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It's real now - leaving home to go to uni (part 3)

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user9512736123 · 18/08/2017 10:45

Here you go @Lucysky2017

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ErrolTheDragon · 11/09/2017 23:30

Anyway doesn't he want to see the majority female course-mates in their swim wear?
If its at 7:30am and the weather is like this, they'll have brought wetsuits. Grin

ono40 · 11/09/2017 23:38

Well DS hasn't even gone yet and I've already had a panic phonecall that he hasn't had an invitation to the part of his course that is online whereas his friend has. As he is 500 miles away and I was on a train out of London there was little I could do ...didn't stop him having a rant at me though (obvs this is MY fault, lol). I think he is starting to feel a little rattled about going - and also realising that I was actually right and he should have come home at the weekend, not extended the trip into this week.

HSMMaCM · 12/09/2017 02:46

But they will never admit that we were right about anything Grin

user327854831 · 12/09/2017 03:49

and if they do we must urge them to see their GP immediately! Grin

user327854831 · 12/09/2017 03:53

*I have also said he should join the

Ring mummy every day club

He appears to be falling for it so far*

Nicely done Rufus, nicely done.

Travelledtheworld · 12/09/2017 05:06

Coming back to you all for moral support.
DD is also exhausted and emotional. Has been out every night until late and then sneaks boyfriend back with her to maximise shagging opportunities and hours of online gaming.
They are going to be two hundred miles apart. Not sure how that will work out.
Piles of clothes all over her room including a huge pile for the charity shop, hooray.
Some packing done, mainly by me.
I have decided she has what she needs, and anything else missing, that's tough.

Stopyourhavering · 12/09/2017 06:51

Well ds has been away for 10 days now, seems to have survived freshers week , has had his first day of lectures and even managed to work out out how to ues the hall's washing machine Grin
I haven't had any panicked phone call , in fact only the briefest of phone calls ( by me) and a text asking when his maintenance loan was paid in Confused
I'm not sure how much 'cooking' has been done.....they seem to have had quite a few discounts from local takeaways!!!
Good luck with all those still to move....dh and I are off on a long haul holiday in 10days time!!

Oldie2017 · 12/09/2017 08:56

I did start a small pile (shampoo and bin bags) in each room so they might get the idea it might be helpful to think about what to take earlier than the moment we leave and one bought his new black shoes yesterday - for 3 years I have been trying to get him to upgrade his school shoes which have holes in on the top - literally holes - he must have looked like the biggest pauper in the school but they were comfortable shoes. Anyway he did try twice on line earlier this year but one pair looked terrible and the second hurt. Thankfully Clarks has come to his rescue - I sent him down on his bike to buy a pair yesterday so at least that's done - they have a few formal dinners. He's going to buy the gown when he gets there but I do think getting as many things sorted out as possible in advance is a good idea as there is so much to do once there. He did show me photos and a video of his bit of the Halls yesterday and said it was a large room (which it is if his is similar ).

They have both adamantly turned down the cheque book suggestion despite the hall advice so I have said I will just save my Nat West contact details for them in case they want it later.

So if one goes on Friday early and is out at Alton Towers all day on Thursday he may need to pack the car on Wednesday. I am not doing it in the dark late on Thursday night.

GetAHaircutCarl · 12/09/2017 09:23

DD will need to be all in black a lot of the time when she starts so we've been picking up what we can.

Black leggings, tractors, tee shirts and hoodies. It looks like a goth revival is happening in Casa Carl Grin.

MorvahRising · 12/09/2017 09:36

DS is just stroppy! Excited and very nervous and whatever I suggest is not a good idea . . . Hmm we have at least done the majority of shopping. He has just got his accommodation details and is very relieved he is in a quiet flat. There doesn't seem to be any link to finding flatmates yet though!

Abra1d · 12/09/2017 12:26

Son overslept and we only just made his train in time. I was out of the house and thought that a 20-year old could be trusted to set the alarm.

Daughter sat on sofa watching us rush around without lending a hand. She is so stroppy I am almost counting the days until she goes.

I will miss them both though and my nest will be empty/

mummmy2017 · 12/09/2017 16:54

Don't pack the car till the morning it's not covered on the Insurance.

Oldie2017 · 12/09/2017 17:30

We are just about crime free (and on a very quiet private rural ish road) and there will be very little worth stealing - even his duvet is 20 years old! His small fridge was bought by his sister 14 years ago and I just cleaned it up this morning. You'd have been a very foolish criminal to pick on that when the road has £100k cars on it. However you are right in principle and no way will his lap top and that kind of thing go into the car. If a burglar wants to take his smelly socks they are welcome. I could drive the full car into the garage I suppose.

HSMMaCM · 12/09/2017 17:43

I will be putting the car in the garage the night before.

BestIsWest · 12/09/2017 18:10

We are piling stuff into the breakfast room and it will be a quick heave into the car on Saturday morning.
He keeps adding things though... guitar, record player , not sure it's a good idea to take EVERYTHING.

Not sure there will be room for me in the car.

I am going to get a little notebook and write down a few basic recipes the way I cook them plus a few small suggestions for quick meals. He can cook perfectly well but left to himself would just live on pasta, tuna and rice with chicken stock. Started a little box of salt, pepper and a few herbs and spices.

rogueantimatter · 12/09/2017 18:43

I felt like that too Horsemad but it was fine. Once they're laid out things it doesn't take long to actually pack it.

Went with DS and his sis to his hall on public transport with the double bass, amp, guitar and three suitcases. Have now learned that it is possible to book the bass on by reserving a bike rack without mentioning that it isn't for a bike. Had a momentary panic when one of the train crew said that all the racks were booked and there was a wheelchair joining. She very kindly let him put it in the space where the catering trolley goes.

Hadn't checked the tube stations beforehand so went to one that was closed and had to backtrack to another and then change trains. We were up and down so many stairs with all the stuff and getting it off the trains was quite hairy and exhausting. So many kind strangers helped though and round the corner from the hall a random student spotted us, took a bag to the halls with us and gave DS his contact details. How kind and lovely. DS was delighted with his large room and over the moon to find he is sharing with someone he knows. At midnight he noticed his student online system had started and he had several meetings and a short test as well as enrolment the following day!

Very flat and quiet here tonight.

Rufus so sorry to hear about your MIL. That sounds very tough Flowers

Horsemad · 12/09/2017 19:05

Hugs, rogue it does feel a bit strange at first.

Think that's the problem tbh, all his stuff is accumulating but nowhere to put it! I hate clutter!

That sounds an epic journey on public transport Smile

BestIsWest · 12/09/2017 20:19

Wow rogue that sounds a journey and a half.

The rug from his bedroom has been added to the pile. 'It will tie the room together' apparently.

mummmy2017 · 12/09/2017 22:15

The Rug,,, has he taken the kitchen sink yet... and make sure you don't get packed as well...

Well yesterday , the car had a puncture. Tonight another drama, OMG roll on tomorrow, up up and away time...

user327854831 · 13/09/2017 07:31

Best I was going to ask if you still have the kitchen sink.

I am now wondering if mine isn't taking enough stuff - four boxes (not large) and two suitcases! There will be a bit more after the food shopping tonight I expect.

We had a lovely evening last night, the boyfriend stayed overnight which was lovely - film and pizza evening. Feeling quite emotional this morning :-( We all really like him and he's part of the family; they have been together for ages.

hugoagogo · 13/09/2017 07:36

Ds hasn't done anything! There is no urgency, he just keeps saying that he's not going tomorrow. That's only going to be true for a couple more days. At which point he will have a tonne of packing left and will no doubt have a massive flap, Saturday will be he'll, we will kick him out of the car saying good riddance, come home to a house like a bombsite and cry.SadGin

mummmy2017 · 13/09/2017 07:41

Hugo don't worry, he will just chuck it all in and sort it out and buy what he forgot, mine is on 2nd year and we are taking half the stuff we took last year, as so much wasn't used.

HSMMaCM · 13/09/2017 07:57

Hugo I am anticipating a packing row at some point, which will result in DD or DH storming out and leaving me dealing with the other one ranting.

A week to go and I'm trying not to show how sad I feel.

Abra1d · 13/09/2017 08:04

I might off shopping with my daughter this morning to buy essential garments. Wish us luck... she probably won't be able to find what she wants and in some way it will All My Fault. 😆

bigTillyMint · 13/09/2017 08:06

Oh yes, everything's always Our Fault Grin