Fledglings marching into spring - the Flylady thread

[TooStressyForMyOwnGood]

Hello all and welcome to the March Flylady thread! Welcome to all current posters and also to any returners plus of course anyone who would like to join. The more the merrier. Jump in where you are.

We are a friendly group who (sort of) follow the Flylady system in hopes of a more organised home and life. Some of us manage that better than others :).

Since last month seemed to be ok I'll follow the same format of personals throughout the day (or in the evening if I haven't had a chance in the day) and links in the evening. Please, though, let me know if you want me to change anything or if I have posted anything wrong.

It's my first time running this thread so here we go with links... Please if anything is wrong feel free to correct me. Hopefully it will all go swimmingly this month but I apologise in advance for anything not slick! I'm starting a day early as have work tomorrow and I am slow at this but will try to stay on the old thread until tomorrow. Thanks again SC and Cotswold as I have basically copied your notes again.

Flylady advises decluttering for 15 mins a day. I tend to manage 5 but I know lots of people have great results with 15.

For a summary of what's going on, go to www.flylady.net/c/lp.php or just follow this thread

Newbies, welcome, have a look around the Flylady website www.flylady.net - it can sometimes be a bit disorganised. Unless you want to, beware of signing up for her emails - there are hundreds and all the info is on the website anyway. Here is the getting started link www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/

You can post what we you done (ta das) and any to do lists if you want to- I definitely find this helpful.

Morning everyone

Busy old morning here
Dc all showered and breakfasted
Dropped dc off at breakfast club at 7.30
Went to physio
Popped to shops

Was home drinking coffee at 8.30
I may have peaked too soon lol

Hey Celeste lovely to see you! I know what you mean about the bitchiness. I used to post loads but now generally the only threads on my TIO are support threads like this one, I post on occasional others but it just doesn't feel the same these days.

Hi ladies, hope you're all well and manage a good start to your week!

Ta das:

• Up and dressed in stuff laid out last night
• rebooted laundry
• In the car in plenty of time to drive to my early appointment with a travel mug of herbal tea

To do:

• survive jam packed work day with sanity intact
• post office
• revert kitchen chaos (2 x 15 min!)
• fold and put away clothes
• 15 min in bedroom
• recycling out
• make Sunday roast (was out at a christening yday so feel like we're owed one!)
• put all gift wrapping supples in a suit cover and hang somewhere to get it out of room that is to be for baby

The Flylady "morning musing" is one I needed to read today! "Hurry up and wait"
www.flylady.net/d/br/2017/03/20/hurry-up-and-wait/

Have a nice day!! Love to all

Ta das
Daily routine done
Baby fed and down for nap
DD at nursery
Decluttered one shelf in bedroom
Swish and swipe bathroom

Ta da:-
Exercise
Drum roll... DD2 did a poo in the toilet . Trying not to get too excited as she has done it before and then not again for months plus she did do a bit in her pants first (TMI sorry!). But... this is a huge deal so she has had a celebratory sweet and a sticker.

Toilet shenanigans mean I am really behind though so need to get on with morning routine now.

Meant to say good to have you back Celeste. MN can be astonishingly bitchy at times.

Aw well done ministressy! 🌟💩

I've decided I really need to rethink how we get ready for the next day. It's the bags that need doing (getting clothes out the night before has never made a difference to us and in fact Caglets are likely to just change their minds anyway). TBH I always felt it too premature to get things ready during the morning before, but I've come to accept that so often by the time the evening comes I am just far too worn out and therefore likely to think "sod it". So it doesn't get done and I'm then rushing around before we leave forgetting things and getting stressed. So I need to make time for it earlier the day before. I have to accept that while I'd love to be like a 'normal' person who can do these things if an evening, I am not! There is no point planning to do housework at night because it's when pain is highest.

Cag, that was my breakthrough when I joined this thread in September when the habit was before bed routine. If I leave getting bags ready until the end of the day I cba a lot of the time. If I do it as I go along or make time earlier in the day it is so much easier . Of course I still don't always do it...

Hi everyone
Late check in today!been busy one
Did I hear celestes back?!

Tadas
Fed cat
Wash on
Clean out fridge
Make strawberry n cranberry mini muffins
Empty all bins into big one
Bins/recycling out
Swish n swipe bathroom
Make zoolets breakfast/pack ups

Lil zoo on 3day residential((rocks n sobs))

Congrats mini stressy poo on toilet is way more excite as mum than a wee(remembers clear up puddles- much better than no2s from floor etc)
cag I try not follow school of sod it and epic fail often I do notice it when I am organised how smoothly things run.I am not an organised creature by nature and it def req a lot work here!!

Just read back thread...
Celeste its def getting incredibly bitchy/judgy pants on MN I don't venture to post on many threads anymore eitherwe always friendly here

Hello all, on the home stretch towards bedtime now. Going to get DD2 in bath in 10 mins after another bad mealtime (WTF am I doing wrong?) but some nice lego playing after tea.

Ta da:-
10 mins decluttering DD2's drawers
Unpacked some bits from fun run yesterday
Tea planned
Booked Tesco delivery slot for tomorrow

To do:-
Bath and bedtime
Tea
Laundry
Bit more decluttering if time
Do the online Tesco shop
Calendar check

If they can play nice this time of night you doing OK toostressy.I understand frustrating mealtimes are relaxing. Lil zoo hates way ds eats(noisy/messy)I just let it go right over me.if they hungry they eat.if they argue(at zoolets age) as long no blood/busted bones I let them deal issues them selves.most of us grow up to eat nicely and appropriately in the end.x

I am now missing lil zoo.she's noslky ask tea now and wanting cuddles

Well by bad mealtime I mean DD2 threw her food on the floor . She is 4 not 2!! Although yes, good to play nicely at this hour.

Hope little zoo is having a great time

Over course a week I guess she eats a mixture of dif types food?assuming that case she growing etc.bloody annoying but she will grow out of it(unless your dp sets the example?)

Hi all

Yes I'm gonna try and resist venturing onto the chatty threads. Its dog eat dog on those threads haha.

take ds to pre-school DONE
make beds DONE
wash dishes DONE
wipe over the loo DONE
squirt bleach bleach down the loo DONE
wipe over bathroom basin DONE
tidy ds room DONE
fold laundry DONE
hoover downstairs DONE
collect ds from pre-school DONE
make tea DONE
wash dishes
zoflora kitchen tops
bath ds DONE
tidy living room

dh is reading ds a bedtime story. He won't be long as he has knackered himself at pre-school today. Just gonna tie up the loose ends of my list then chillax

Eeeek just risked starting a thread in chat! Hope I don't get flamed but am asking advice on a new baby present (any advice welcome - thinking vouchers and food) so how bad can it get ?!

toostressy I'm going to seek your thread out! Also we have had really stressful mealtimes the last few nights so I sympathise. Tonight was actually much better (probably because dinner was a favourite of spaghetti and garlic bread!).

I did everything on my list so feeling pleased but haven't done an exercise dvd for ages and ages so should probably get that on my list at some point!! I have been on my feet all day everyday though so guess that's pretty good exercise. Plus breastfeeding! Doesn't help stomach muscles though...

Food definitely
Flowers (in a vase/receptical some kind)
Offers help other kids(if not much support)
Nice pampering things for new mum("posh" shower gel/bath stuff)

I'd gave bitten your right arm off for a cottage pie and tin flapjacks

Sheds tin hat.face plants comfy sofa>
BLOODY KIDS
Ds play nice with Lego.dd2 do French homework. Finishes and ask ds if might play with him.he says no.give 2good reason.you too bossy.I don't want to play with you(missing lil zoo his normal playmate)dd3 meltdown wishes only child,everyone hates her blah blah blah. He strops and lobs all Lego in box with a happy now.glowering at each other.I could cut air with spoon its that tense/thick with unspoken anger.....
I knew be trouble. Lil zoo+ds=play nice
Lil zoo+dd2 tolerate and play til dd2 gets too bossy
Dd2+ds= he wind her up when she annoys him
Both go barmy.I caught in crossfire

Think food is the way to go. It's their first baby so no childcare issues. Her mum is staying with them at the moment so I hope helping them out with food but think I will wait and send DH when she has left with a food parcel. Something cottage pie ish . My DDs very excited by new baby but can't inflict that on them any time soon!

DDs nearly asleep so will get on and be back on thread later.

Xpost, oh dear zoo

Oh dear stressy, mealtimes are sounding, well, stressful! Only advice I can give is to largely ignore the food throwing. Calmly pick it up and put in bin whilst saying that was very naughty in stern voice. Then warn if it happens again there will be a consequence such as no more tv that day. Taking away the iPad always worked well with DD! Stick to what you say! Hopefully the messages gets across, main thing is to not give much reaction but make her learn she is the one that loses out from it!

Hi celeste I agree about the bitchyness, it's awful the way posters are treated sometimes. Also seem to see threads more and more where the OP has asked for genuine advice and ppl are just turning it into a joke for their own entertainment. I don't post very often, definitely more of a lurker

Ta das

Worked 8-12
Picked DD up
Ironing
Load of washing done and on the airer
Sorted out two drawers in DDs room (DH fixed it yay!)
Bag of clothes for recycling
Pile of clothes to be put in storage box
DD bath
Evening routine (DH)
DD story and bedtime (DH)

To do

Wash off face mask (DD called me "Mud Mummy" before she went to bed )
Tidy toys
Today's bedroom mission (armed with cup of tea and something on iplayer)
Before bed routine

Agree a treat for the new mum is lovely. I bought SIL some nice pampering stuff when she had her first and always felt a little bit sad that no one did the same for me lots of lovely things for DD of course which were v welcome but I think new mums are often feel quite fragile and it's nice to feel ppl are thinking of you too.

BluePheasant, thanks for mealtime tips . I didn't handle it well as I shouted - did then put her on naughty step etc and no tv programme but the initial reaction gave her attention. Yes, mealtimes particularly bad. Will try less reactions. However, she was an angel all day otherwise so I am hoping it will just get better. zoo no don't worry, DH not throwing food . Yes she is quite a good eater, it's DD1 who is the fussy one.

BluePheasant, you have made me remember being a new mum and feeling so fragile and one of the best things was having a shower with my lovely treat shower gel. I will definitely get some special stuff just for her and could post that I'm sure.

Hello dani, going to read that morning musing later as it sounds good.

Crazy day and still trying to get my head around Flylady! The 'house blessing' felt a bit more house exorcism but perhaps this is just teething problems.

So... my ta das:
2 loads of washing done and hung out to dry
My bed changed
Dd1 bed changed (ran out of washing line space to do dd2!)
Vacuumed downstairs
Bins & recycling taken out
15 mins decluttering my room
Dishwasher emptied
Weekly shop done

To do:
Get home!!!! (Still sitting outside dd1's activity)
Cook chicken
Put washing away
Get clothes out for the morning
Make packed lunches for tomorrow

Phew.... it's like the day that will never end...