Would you pay for your adult child to come on holiday?

[jimjan]

Our daughter is 23 and just finishing her medical degree. No time to work so she doesn’t earn anything. She still comes on family holidays. We pay her rent. This is the last year before she works.

She has a week off over the summer, and dh wants her to come home and cat sit (she did offer) but that’s because she can’t afford to do anything else. I think we should pay for the cat sitter like usual, and take her away with us. We have booked a one bedroom apartment in Minorca that has a sofa bed. Dd has seen flights for £100 which she could pay for. My dh is fed up and says he won’t pay for her to have another holiday, as her grandparents recently paid for her elective to south america.

Would you take your adult child on holiday?

Yes I would pay for my adult child if I could afford to.

Some interesting responses here! In my mind it’s a very working class attitude to think once a child is 18 that they should fend for themselves. We take the view that they fend for themselves when they are able to support themselves properly.

Yep- I would, because it would be lovely to have him with us (also 23).

Oh come on she’s done amazingly well and can’t afford much more. I would find a new cat sitter and most certainly take her.

yeah, come back when you have spent 30+ years raising kids and never had any proper "alone time", see how you feel then😁

Dd 22 in medical school and I cannot think of going on family holidays without her. I keep thinking that it won't be long before she decides that she does not want to come with us. She doesn't work and we help with accommodation and expenses.
We have a 15 year old Dd and it is important that the children get to spend sometime together on holiday.
Happy to pay as long as she is happy to come on holiday with us.

Yes, we would.

Not in a 1 bedroom apartment. As you said, she had an expensive holiday paid for earlier this year so she’s done alright.

Yes if you can afford it. Celebrate the end of her Medical degree.

I think there’s a difference if you have a lone child and a couple of siblings. Having a couple of kids that can do there own thing is a very different family holiday to having just one tag along. Even as adults I ‘d feel odd leaving one alone whilst DH and I went out for dinner. Two or more and they’d be happy to let us go so they could do there on thing.

“ their own” 🙄

If DH totally objects, I would leave him at home and go with your daughter. Medical school is an incredible strain and she might be doing 12 hour shifts later on. Make the most of her, he's around all the time. He can cat sit too and that'll be a saving !

I'd absolutely take her! Both of my DC's at Uni get the offer of coming with us on Holiday if we are going outside of term time. We enjoy being together as a family and they work hard the rest of the time.

Dd is coming on holiday with us again this year. She is 20. Ds prefers staying at home. He doesn’t like the sunshine and says our holidays are boring! 😂

dd has he option to go away with friends but she doesn’t want to. X

We absolutely would!
We see our money as family money, my husband even more so than me. Our daughter is only 11 but I can’t imagine a future where we don’t continue to pay for all sorts for her.

She has a good work ethic already, does chores around the house, is responsible for her dog and pony, and understands that work = money. It sounds like your daughter has an excellent work ethic too and for me it’s not about whether they’re earning money, more whether they work hard (paid or unpaid) and don’t doss around.

There’s no way we would not invite her on holiday and if we invited her there’s just no way we wouldn’t pay, it wouldn’t even cross our minds.

You must be so proud of her! A medical degree is very hard going.

every year we book a holiday let house, different place each year, we’ve done this since our first summer together so nearly 40 years now. The only difference is the house is bigger 😂. We go the first week of the school holidays, decide as a family where we want to go ( iow most years tbh ). Then DH and locate a suitable place book, a pay for everything, no we don’t eat out every night, but we bbq etc, we spend days on the beach /playing games / site seeing. If a couple want to disappear for the day they do. It’s fun we all love it and it keeps the family bonded.

the only issue we have these years is finding a property we like that sleeps 15 !

Yes for sure

God yes take her. It is a privilege to have an amazing dd whose company you enjoy and a compliment to your parenting skills that she wants to come with you.

I can't ever imagine a time I wouldn't be delighted my children still wanted to holiday with me! So yes, I'd absolutely take her!