It's real now - leaving home to go to uni (part 3)

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crunched there is a list of suggestions for thinks like this on the facebook group linked somewhere on here WIWIKAU maybe a little card or letter from you or a note of a quote on that means a lot to you both

Sounds great crunched

I did a little photo book online, he has vodka, packs of his favourite sweets and biscuits, personalised love hearts, a little lucky charm

I am going to get some kendal mint cake and i might...just might put his floppy dog that he slept with until 14 (its quite small) in the basket as well

Then i think i need to stop

I thought a new driving license for change of address was free?

crunched thanks for the inspiration - now keen to do a Happy Box for DD1, off to uni on 16th. Lovely ideas. Hope others will have suggestions too. And we'll done to your DS!

We have done a box with a pizza express/Nando's voucher, expensive shower gel by students standards, his favourite cake and chocolate, some cake in a mug packs, favourite coffee, packs of map pins, paper clips and bulldog clips in bright colours for £1 in b and m, a travel mug, tea bags and decent stationery.

I sent Ds in 1st yr with a cushion ( not personalised) but with our breed of dog on it. Good Ideal Haffdonga. Also - sent with a desk lamp we had & the lighting in the room was pretty poor so bought another one later on. I do think from v limited experience - not everything needs to be done on day 1. Send them , whatever the logistics are , with what seems OK and life goes on beyond the first few weeks , it can be supplemented in some way or another if it is necessary .

(Although in our case because we have a modest hatchback - the bringing back and taking is getting to the point where - DS is Yr 3 - I just think at the end of the year , it didn't cost that much - give it to someone else or just ditch it.) Particularly because we have a v small house - no storage.

I got this tip from MN but it worked - Nailclippers went down well.

probably least helpful post ever

Basilisk we're working on the assumption that the basics can be added to as needed.

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He brought the passport back...thank goodness!!

HSM - I agree - turn up with what you need and over time it will work out,

Day 1 does not define your university experience - just an opinion. ( Other platitudes are available ) but it worked for DS - or should I say - thus far ( going into 3rd yr ) .

Just cleared out DS' flat after his graduation. Two car loads. What can be recycled for his DSis. His suggestion is the foldable laundry bag he inherited for an international student. And the rice cooker.

Who knows. DD is still travelling. She will have to go down by train with a suitcase. I will take the (vital) sports kit, but otherwise Amazon and charity shops will have to be her friend.

I have just discovered British Heart Foundation furniture and electrical shops. If at some stage your DC rent an unfurnished property (and recent tax changes have caused me to stop renting furnished property) these guys are your friends. Cheap. The stuff is in stock and they will deliver.

Actually I am really hoping that she will be sharing her Bristol U flat with one of your DC and that DD won't need anything as the kitchen will be fully equipped.

I started shopping for DD today ( she's away).

I ordered a duvet, pillows, mattress protector, saucepan, frying pan and wok.

Also, in her Amazon basket already was: an insulated mug, a duvet cover and pillow cases, a tool box ( I'm assuming for make up), a multi pack of plastic shot glasses!!!

Also can I just ask those paying an allowance if they propose weekly/monthly/termly.

DH thinks termly like an old style grant.

GetaHaircut - we do termly - up front . Easier for us , he has to budget there on in .

Carl, my DH thinks in a similar way. Not too sure why. Even DS who has just started on a 10 month, almost non stop, Masters (Christmas seems to be a revision break before January exams) , and who is living at home, has been given money for this term.

Thanks.

DD suggested weekly as she was worried about going over budget but sometimes you just have to and then claw back, no?

DS doesn't care.

gets

We will do termly as ds santander account requires a cash injection of £500 a term

We are going for monthly as he is used to a monthly pocket money.
Nothing is set in stone though, we will see how he gets on.

You should have seen ds1 face when we told him he wasn't getting pocket money moving forward

It was like id slaughtered his pet and made him eat it

Rufus we've had the pocket money discussion. We said we'd continue pocket money while she's there, but she'd better not ask us for any more money.

Thank again.

My DC haven't had an allowance before. They got weekly money for lunch and then we paid for things on an ad hoc basis.

HSMM

Ds1 is getting £40 a week and his accommodation paid for

Rufus

What is the pet ?

DS is going into 3rd yr. From 1st year we gave him all money he would get from us up front per term. ( To be honest if the first term had been an omnishambles , we may have changed it ) but it wasn't and he managed to budget. We do buy big items - e.g. laptop though, so his money is pretty much day to day stuff, paying his accommodation and food bills and going out. He's not a big spending type , though.

balisk

I may have to buy him a pet so i can replicate the expression for you

We have bought him a new laptop (he needed it to comply with DSA requirements) and are paying for accommodation for the first year at least

He shoud have £40 a week for spends and i am hoping he gets a part time job for entertainment...as he has a pornstar martini addiction

This is guaranteed for the first year only as we have no idea whether we can manage this financially longterm

My dad is knindly paying for a term of accommodation.