Page 9 | Countdown to A level results day - 2023

HereWeGo2023 · 2023-06-14T06:10:52+00:00

Following on from the A level support thread I thought I would create one for results day. Hopefully you will all join me for the long nail biting wait and the big day at the end of it!

ZittiEBuoni · 28/06/2023 09:15

Solidarity to all with dc about to go on their lads/lasses holidays... I'm posting from the other side, just watching dd's plane descending over Gatwick on Flightradar. She'll be home soon, phew.

Hellohah · 28/06/2023 09:21

Mine returned from his Corfu adventure at 3am this morning.

For those worrying, he survived. And he had an absolute blast. He went with a mix of girls and boys (the girls were the problem with bickering, the lads left them to it).

I think his liver probably needs a rest, but he looked well enough (less of a tan than I thought he'd have though 😂).

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HereWeGo2023 · 28/06/2023 09:41

Thanks for your kind messages, i think we are gradually getting used to him not being here.
DD is off out with friends today so it will do her good to get out of the house and laugh.
only a couple more days and then we will be able to say that results day is next month!
I was trying to visualise the actual morning. I think she is going to look at UCAS to see if her place is confirmed, and then I think she is emailed the results by college (can’t go in as far as she knows).
Im sure every single one of us on here will be a complete bundle of nerves on the morning. Im going to be feeling sick waiting for 8am (it is 8am for UCAS?)

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toomuchlaundry · 28/06/2023 10:08

DS is getting to ready to go off on his travels today. He is calm (me not so!) Only a week so a gentle break in for me before becoming an empty nester later this year (results willing)

Forestfriendlygarden · 28/06/2023 11:02

HereWeGo2023 · 28/06/2023 09:41

Thanks for your kind messages, i think we are gradually getting used to him not being here.
DD is off out with friends today so it will do her good to get out of the house and laugh.
only a couple more days and then we will be able to say that results day is next month!
I was trying to visualise the actual morning. I think she is going to look at UCAS to see if her place is confirmed, and then I think she is emailed the results by college (can’t go in as far as she knows).
Im sure every single one of us on here will be a complete bundle of nerves on the morning. Im going to be feeling sick waiting for 8am (it is 8am for UCAS?)

Phew! Well done!

Forestfriendlygarden · 28/06/2023 11:46

HereWeGo2023 · 28/06/2023 09:41

Thanks for your kind messages, i think we are gradually getting used to him not being here.
DD is off out with friends today so it will do her good to get out of the house and laugh.
only a couple more days and then we will be able to say that results day is next month!
I was trying to visualise the actual morning. I think she is going to look at UCAS to see if her place is confirmed, and then I think she is emailed the results by college (can’t go in as far as she knows).
Im sure every single one of us on here will be a complete bundle of nerves on the morning. Im going to be feeling sick waiting for 8am (it is 8am for UCAS?)

Good grief, soon to be a month away, as you say.

I don't think it is a bad thing to visualise results day. G.C.S.E results day I did, and DD and I agreed that she would walk to school - (calming and not far away) but then two parents of another child interfered and insisted on giving her a lift, which made the whole thing more stressful!

Plus one thing to be aware of is people filming!
I was really annoyed that mates of DD had filmed her getting an offer from one uni and it was posted on the college website. Yes, DD was happy about the offer, but that was six months before the exams and we didn't need the extra pressure of other people discussing it before it had happened!

Filming I don't agree with, as there will be some really happy bunnies on results day, but should things turn out differently than expected, I feel young people with either scenario (and their parents) may need some private time to process!

Others may disagree, but it is not a spectator sport!

tribpot · 28/06/2023 11:49

Totally agree, @Forestfriendlygarden .

FriendlyLaundryMonster · 30/06/2023 12:09

We were actually on a film set for GCSE results day. Me, Ds and dd were all film extras, anxiously wondering when there would be a chance for Ds to check his results and when the chaperone found out, she called a fifteen minute break! ‘Let’s take 15!’

Forestfriendlygarden · 30/06/2023 13:01

FriendlyLaundryMonster · 30/06/2023 12:09

We were actually on a film set for GCSE results day. Me, Ds and dd were all film extras, anxiously wondering when there would be a chance for Ds to check his results and when the chaperone found out, she called a fifteen minute break! ‘Let’s take 15!’

oh that's sweet. love to be an extra again - when DD goes off to uni I hope...

Travelban · 30/06/2023 14:21

Forestfriendlygarden · 28/06/2023 11:46

Good grief, soon to be a month away, as you say.

I don't think it is a bad thing to visualise results day. G.C.S.E results day I did, and DD and I agreed that she would walk to school - (calming and not far away) but then two parents of another child interfered and insisted on giving her a lift, which made the whole thing more stressful!

Plus one thing to be aware of is people filming!
I was really annoyed that mates of DD had filmed her getting an offer from one uni and it was posted on the college website. Yes, DD was happy about the offer, but that was six months before the exams and we didn't need the extra pressure of other people discussing it before it had happened!

Filming I don't agree with, as there will be some really happy bunnies on results day, but should things turn out differently than expected, I feel young people with either scenario (and their parents) may need some private time to process!

Others may disagree, but it is not a spectator sport!

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I totally agree it isn't a spectator sport.

I suspect if they have been accepted by UCAS to their firm or insurance, they will be less stressed...

Even though they have to go into school, I think DD will want to open it in private. So may we will wait in the car outside !!!

ZittiEBuoni · 30/06/2023 15:19

Another exam for DD today! But this time an ABRSM singing exam. She was very nervous and downbeat beforehand ('how bad do you have to be to fail?') but came out feeling positive. Not a long wait for results, we'll probably get them within the next couple of weeks.

sammyjoanne · 01/07/2023 00:25

DD2 is with her boyfriend and his family for a few weeks, so we have got an empty nest for the time being. DD1 has got a weekend job so shes staying in Lancaster with her uni mates and awaiting the 3rd year results. What the the marking boycott she might only get half of them, but as long as she gets into 4th year fingers crossed.

Outnumberedbytwo · 01/07/2023 10:35

Very best of luck to your dd1 @sammyjoanne ! It must be so frustrating for all those in limbo waiting to see if they will have their finals marked or not. Is she doing an integrated masters course?

Forestfriendlygarden · 01/07/2023 12:00

Very best of luck to all awaiting results for uni.

DD has a friend to stay - today. They met on summer schools for uni and they are very close he is a delightful young man, thank goodness!

aleC4 · 01/07/2023 13:15

Ds had his sixth form prom last night as they missed out in 2021 then keyed off on holidays with 5 friends this morning.
Don't think I'll sleep for a week! 😱

sammyjoanne · 01/07/2023 17:09

Outnumberedbytwo · 01/07/2023 10:35

Very best of luck to your dd1 @sammyjoanne ! It must be so frustrating for all those in limbo waiting to see if they will have their finals marked or not. Is she doing an integrated masters course?

Hi she is doing an integrated masters. Her masters dissertation project she has been told on friday and its with someone who does not strike. She purposely chose supervisors that do no strike or boycott. I just hope she gets the grades she needs for 4th year as she had a rotten 2nd year and her grades was not as good as she wanted them to be. This year she felt she did amazingly well, and her coursework was so much better too. Fingers crossed for anyone who is needing their grades this year for job/next stage of education :)

mummyinbeds · 01/07/2023 23:53

I forgot to move over to this thread when DD finished exams. She's spent the last two weeks sleeping and seeing friends. Today she flew to Ghana to spend a month volunteering in a school. She spent two weeks there last year plus a stopover in Egypt on the way back (totally on her own with no mobile phone 😱) I feel quite relaxed about her trip this time as she knows what to expect. I started clearing the rubbish out of her room before she'd left Heathrow 😂

Forestfriendlygarden · 02/07/2023 03:57

mummyinbeds · 01/07/2023 23:53

I forgot to move over to this thread when DD finished exams. She's spent the last two weeks sleeping and seeing friends. Today she flew to Ghana to spend a month volunteering in a school. She spent two weeks there last year plus a stopover in Egypt on the way back (totally on her own with no mobile phone 😱) I feel quite relaxed about her trip this time as she knows what to expect. I started clearing the rubbish out of her room before she'd left Heathrow 😂

How exciting! I love the idea of 'feeling quite relaxed' about a trip they are taking. I'm not quite there yet, but the more practice she gets at things the calmer I feel. I'm working on it...I am looking forward to DD going to Spain as being a single parent I really feel I haven't had a break from parenting for a very long time now - they have a good support team in place over there - and I've said to DD I won't expect her to check in every two seconds - I do want her to experience more autonomy and the joy of becoming more competent in a language.

I worked abroad when I was younger and it was a big part of my life. Perhaps we should carry on this thread when A level results are over under the umbrella 'enjoying empty-nesting'...from so many sides you only hear negative things about it, but there are lots of things I'm looking forward to...(not having so much washing for one..)

Travelban · 02/07/2023 09:14

mummyinbeds · 01/07/2023 23:53

I forgot to move over to this thread when DD finished exams. She's spent the last two weeks sleeping and seeing friends. Today she flew to Ghana to spend a month volunteering in a school. She spent two weeks there last year plus a stopover in Egypt on the way back (totally on her own with no mobile phone 😱) I feel quite relaxed about her trip this time as she knows what to expect. I started clearing the rubbish out of her room before she'd left Heathrow 😂

My daughter did this too when she was 16...an amazing experience. She still has friends from the trip and a couple have visited in the summer!

NotDonna · 02/07/2023 09:56

Wow what an experience @mummyinbeds and I’m loving your gcse results story @FriendlyLaundryMonster
DD is in Spain with friends and she’s messaging now and then with photos. Plus she said she’d keep 360 on. Im not going to be empty nest for another few years as although DD1 has moved out (apprentice) and 🤞🏼this DD2 Uni bound, I’ve DD3 starting yr10. But it already feels weird with just one at home whilst DD2 in Spain.

KittyMcKitty · 03/07/2023 11:55

It sounds like the dc are enjoying their holiday! Dd and friends have just landed in Rome.

Forestfriendlygarden · 03/07/2023 12:12

I have just got hold of a book called 'Secret Paths' by a social psychologist called Terri Apter.

She has some interesting things to say about 'empty nesting'.

The book contains different chapters, all written by women - who are navigating this time in their lives. Insights include the suggestion that women may well find empty nesting easier than men - mostly because they have been preparing for it for a long time, whereas for men it may come as more of a shock.

I am really noticing at the moment how different parents (and the parents on here) navigate the paths differently. As for me I'm a Capricorn and an organiser - so my first response is usually 'when in doubt, organise'....this has really helped me on the journey through A level exams and stuff, and also the first trip abroad for DD. Just booked her flight yesterday (I knew she would be working a lot and places were limited)...

Slight tangent to the thread I know, just thought it might be of interest...

Forestfriendlygarden · 03/07/2023 12:16

Here is a review from another of her books - The Teenage Interpreter.

At times I have struggled to understand my DD and her journeys in life - so I think that is my next read!

"An insightful, revealing and practical guide to adolescents’ inner world, from a renowned psychologist
Once children hit adolescence, it seems as if overnight “I love you” becomes “leave me alone” and any question from a parent can be dismissed with one word: “fine.” But while they may not show it, teenagers benefit from their parents’ curiosity, delight and connection.
In The Teen Interpreter, psychologist Terri Apter looks inside adolescents’ minds―minds that are experiencing powerful new emotions and awareness of the world around them―to show how parents can revitalise their relationship. She illuminates the rapid neurological developments of a teenagers’ brain, explains the power of teenage friendships, and explores the positives and pitfalls of social media. With perceptive conversation exercises that synthesise research from more than thirty years in the field, Apter illustrates how teenagers signal their changing needs and identities―and how parents can interpret these signals to see the world through their teenager’s eyes.
The Teen Interpreter is a generous roadmap for enjoying the most challenging, and rewarding, parenting years.
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Nugg · 03/07/2023 13:21

@ZittiEBuoni oooh did your dad enjoy Porto I'm skin my ds there next week as a post exam treat

SB1971 · 03/07/2023 22:00

Can I join you all?
DD finished 2 A levels in Sociology and Bus Studies and a BTEC in Criminology and has a deferred place at Uni but not really sure she is going to go.
Gap year plans are somewhat loose and I am keen for her to get cracking and planning - she has already been to Majorca with her OH and has a girls holiday in Aug to look forward to, She is picking up lots of shifts in the pub she has been at since post GSCE's but am keen for her to plan some more meaningful activities for her year off.
Is tricky to hold back and not nag her a lot on this - am a control freak and like a plan!