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University 2019/20 intake: vacations, vaccinations, va-va-voom restored and virtually into their third year

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NewModelArmyMayhem18 · 18/06/2021 10:34

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icanbewhatiwant · 06/10/2021 15:48

@RoastedBeans many of us on this thread are on this year 13 one. It's been going on a while. You could read back or just join in now. I hope I've done the link correctly.

Corona Cohort: Statements Scripted, Grades Predicted www.mumsnet.com/Talk/further_education/4354626-Corona-Cohort-Statements-Scripted-Grades-Predicted

RoastedBeans · 06/10/2021 16:56

Thanks @Icanbewhatiwant

Benjispruce4 · 06/10/2021 17:52

My DD2 is Y13 but don’t think I have the energy for another thread! I’ve learnt a lot from this one as DD1 was my first uni experience.
DD1 is suffering with an awful cough(double jabbed and negative PCR) and has had to leave lectures with it as too disruptive! Ironic really after wanting real lectures for so long. It’s a nasty cough and sinus cold-type thing that seems to be doing the rounds.

Decorhate · 09/10/2021 08:32

I’ve also got a Y13. I think there is a thread going in HE as well as the thread linked to below.

MargaretThursday · 09/10/2021 19:21

I've got a year 13 too, but she's planning on a gap year.

bigTillyMint · 13/10/2021 20:16

Hope they are all off to a better 3rd year than 2nd year!

DS has decided on the area he will focus on for his diss - sounds really interesting to me Smile

RampantIvy · 13/10/2021 20:29

DD had to put her application in for her dissertation in yesterday. She had more or less decided then attended a couple of lectures about transplants, so she has added that to her options.

She has had load of face to face lectures and said it was better than online. With covid rates rising I wonder how long it will last.

blametheparents · 13/10/2021 20:35

DD is year 12, but I expect it’ll fly by and she’ll soon be thinking about personal statements and the like!

DS has some stuff in person, which is fab.

bigTillyMint · 13/10/2021 20:46

@RampantIvy, just have to hope that tutors have been double jabbed and don’t get seriously ill. And vulnerable students.

simbobs · 13/10/2021 20:49

DS has all lectures online but f2f seminars, which he is quite happy about. I think he is more impressed by the fact that he has managed to hold on to a few shifts at work and is earning extra cash.

Benjispruce4 · 13/10/2021 21:26

All of DD’s lectures are in person so far. Really pleased for her. Durham uni Covid cases appear to be low still after a slight rise a week or two ago.

bigTillyMint · 15/10/2021 16:31

@Benjispruce4 DS says the same, except one tutor has Covid/symptoms so did it on Zoom.
He is back for the weekend because it is his gfs birthday - he came back with a pile of dirty washing which he shoved in the machine (I was at work) and has gone off to gfs, but will be round tomorrow to pick it up Confused Neither of them have previously brought dirty washing home and he has just moved in a fancy new flat Confused

simbobs · 27/10/2021 20:24

This thread has gone very quiet! Anyone else have a DC that is hating their final year? DS called earlier and confessed that he isn't enjoying his course this year at all and wishes he had never started. He has done hardly any work and can't see the point in finishing it. I'm mortified, as there is so little left to go. He wants to do something that he is passionate about but cannot tell me what falls into that category and actually earns money. His paid work is also getting in the way, as they have changed his shifts, and he needs the money. I wish he had discussed this with us before, but we have hardly heard from him this term, and wrongly assumed all was well. I am trying to get him to come home for a day or so at the weekend so that we can talk things through. I despair!

RampantIvy · 27/10/2021 20:40

Oh. I'm so sorry he is struggling @simbobs. Can you go and visit him at all? Would giving up his job help or is that not an option?

DD is having the kind of university experience that she should have done last year. All lectures are F2F, and her social life is busy.

She is kept on her toes workwise, and has already had two exams this term. They are online and they are given 24 hours to complete them, but she gets so stressed and anxious about them that she can't sleep.

Her CFS continues to cause issues, but she has managed to get a referral to see a consultant next month. I hope she doesn't get an exam sprung on her on the same day as her appointment.

I hope your DD is managing OK. We never stop worrying about our DC.

simbobs · 27/10/2021 20:55

@RampantIvy We want to try and talk to him face to face, so if he won't come here we will maybe go there. He is also having the uni social life that he missed out on in the last couple of years, part of the problem, methinks. He wouldn't need so much cash otherwise. DH has said that we can top him up if he gives up his job, but not to spend on going to music events and drinking. DD, very sad news. She is having to defer and come home. Her cfs has got so much worse (limited mobility, brain fog). She is still waiting for a consultant appointment, so if one comes through we will just have to take her back for it. She doesn't want to live here but can't manage on her own anymore 😢

bigTillyMint · 27/10/2021 20:58

@simbobs, so sorry to hear that Sad It all becomes much more serious in the final year, and they didn’t get a proper 2nd year - it’s so difficult for them.

Benjispruce4 · 27/10/2021 21:19

Sorry to hear that @simbobs. Where are your DS and DD studying? Will your DD get an automatic place next year? Must be an awful worry for you.
We are off to York tomorrow to have an unofficial look at university there for DD2. DD1 seems to be suffering with another cold after finally shifting an awful cough. The worry never goes away does it?

RampantIvy · 27/10/2021 21:21

I hope she gets and appointment soon @simbobs. CFS sucks, and what makes it worse is that so many people just don't get it. Flowers

icanbewhatiwant · 27/10/2021 21:35

@simbobs sorry to hear that dc's are having problems.

Ds1 is enjoying third year. Lots of f2f thank goodness. He's missed so much hands on stuff the past 2 years.

simbobs · 27/10/2021 22:19

@RampantIvy she apparently was sent an appointment but to the wrong address, so is now at the back of the queue again. She can't get to and around hospital on her own. Her gp wanted to send her an ambulance to take her to A&E in the hope that she would get more tests, but as the wait could have been as much as 9 hours she declined. We have no specialist services where we live, unfortunately.

RampantIvy · 27/10/2021 22:41

@simbobs I feel so frustrated on your behalf. I really hope that she gets seen soon. It's heartbreaking when your young DC don't have the energy and health to enjoy life the way they should.

simbobs · 27/10/2021 22:48

@RampantIvy I bought her a wheelchair today 😕. She is virtually bedbound. She used to hike, ride and climb - shocking!

minesawine · 28/10/2021 09:14

Hello all. My DS is the opposite and says his 3rd year is already way better than the last 2 years. He got to choose all of his modules and is excited by them all, and he has started his dissertation. He says he is too busy to think about a job when he finishes in June/July and wont apply for any of the graduate schemes that keep popping up in his inbox. I think coming back home to real life, with no job will be a big anti climax for him and I am a bit concerned about how he will cope.

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NewModelArmyMayhem18 · 28/10/2021 12:15

@simbobs sorry to hear about your DS. I think with your DS it's possible that studying from home during Yrs 1 and 2 possibly meant that he didn't see the wood from the trees regarding his course? It's very tricky because he's so close to the end goal now, isn't he (it's probably only another six months of study)?

And your poor DD Sad. Is there any reason why her CFS has got worse? I hope she gets her consultant appointment soon.

Good to hear that so many young people are enjoying the social life aspect of the university experience that they'd missed out on earlier in their time at uni.

DS seems a bit lonely to me. He's not a party animal type at all. Had a great time in Year 2 (even during lockdown) in his house share (they were all up there for the whole time) but in Year 3, his housemates are not as 'community minded', and he seems to be home alone quite a lot of the time. Compounded by having a girlfriend now studying for her Masters elsewhere. He seems to be travelling to see/spend time with her every month, so possibly not really entering into the spirit of socialising in Norwich. I also think he made friends with quite a lot of Yr 2 students when he was in Yr 1, so they've all 'flown' now.

DS just trying to get a Christmas job at the moment. He doesn't seem to be in the right headspace to think about what he's going to do next. I think he's getting a bit anxious ab out everything and not necessarily being steadfast in his approach to stuff (aside from his studies).

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bigTillyMint · 28/10/2021 13:37

@simbobs, your poor DD. Has it been aggravated by covid?

My DS is super busy trying to get on law open days, etc, plus I hope studying! He is cutting right back on going out ShockGrin

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