AIBU to be upset about my DD's university choice?

[Nicmarmum]

My DD, who is now in year 13, decided to study Law for her undergraduate studies. She applied for a few universities in the UK and received conditional offers from UCL and KCL.

She attended the open day of both universities and formed a strong preference of KCL over UCL. She likes KCL's vibes, its beautiful buildings and is disappointed by how unorganized UCL run the open day, and its facilities look run down to her.

She is considering to firm KCL which I am unsure whether it is a wise choice. I am given to know that UCL is academically stronger in law, and enjoys a better reputation in the industry. I have conveyed such messages to DD as well but she seems to be quite determined. If you were me, what will you do?

I’m a lawyer and wouldn’t make any distinction whatsoever between the two when recruiting.

you have to let them make their own choice. You’ve had your turn. It’s vital that they go where they feel comfortable. Sometimes they can’t even explain it but one place just feels right. My eldest rejected his Durham offer and never regretted it.

I should add that I am relatively unbiased as I did my first degree at UCL then another at KCL, where I also worked.

I just KNEW that the Universities of choice wouldn't be Wolverhampton, Bolton, or Wrexham! 😆

@Nicmarmum As has been said, it's none of your business where your DD goes. Butt out.

Ultimately she would do well having graduated from either one of those universities.

But.... there will be and always has been a bias towards UCL graduates among the big firms/employers over KCL.

I'd refer you to

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/higher_education/5061426-getting-a-third-what-next?reply=134776272

Where a poster is saying that she works in early talent and lots of company's are dropping the degree requirement.

Very different opportunities quoted here, but not really similar to joining a top legal (or accountancy) firm.

Absolutely, there aren’t many law firms nowadays who would take someone without a 2:1. Why would they? A 2:2 either indicates they didn’t have the intellectual capability or they didn’t do enough work, neither of which are great for a legal career.

This is terrible advice, you shouldn’t be using money to manipulate someone’s choices. It will just make a child believe that, that’s it’s acceptable for other people to do that to them.

Now, to the original point, let your daughter make her own life choices, you will benefit massively if you do this and are there to support her.

You don't do anything. This is her life and she's pretty much an adult and disorganisation on an open day isn't a good sign. She sounds very sensible and capable.