equipment or money to buy/hire any.i have blisters,fucking bramble scratches/thorns galore and about third of a garden((full wheelie bin))

zoo that's bloody good going!!!

I have not got an ironing pile anymore!!! I've ironed everything and binned the basket (it was broken) . Everything is folded beautifully in drawers / shelves and a few things hanging in wardrobes probably won't last

Next step is shoes, coats and getting rid of a load more hangers.

To do
Drink more ice cold water
Get washing in fold and put away immediately!!!
Start dinner (am dreading having to turn the oven on but I did promise dd toad in the hole!)