It's real now - leaving home to go to uni (part 3)

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Here you go @Lucysky2017

Thanks for the tips!

DS is going to really miss DD - they are pretty close and do PDAs all the time!

Thank you Rogue I managed to find the meditation one she wanted and the books etc. Ds2 thinks he will miss ds1 but isn't sure how much Totally agree re banking the hugs.Ds1 is tolerating me well!

A bit of a moan, sorry! I thought the age of competitive parenting was over now they'd left school! A colleague today was telling me her son's not very good A level results and asked about how mine got on, I just said that the results were fine and enough for university and left it at that. Apparently not saying what the results are means they are appalling and she hoped that we weren't too disappointed; she was then all cats bum face when I said they were A*AAB compared to her son's much lower results. Silly woman, she should have kept her mouth shut.

Oh dear. It is a bit tricky IRL. I want to know how a couple of friends kids got on, I fear not too well so its a bit hard to ask.

indulgent

Ive been doing the same but ds1 results are very good for him

Very many congratulations to your child

Serves that woman right

Oh! Thats odd, I tried to namechange to Colin on another thread and it didnt seem to have worked

I'd like to know for a couple as well but it's tricky like PP have said, this colleague was the only one who was put out that I wasn't saying. My closest colleague and manager know because we know them outside work but other than that I kept it quiet.

I'm an emotional wreck tonight, as well as bringing home the boxes from work to pack DS1 off next week making it feel more real, my DS3 starts comp tomorrow. My last baby heading into the big world, he's only just turned 11 and a few of his closest friends were 12 this week. 😭😭😭

Agree Colin Errol. I feel uncomfortable stating ds's grades and just say he got what he needed. (Embarrassing whether others did better or worse.) I have been quizzed by a couple of people exactly how well did ds do. .

Our local paper prints everyone's names with the number of A levels they got (4 pages of tiny print names with 3 beside them), with an asterisk for people who got all As and two asterisks for all A stars. I was very pleased to see that this year ds's school bucked the trend and was the only school that didn't publish their asterisk achievers.

Mine was easy as ds1 got an unconditional (loads of children did...i think its a new thing they are doing)

So it honestly didnt matter (except for him) what he got

I do have a lovely friend with very clever hardworking children who ace everything ...but some people are beginning to dislike her frequent 'bragging'. They are lovely children

mytimenow

My tine now complete starts tomorrow here as well, my youngest is fretting about being expected to be just like his sibling :(

Tine ?! Youngest!!

I just say they got into their first choice and leave it at that when asked. One person whose daughter might well be going to Oxford has not told me how she got on but perhaps he dare not ask me and I not him and all the children did fine. Or may be he's really disappointed.

My sons' friend got AAA* which is very good but I haven't heard him or his parents once show off about it. My boys' AAA and AAB and I am very pleased they worked very hard indeed and got where they wanted. Had they got DDD though I suppose I might not have printed the grades here but even that is an achievement for some. Children differ hugely.

I've had somone assume DD is going to RADA because her grades were not good.

AAA and Aab is also very good, I'd have been delighted with that.
As for RADA, well I'm lost for words!

Rufus, is it Birmingham? They seemed to have aced that strategy this year - DD knows at least a dozen who got unconditionals (she did, but didn't take it up) and then got very, very good grades too.

I feel that if they have worked hard before the exams, then that's an achievement, regardless of what grades they got. A child who is on for A*s and gets them hasn't achieved any more than a child who was possibly going to fail but got D's IMHO.

bigmillytant

No Winchester, ds1 has struggled with anxiety and depression which js one reason he tanked that first year and why there was no way he could retake the year

I know some children dont bother working with an unconditional but i sadi to ds1 that he needed to prove he was capable and not look like a tit when chatting with his new flatmates

He did all the exams again so 4 papers each for two subjects and two papers for the linear one

He did really really well...so pleaseed for him

And he is just a lovely lovely child...always has been

I will stop now

To be far due to the issues we were just trying to decide between Winchester and portsmouth

And i oreferred Winchester anyway (had my fingers crossed )

indulgent, I like the fact that once they get to university it is up to them and competitive mothering does not come into play any more. DS is genuinely studious, got completely absorbed in his subject and did very well. Nothing to do with me, so I have found the occasional congratulation, kind but odd.

I can think of some of his peers who perhaps got less good degrees, but who used University to broaden their skill sets by doing a range of things, or pursuing specific interests, who will probably do extremely well. Plenty of DS' LSE peers who are aiming for Goldman Sachs etc, will probably earn more. And indeed some of kids who have stumbled a little before deciding what they want to do, will shine when they find the right track.

Equally we know, or know of, some who have lost their way. Drugs or whatever. Some very sad stories. I will be proud if I managed to raise two resilient, thoughtful, constructive, happy and hard working DC. Engaging in sixth form at University is a good first step, but it is the engagement, effort and maturity that count, not grades.

GetaHaircut RADA - how fantastic.

First going to uni and last going to secondary school! Wow!

Very pleased to report that DS has now made a list of the things he needs to pack and things to pack if there is space, with the help of his DSis who is going into her fourth year of uni.

Rufus - you don't need to stop, this is precisely on of the things boards like this on MN are for! You're right to be incredibly proud of him.

Thanks errol

He is funny and kind and lovely

getahaircut yes i should have said RADA how fantastic!!! Dd is desperate to act