Help me, I'm crap at home

[Manathome]

I would like some ideas of how to get motivated, I recently retired and now stay at home to do the mother stuff as it is pointless going to work as childcare and tax would defeat the object with a 9 & 2yr old. My wife works very hard so only fair I do my but. The problem I have is that I was brought up abroad with servants, I know it may not be a right word now, but that was then, we had cooks, maids, a driver, gardeners and a handyman, I then went to a private boarding school, I am used to people doing things for me although I CAN do pretty much everything myself if I wanted to. My problem is getting my head around doing a womans work around the house, it just doesn't seem normal a man putting on a pinny and dusting, OK there will be women on here going Oooh look at him, how dare he say that, but it is fact. All this change is doing my head in (not age related ), I am really finding it hard to get motivated, in fact I would nearly class myself as lazy, although I can get stuff done if I want.

So how do I come to terms with the fact that my life is now over and I am doomed to do womans work for the next god knows how many years. I retired at 48yrs old, far too young in my eyes but I worked jolly hard and can now live a comfortable life, so why am I finding it so hard to get on with things, there seems to be something in me saying I should not do that. Is there a way of organising my day where I can see results, not just look at piles of ironing, see I am good at putting stuff in teh washing machine and hanging them out, but ironing, Oooh that's not my job BUT IT SHOULD BE according to y agreement with my wife to support her. I am not a nanmby pamby, I am honestly looking for that special something that is in woman when they are born that makes them want to clean and tidy up, don't get me wrong I am not a filthy slob, everything is clean, it;s just the orgaisational side, I just keep looking at the jobs NOT doing them, says me on the bloody computer wasting more of my life.

I really do miss work, retirement is over rated, my wife is 10yrs younger so it will be a while until we are both retired, but I just could not imagine her at home all day as well it would do my head in. What is life all about, we work like mad to retire and it is an anti climax, well for m anyway.

I summary I am intelligent, like a laugh, hard working (on things that suit me, mainly man things), have a lovely family, but I am sh!te at being a housewife.

HELP!!

Thanks in advance,

'get people to speak English in the country'?

'a load of women' ?

Don't know do I like the cut of your jib, Manathome.

You'll find MNers are a tolerant bunch, on the whole, but in true Wildean style you'll find the one thing they won't tolerate is intolerence itself.

Maybe drop the misogyny & bigotry and you'll make a lot more friends here and in RL.

Would a man that sexist really call himself a cow?

I do think some of you lot need a good hard look in the mirror, you think I am far to one side well you are dangerously far over the other side and need help! Maybe between us we can meet somewhere, but if you look back on your posts you will see they are outrageous and abusive, so best you get a grip as well

BUT, thanks to the kind people that have PM'd me with advice and also warned me about the feminists that have embedded themselves here, I will ensure I keep well clear because it is plain they are enticing me to be abusive so I get kicked out. Well I have a surprise for them IT AIN'T GONNA WORK, stick that in your grammar pipe and smoke it

Now I am trying to be nice, can we have a bit of that from the other side please

LIFE IS GOOD I like that motto!

Does Manathome think he has stumbled onto a blog site ?

With some of the usernames and choice language used I certainly didn't think it was a family site that's for sure, more like a sewer or a works canteen and a mans one at that (can I say mans one or is that wrong as well, never been in a woman's one so don't know what they talk about )

See you are getting me at it, well I'm not biting I'm off to get some work done, soon be time for the school run!

Have a great evening, I'm off for another days rest, well make that 6

Hire someone to do your ironing.
Then do half an hour in the first half of the day and half an hour in the second half of the day.
Not sure your wife should be off the hook for all house work? She could do some jobs at the weekend.
Definitely find some kind of sport or hobby to do out side of the house when you are child free.
Go and find some fellow men who are at home with young children, so you can compare notes and not feel like such a freak.

I think some of you who are married need to review your wedding vows, here is a reminder, I can't find where it says I have to obey Luckily my wife stands by these vows and does as she is told, it seems to work for us because we are very happy together

Groom: I,, take thee,_, to my lawful wedded Wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I plight thee my troth.

Bride: I,, take thee,, to my lawful wedded Husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love, cherish, and to obey, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I give thee my troth.

relevance ?

you're trying too hard now, it just smacks of desperation.
less is more

I certainly didn't promise to obey my husband! And I'm older than you, at 52, before you play the 'old git' card, MAH

it was the "obey" bit wasn't it, giyadas ?

just a smidgen too forced

tough luck, MAH, you collected a few "followers" along the way

they have, jan

Yep AF, but all in all, not a bad over-all effort.
I especially liked the inappropriate smiley's. A nice touch sadly lacking nowadays.

a little clunky - sadly neither misogynists nor misogynist shit stirrers are known for their sublety or depth of thought.

it is a pity though that the above may well have daughters imagine your own parents to think you are inferior.

I was just showing how my relationship works with my wife, we both stick by our vows and are very happy, I promised to look after (she is working, I am at home), she promised to obey me (she still gives me respect, not the abuse I have received from some on here), what I don't get is why there is so much bitterness on here and everyone jumps to conclusions, paranoid or what, take a chill pill, be happy we are, well apart from me getting the hang of housework

Back from school run, supper is cooking itself now, just homework to help wth so 'life's good'

BecauseImWorthIt - I don't disagree with you there

I tell you what, after a day getting loads done yesterday I do feel better, can't say the same about today, need to keep it up Says me tapping away typing 'pompous verbal diarrhoea'

Supper is smelling nice

abuse - oh dear.

please point it out. if you can.

or no, wait. don't bother.

please don't tell us any more about your relationship with your wife

Please remember - if you have been abused here then you must report it to MNHQ

Janiston - Why do people read threads if they have no interest but just want to have a dig, that must be abnormal, if you don't want to help me on this thread then why bother opening it, the forum is massive and there are plenty of other places to go