New Uni starters 2015 (continued from Preparing for Uni)

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Thought we needed a new thread to continue from preparation.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/higher_education/2466997-Preparing-for-Uni-in-2015-continues

Suspect all have arrived by now...

Gonegrey, it sounds like my dd has got off rather lightly with the price of lessons. I've had a chat with her and she is sounding incredibly low and sorry for herself. I suggested the possible music library, trying to find a pianist and stopped short of mentioning the choir because I was getting very negative responses. I do feel for her but I also think she's wallowing a bit, a dose of 'man up' could be required. This is not her normal personality at all but I wonder how much time she really feels this bad and how much is reserved for me, if that makes sense. It's a worry though.

DS has come for the weekend. He's bought every single item of clothing plus towels & bedding. He must really hate doing the laundry or be too tight to pay £4 because it's a 25 minute walk to the station.
It's lovely to see him, he cuddled the dog and opened the fridge with wide eyed amazement.
But I'd forgotten the trail of stuff he leaves in his wake.

Haha, same custard!

My DS arrived late last night, his room looks like a bomb's gone off

The cat made a huge fuss of him which was lovely, as he really loves her.

DD informed me yesterday that they've started flat hunting for next year!

Saw one of DS's friend's dad earlier, she's already arranged her house share for next year!!

mrsrhodgilbert I think sometimes when they are giving you all negative responses they are just moaning, and don't really want you to solve it.

to all those looking for housing for next year, apparently the cheaper deals go early, but do ask them to think hard about their choice of friends. My DD was super organised and went into a house share arrangement about this time last year, but in retrospect the wrong friendship group, and so far it has marred her second year quite considerably.

Did mentioned that she and a few others on her corridor were planning to go to the accommodation office. This seems far too early to me.

The houses DD is looking at aren't cheap but are in the prime locations so I can imagine they'll get snapped up quickly. I have asked her to make sure that all the group know what they're saying yes to money-wise as I'm assuming the deposit will be payable once they've said yes to the agency. And we are the ones footing that bill.

Head it is difficult isn't it. They've only know each other for a month and it seems mad to be choosing housemates for Sept 2016! So much could change in the coming year.

That's the problem - they get on a house hunting merry go round and are scared they'll miss out if they don't put deposits down now.

DD is home for the weekend too and is has been lovely to see her. But ....... She had a dozen friends round for pre-drinks and has just arrived home with her friend who is staying the night. Is it time for her to go back to uni yet so I can get some peace & quiet?! She is now in her room and all I can hear is her coughing - the lingering effects of 'freshers flu'. I am not sure I am looking forward to her being home for a month at Xmas.

Visiting daughter today. Think she's settled in pretty well. Vaguely scared that because she's moved on with her life, I'm not going to be/feel like her mum any more.

(This may not make sense but I had a pretty terrible family life. When I went home from university after my first term, I was conscious of this huge gap between me an my parents. I was trying to close it, by talking about my experiences - the ones I could talk about - but they didn't listen and weren't interested.)

gyspy and it goes on...my DD is now trying to sort out who she will be living with and where for her third year. She knows there is no chance of the arrangement she is living in continuing. So if she moves she will have yet another deposit to pay. I'll be glad when she's done I really will.

DD home for weekend too! Friday night lovely -birthday cake, wine and catch up. Saturday she'd booked paintballing for a group of (home) friends so I was taxiing much of the day. Now she's sleeping in and in tiptoeing around and not showering because she needs sleep! It will be a relief when she's back - sounds awful! But I've started stressing about her - some course issues- and I was enjoying NOT stressing for a while! Her course seems to be one lecture then go and read a book (psychology). This is supposed to be good as you are finding stuff out for yourself. But she finds lectures much more stimulating and finds it hard to read the required amount. I suppose she'll get there.

DS still asleep here. Haven't seen much of him and he's off out soon and catching train back at 18:30.

I know what you mean Marianne about the gap; I was a bit worried about that myself, but he's slotted right back in (feels like he's never been away tbh!) and I'm sure things will be similar with your DD.

I'm going to see dd next weekend for the first time since she went. She wants me to buy her a saucepan while I am there. Am a bit that she hasn't just bought one herself

DS is really struggling. Wish he was closer to home.

Oh kitties is he homesick or finding the studying hard going?

How far away is he?

I was glad to have Dd home when she was ill but I had forgotten how intense it could be with her around!
Marianne I hope you have a lovely visit with your Dd.

Cooroo that seems to be a similar delivery style to my DD's politics modules. It certainly doesn't suit everyone.

DD came home last weekend. All she bought with her was a handbag

No washing. No clothes. No drama.

Sooooo grown up!

One more week until reading week for dd but we went shopping in her university city today. I sent her a text to say we were there, not expecting her to come out, but she was with us half an hour later. She sat with us while we had lunch, she had already eaten and it was lovely to see her. After the stress of last week and the singing tutor it was good to see her so relaxed. We bought her something nice for dinner tonight from M&S and sent her back to do some work.

Feel so much better for seeing she's ok. I'm very pleased she is so near actually and I think she is seeing the benefits. Her boyfriend in London is apparently feeling very far from home, not in a good way.

Thanks, Horsemad. Combination of things really too much noise and no real friends yet but the Asperger's doesn't help, and the disability support just seems to be adding more stress rather than easing things at present.

He's a good 4 hours away by any method we've yet thought of.

My dd is at least 5 hours away but funnily enough it doesn't seem too bad because skype is such a wonderful invention.

She has been allocated the role of flat alarm clock. (early riser)

I just seen to get half conversations from DS. I get two sentences on messenger and then he appears to wander off . He's 4 hours away and I'll just have to presume he'd let me know if he was having any problems.

DS texted me on Friday Are you at work? I need help.
I panic text back Ring Me
DS: Nah. Email

I wait for his emergency email needing this help ... and wait... and wait.

Eventually i ask What's up? Are you OK? I'm worried.
His reply I'm fine

That was Friday. The bugger hasn't been in contact since.

I'm finding it so hard not to try and helicopter parent via text.