My son failed his university degree

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I feel at a loss. Could I have done more? I was supposed and looking forward to a university graduation when my son sends a message that he will.jot tet a degree. He filed too many times. 4vyears. £70000 debt and no degree. Future ruined. I am.just at a loss and just crying, feeling a mix of anger, disappointment, responsibility.... I could go on but feel like a failure myself as a mother.

My Dd failed her degree. She really tried. She repeated a year but this didn't help. She has since been diagnosed with autism and adhd and has various other health issues.

Because of her overall grades the university awarded her a HND instead. So she did achieve a qualification.

Is this something your DS could enquire about. Then at least he didn't leave with nothing.

My DD went on to persue a higher level apprenticeship and now has a job in the science field. She really thought that this was out of reach. (She makes Chemo drugs and works for the nhs). She loves it and it's a dream job for her.

So all was not lost. Although it felt like it at the time.

There is always another direction or opportunity.

What a lovely outcome. May I ask, the fact your DD failed the degree, did it come out of the blue? Was she previously always very high achieving or was it the step up to uni that provided difficult?

@lbwagain
My DD was previously high achieving. Great GCSE and A levels.

However, she did also suffer from depression and anxiety and this escalated at university. She also had issues with maintaining friendships.

In first year she started having seizures and was diagnosed with epilepsy which really affected her.

She passed year one and 2 but has issues in year 3. She attempted to repeat the year but wasn't able to.

I also felt that she didn't get the support from the university that she needed.

She has since had the diagnosis of autism and adhd. Has a chronic kidney disease and a pending diagnosis of a form of dyslexia with numbers.

She really has had to battle through. But I am really proud of her and she didn't give up on a science career and will have a rewarding future in this field.

Goodness, she really has been facing some major challenges. I'm so, so sorry that the uni wasn't more supportive, quite shocked about that actually. Seems ludicrous that she couldn't retake / sit the year, especially with those circumstances.

She and you must be so proud of her resilience through these really major issues, and she's done so well. Great to hear of stories like this.

@lbwagain Thank you. I really appreciate your post.

It has been a very difficult journey.

The university was disappointing. But I think they have improved their mental health support in the last couple of years.

I am extremely proud of DD's resilience. She still has counselling now which really helps.

She met her Husband at uni. He graduated. They are a lovely couple and he is very supportive.

If your DD patcher first two years, would she qualify to get an HND? And then perhaps complete through the OU or birkbeck? Even part time?

@HucklefinBerry
Yes. She did qualify for an HND. This enabled her to obtain her nhs apprenticeship in drug manufacturing.

So there has been a happy ending

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