Didn’t think I was going to cry, I’m not a cryer and I’d managed to get all the way home

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after dropping dd off at Uni other dd was in car and I ask what they fancied for tea, “Pizza” so I called into supermarket before getting home and auto picked up 2 large pizzas for the 4 of us and realised we don’t need 2 large as there’s only 3 of us and swopped one for a medium while wanting to cry I managed to get home and now the pizzas are out the oven for Strictly and I can’t stop crying god it’s hard how did it not realise I was going to end up like this. I’m just going to get pissed balls to it

I am taking my son to move to Brighton tomorrow as he joins Sussex Uni.

I am so proud and excited for him. BUT I have been a wreck for weeks, with me sobbing at stupid things and my DH and DD laughing at me.

I really want to make him proud and hold it together but I just don't think I can.

And yes, menopause here too!

Taking ds to Cardiff today. Now it’s hit me that he’s leaving. I’m inbetween excited and nervous!

Took DD2 on Sunday and held it together til I got home.
Been crying on and off ever since!
It's the 'firsts' that gets me.
I did the first weekly shop yesterday with tears in my eyes walking past her favourite things and thinking that we don't need that this week.
On the plus side the shop was markedly cheaper so every cloud and all that!
DD is living her best life and amazing us every day , long may it continue.
The tears, thankfully, are all mine.
I've even begun to listen to music again but have to be very selective what I put on.
Onwards and upwards, I look forward to a day when I don't shed a tear 😂

Sorry meant to say she's my second and my baby.
Didn't feel this way at all when DD1 went.
She graduated last year and is at home but so busy with her own life so it's pretty much just DH and I most of the time.
Lots of adjusting to not having to be a mother in the way I have been for 22 years 😭

I felt like this last year. I am a single parent to 2 DD’s, dd1 started uni last year leaving me with DD2 (17) who is severely autistic, her sister was a huge help when living at home, dd2 needs 24 hour supervision so without dd1 to help I felt even more isolated. Dd1 settled in really well to uni and after a week I stopped crying and excepted she wasn’t coming home (until Christmas).

I take her back tomorrow to start year 2 and I’m not feeling as sad, she’s excited, she can’t wait to see her friends and I am kind of looking forward to me and dd2 getting back into a normal routine. I now have respite in place to help me with dd2 for a couple hours a week which has helped a lot. I also realise Christmas will be here soon and dd1 will return with her washing, even if it’s only for a few days.

It does get easier.

Yes our was a carer to her elder sister when needed although we just miss her full stop that is another layer for our tiny family unit to get used to

He's settled! I found it so hard, made his bed, set up his en-suite and left. He'll do great I know, but my amazing DD helped me. We are staying in town til tomorrow. I'll find it hard driving away.

I live near two Unis and our local Tesco was packed today with the freshers arriving doing their first shop with their parents. I had tears at the check out and they weren’t even my kids 🤣🤣. My eldest is 13 and I suspect he will go to Uni…. It must be tough.

How are they all getting on a few weeks in?

My DD is doing great. She’s restarting her first year as had to take LOA last October due to an ongoing illness. I drove 4 hrs to see her this week, to check she’s managing. I took her out for lunch, she burst into tears saying she feels so guilty as she isn’t missing home!! I’m so proud, we truly thought she might not manage. Last year she didn’t, we had a really hard year with both her physical and mental health.
So to all, even if yours are struggling, for whatever reason, give them time and patience. They’ll find their way.

That's nice to hear @Littlemissprosecco & great for you and your DD.