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It's real now - leaving home to go to uni (part 3)

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user9512736123 · 18/08/2017 10:45

Here you go @Lucysky2017

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BehindTheBlueDoor · 11/09/2017 08:52

Three more weeks here before mine goes. Currently doing agency work to earn a bit of cash and it means I'm not so much worried about him going away I'm focused on hoping he arrives at work and home safely each morning and evening. Mind you, if his room is anything to go by, his student genes have kicked in well and truly. Confused

ono40 · 11/09/2017 11:15

DS lives in his dressing gown at home so he may well end up taking two! The term bathrove ir perfect for him.

If you live or are studying in London and haven't had your meningitis ACWY vaccine you can get it free of charge from any pharmacy, no need to make an appointment. Also flu jabs if you have asthma.

DS is still on his travels so I've had a practice run at him not being here. I have had free rein on the shopping but he needs to get his ass home to pack it all up. It won't take long to pack his clothes as he has none and refuses to go shopping Grin

Oldie2017 · 11/09/2017 17:50

I did manage a bit of time with one of them today looking at the lists from the university. I think we decided or he decided he didn't need anything except new smart shoes he went out on his bike to buy but at least we went through what happens when on Friday ( go to the university, unpack (2 days early) and then go to his field trip. One of his school friends is going on the same day so that sounds easy and they are dropped back at halls on Sunday. The swimming outside at 7.30am on the field trip he said sounds rather early.......but he will take his swimming stuff he says just in case.

bigTillyMint · 11/09/2017 18:11

OldieShock - rather him than me!

Just went into DD's room - she has filled 3 massive laundry bags with clothes. I don't know where she thinks she is going to put them all Grin

Horsemad · 11/09/2017 18:25

DS has now decided he needs a whole new wardrobe... Hmm

As we live rurally, this is a PITA.

Abra1d · 11/09/2017 18:37

My daughter is very tired, very emotional and downright uncooperative about getting ready. I'm frantic with work and things are strained--getting her to do anything is a nightmare. Frankly, I think she just needs to get on with it now and stop fretting that she won't like her flat mates.

And yes, stop coming home in the early hours and waking us up when my husband has to leave home at 6.20am.

I will miss her terribly but think nature is now softening the wrench right now!

ErrolTheDragon · 11/09/2017 18:44

At some point in the past we established that we were willing to buy stuff for DD up until she left for uni, so she's gone from disliking shopping to very motivated!Grin

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 11/09/2017 18:49

My three are sorting the dvds in their playroom

Various issues, they like them in alphabetical order but what happens when its part of a trilogy with different titles

Should all the marvel universe ones be together...what about star wars

But this has been the biggest argument...are you ready?

Should they be filed in alphabetical order no matter what???

So ds1 wants them filed as The Princess Bride, The hunger games, The right stuff!!!!!!!

Massive argument....i had to break it to him that the second he leaves the house they will change it back

Plus who files stuff under The??? You should see how stressed his book case makes him

HSMMaCM · 11/09/2017 18:55

My morning job will be to put everything that belongs to DD in the bathroom cabinet out into the landing.

DH and I will then have a cavernous cabinet and she will discover enough products to last the next three years Grin.

mummmy2017 · 11/09/2017 18:56

Mine has just had a paddy as I made her wash up and throw out the food rubbish, the only person who has been in all day is her.....

olliepolly · 11/09/2017 19:22

Errol we kept saying this shop was the last but boy did she extract as much as possible. Line finally drawn with an ikea purchase at Edinburgh on the day of drop off. But do you know what, I did it all willingly and am really missing her now.

Haffdonga · 11/09/2017 19:27

The new clothes I bought ds because he needed them for uni are now scattered across his floor in a beery sweaty mess after one too many 'last' nights out. I have pointed out that if he's going to take them with him he'll need to wash, dry and iron them by Friday. So, what are the chances of that happening, I wonder. Hmm

ErrolTheDragon · 11/09/2017 19:51

Plus who files stuff under The???

I've got one book, I think its Far Side cartoons, with an index which goes something like:
A

B

.
.
T
The one about aardvarks
The one about advertising

Oldie2017 · 11/09/2017 19:58

We are packing the car the night before. I have said I am available from 6pm to 8pm to do it and if he's not back from Alton Towers by then then he and his big brother will have to do it. I am leaving on Friday at 7 or 8am. That's it. It shoudl be fine but we do not have a huge margin for error with a university coach taking them on the field trip at 2.30 or whenever it is. It will all be fine. One has been told a lot more about his room than the other (same university, different halls).

readsalotgirl63 · 11/09/2017 20:00

As a librarian I have to break it to you that "The" is ignored in shelving rules - so the correct order in Rufus's example would be The hunger games, The princess bride, The right stuff.

DD like to wind me up by shuffling her books around into non alphabetical order !

Oldie2017 · 11/09/2017 20:07

When I was a teenager I made paper index cards for each of my books and wrote into the books the Dewey reference number for that book. I still have a lot of books to this day with my numbers written into them about 40 years ago. (My sons are certainly not doing that - one is going out with his friends and to the gym as much as possible and does not want to think about university until the day before he says and his twin seems equally as busy... in fact they are so busy that they turned their sister's job down tomorrow; earlier in the summer she paid them to sit in her flat for deliveries - she moved in July; so she's going to have to work from home until the delivery man actually turns up and mvoed a meeting to later in the day as even the lure of extra mnoey will not take them from their various tasks tomorrow - which is understandable - one has 3 dental appointments all over the place tomorrow - braces out, work done, back to first clinic.)

user327854831 · 11/09/2017 20:23

Mine is away overnight tonight. I have been informed that there are some clothes waiting to be washed that they want to take with them. It's rain solidly for the last three days - it's not looking good.

Horsemad · 11/09/2017 20:52

I am starting to feel a bit overwhelmed. Work is manic and home too, trying to get DS to actually DO stuff.

I feel like I'm wading through treacle here Sad

LittleHo · 11/09/2017 21:01

One dd dropped off and two more still to go. I already feel wiped out.

The one starting this year has her accommodation offer from Warwick and has accepted it. Smile

Auntpetunia2015 · 11/09/2017 21:43

Manic here too. DS showing no sign of any packing despite me bringing boxes home from work there is still a heap of grubby clothes on his floor , he'll be taking them smelly at this rate it's peeing down here and blowing a hooley! Absolute nothing apart from what I've bought is packed. I have no idea what he's doing all day when I'm at work...actually scratch that I do, he's playing on his computer !

Abra1d · 11/09/2017 21:52

I think my daughter is in denial. Or thinks that we have maids who'll magically buy, wash and pack everything up for her.

My son, who goes back tomorrow, is also equally blithe about the return. I cracked and did his ironing when I finished work because I wanted it out of eyesight.

Which reminds me that my daughter has still never agreed to learn to iron. And is now fussing because she needs an iron to take wit hher. I wonder what she thinks she'll do with the iron. Use it as a paperweight? Door wedge?

Blogwoman · 11/09/2017 21:57

Day at a time here. Travel with DD Friday, for Moving In day Saturday. She's very wobbly about going... So hoping it all goes smoothly and she quickly settles....

Oldie2017 · 11/09/2017 22:15

Ah, discussion on ironing here - my sons and I don't iron on principle. One of their friends was pro ironing and others were not. I said mumsnet is divided between ironers and those of us who don't ever touch them. I told the boys some people even iron their sheets! Each to their own. Buy clothes that never need to be ironed and bob's your uncle and ditto clothes which can always all be washed together.

I am sure they will all be fine in their own ways. One of mine with a lovely voice told me earlier there was no way he is giong to join a university choir. What a pity but it's their experience not mine. (They know music was a big part of my university life and my parents' experiences there too)

I can see that this early field trip with outside swimming at 7.30am may be a rather wet weekend for child 5. I did remind him we do a lot of outside swimming in this family - my grandparents in the North Sea naked in the 1930s onwards. They have a duty to keep it up. Family honour - wild cold swimming whatever the weather. Anyway doesn't he want to see the majority female course-mates in their swim wear? Surely that would trump the early start for the voluntary cold dip?

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 11/09/2017 22:18

I have advised ds1 to join the

LGBT club
Politics club
Climbing club

I have also said he should join the

Ring mummy every day club

He appears to be falling for it so far

tobee · 11/09/2017 22:23

No ironing here - high fives all round!

I'm unashamedly very jealous of ds! I went to uni (poly) after retakes, still through clearing and was a lodger in year one. It was in London and more like 6th form. There was no hall of residence (or similar) for me. I got on a course I wasn't interested in (managed to change). Years 2 and 3 I lived other side of London with bf (now dh Shock). I don't even remember a freshers day let alone week. It was more like going to 6th form college. It was enjoyable; but mostly the course itself. I barely had a uni social life. Ok, the violins can stop now! Grin

So I hope ds really enjoys his time there.