Didn’t think I was going to cry, I’m not a cryer and I’d managed to get all the way home

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after dropping dd off at Uni other dd was in car and I ask what they fancied for tea, “Pizza” so I called into supermarket before getting home and auto picked up 2 large pizzas for the 4 of us and realised we don’t need 2 large as there’s only 3 of us and swopped one for a medium while wanting to cry I managed to get home and now the pizzas are out the oven for Strictly and I can’t stop crying god it’s hard how did it not realise I was going to end up like this. I’m just going to get pissed balls to it

DD goes to Bath uni next sat.
I'm currently sat in my bath, sobbing.
Fecking menopause and life changes.

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I've just dropped my youngest to uni today, spent the day with her as she got sorted and unpacked and she took advantage of the bank of Mum for her first big shop. I've not cried, because I've been through it before with DD1 and I know DD2 is happy and excited to be there. But I'm v nostalgic and it's not sunk in yet that she's not here home and won't be at least until Christmas.

It is really hard, but it’s normal. You’ve brought them up to be independent, but it’s hard letting them go. You’re not alone. But it does get easier with time, hang on in there

Ahhh it's such a Big Moment. But dd went back early for her 2nd year due to her work commitments and tbh, I nearly cried happy tears then because they come back such a pita.

I'd have bought 2 large pizzas tho and been a greedy pig secure in the knowledge I didn't have an 18 year old judging my gluttony 😁.

I have a 8 month old and can't imagine this right now . But it must be nice for my mum cos I went to uni at 18 and never really went back home to stay very much at all; but now with baby I go really often and she and my dad love it

It's a huge step.
DD is so independent now, but shit, I can't stop blubbering!!

Aww bless you.
I'm so sorry that you're sad.
I'm not there yet but it sounds really hard!

❤️ it is hard at first.

I got back to my hotel room (in Bath) last year and collapsed in a heap sobbing "I did it, I let her go"

I only thought afterwards about how hard it must have been for my own Mum back in the 80s leaving me.

We do these things. We manage. And it will be fine. They'll be fine. We've given them wings.

But it's hard.

Good luck to everyone ❤️

Just home after dropping my son (eldest) off at Newcastle Uni. It hit him when he got there how real it was. He’s leaving his girlfriend behind too which upset him. His room is a bit crap - not what we were expecting from photos so he’s a bit disappointed. He was tearing up a lot. He’s messaged to say the people in his room are nothing like him and he doesn’t like it.

Hoping he’ll settle!!

We dropped my DD off a couple of weeks ago. I cried like mad when I got home. We talk/FaceTime/text a lotbut she is really homesick and it is so hard not to drive and see her or tell her to drive home but she will get there. It's so hard but I know she will regret it if she does come home. These days will pass and soon she will be having the time of her life

They’ll settle. It’s not too bad for my son as we live only 40 miles away so he can get a train home easily every weekend. I told him that most new students will feel sad/homesick at first but it does pass.

I loved my university years!! Hope he will too!!

It's pretty hard. It's so good, they've done so well, you want them To have a marvellous life and be independent but it's just really hard not to have them in the house. The supermarket is the worst place btw, bit of an own goal for you really it's the place where you really notice they aren't there as you don5 need to feed them. Given you've been feeding that child for 18 years giving them the literal blood in your veins and calcium from your bones when in the womb this is a Big Thing.
It gets better. But have a good cry just now. The good news is they still really need their parents and parenting adults is amazing, my older dds are at the point where they take me out for dinner now. This is nice,

Really hoping all this passes then.
Haven't cried in ages, but tonight, oh my!

Seeing the little plants DD has bought herself for her room and the coat hangers etc 😢😢😢😢😢

It’s so hard - last year we had to stay over after dropping DS off because his uni is so far away, and we met him for breakfast the next day, and he was fretting because he hadn’t really met anyone he ‘clicked’ with and he looked so small and lost 😢

A year later, he’s loving it and is so happy and confidently independent, and still sharing with the guys he was randomly placed with last year! Hang in there.

Taking DS2 (final one!) in the morning 😢 car packed can’t quite believe it - so pleased he’s going, we’ve had a rough couple of years, including his dad (my DH) dying so am def feeling it… very pleased for this new phase for him but gulp

Ahhh, that’s good to know. I’m sure they’ll get on soon!

@Moopyhereagain best of luck to your DS and sending a 🌺 for you. Life is tough.

It's hard, isn't it? Took our DD1 last weekend and definitely won't see her before the Xmas hols as it's about 400 miles away!!!!

I've been ok so far as September is so busy at work and I've still got one at home - due to go next year so a whole different ballgame when they are both away - but I'm sure over the next few weeks I'll get some grief waves!

She's having a great time, freshers week now almost over and she's got quite a full on timetable starting on Monday.

This is the way

for all the struggling parents.
I must be odd because I wasn't upset or sad. I was excited for DD starting the next chapter.
It helped that she had taken a gap year and had worked and travelled so I was used to her not being home all the time.

As parents we have given our young people the tools to be independent so we should be congratulating ourselves in having done a good job, and not feeling sad. Of couurse we will miss them - I missed DD, but we shouldn't be holding our DC back or guilt tripping them into constantly keeping in touch.

I think it’s partly because it’s just us at home now with their older disabled sibling.

The shitty voice in my head is pointing out to me that yesterday I had two kids at home and now I have one disabled adult at home and that just felt, I don’t know, a lot I suppose, like I’ve just stepped into day 1 of another world that I hadn’t prepared myself for, but I had my little cry and I’ve given my head a shake it’ll all be fine I know it will

Not going good here. DS has just phoned, in tears, as he wants to come home. He really is upset. No idea what we do if he has to come home - especially with the accommodation contract. He could travel in by train, which would be a chew on each day, but he’d probably have enough to stay in a Premier Inn one or two nights a week (which he’d probably prefer).

This really isn’t going well.

We just did the move here today with dd, 200 miles from home and me and ds will be heading back tomorrow.
I'm so proud to see how far my daughter has come but can't believe it's come round this quick!

We were all supposed to go for dinner after the food shop but had one of the older students knocking on the doors to say there was a get together with pizza so me and son ended up leaving for own meal😂 In my air bnb trying to prepare myself to leave her behind, we are going to miss her so much and I'm just about keeping it together!

God I'm nowhere near this stage and this thread is making me cry!

I feel for you. I'm dropping my oldest at Uni for the first time next Saturday. It is the other end of the country ( 5 1/2 hours drive). I am thrilled for him, I know he is going to have a fantastic time. I will cry all the way home!
I too am menopausal. I have a 16 and 14 year old left at home but I am really going to miss him.