New Uni starters 2015 (continued from Preparing for Uni)

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Thought we needed a new thread to continue from preparation.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/higher_education/2466997-Preparing-for-Uni-in-2015-continues

Suspect all have arrived by now...

Like the name mothership seimum. I've just finished ironing so it feels like DS has just popped back to the laundry!

Is lovely to have him back though- just about had a few chats , he had Sunday lunch in his room to do some work as he realised he was going in to town to meet up with friends tonight! Same old!! We fit around him!

Am feeling he is a bit more grown up though which is really nice and makes me proud.

Enjoy your DC home!

I'd forgotten what it's like having two teens eating me out of house and home!

Had an emergency trip to the supermarket and DS1 came with me. Whilst there he bought some washing up liquid for his flat as it's his turn to buy next. I suggested he buy it back at Uni but he insisted it was 'too good a price to leave' !!!

Finally, he's getting organised!

God yes Horsemad. DD has taken her " I can eat when never I want and not be governed by college mealtimes" to mean I will empty the fridge and cupboards at all at hours of the day and night!

Yes, the nocturnal activities drive me mad! I go to bed at around midnight and they are both still up and eating too!

Yes! Came down to the toastie maker out on the side this morning

Enjoying all the tales of mother ship returners.

Ds arrived home on saturday afternoon looking like the walking dead having not gone to bed the night before at all, raided the fridge and has pretty much been asleep since. 7 loads of washing later we are staring to see the bottom of his bags.

I am so happy to have all my chicks in my nest again .

Do you know, I have been so happy since DS returned I'm having an awful time at work atm - truly stressful but it has all paled into insignificance since we are all at home again.

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DS has just got up and showered and only because I am going out for a meal with friends tonight and his DF will be late home as he goes to the gym on a Monday so DS was pre-warned yesterday that he needs to cook dinner. He wants to cook a spag bol that simmers for a while so needs to get chopping now .

horsemad I fully understand how you feel - I'm always a lot more settled when my DD has returned to the mothership - she is really good company and I do miss her - it's easier than when she first left but I still prefer her here!

I had forgotten about the myriad of social occasions. Littleham Taxi Service is busy at the moment.

Nice to hear how everyone feels better when they, our young students, are home.

I was feeling a bit guilty that I feel complete again now it is the four of us. I do so want my DS to spread his wings but having him home feels so comfy!!

Sorry to hear work is bad Horsemad - stress of everyday life continues no matter what, doesn't it?

Funny to hear your late night eateries stories. My DS, last week, called DH at midnight to ask if his potatoes , one day out of date, would be okay to cook - he was a bit hungry!

Dd came home on Friday then went away on Sunday, back next Friday then away Saturday and back Monday. anyone still with me.
I am going to have a long talk when she is home. we have had a lot of changes this year, her DF died last month very suddenly and she has coped really well, but she is taking me for a bit of a mug. I thought I might try suggesting that we are two adult females and we can both pull our weight in the house, more of a house share than mother and daughter.
I have discovered since being on my own I am becoming quite selfish in doing what I want when I want.

welshpixie, do you think your DD's behaviour is a reaction to her DF's death? I hope it all works out for you both.

voilets, thank you. Just have to grit my teeth and get through it

Quietly, yep - always more settled when we are all here, even though DS1 irritates me sometimes!

sorry to hear your news welshpixie.

Hope the job situaton improves soon Horsemad.

welshpixie, maybe go a bit easy, death is very difficult for young people to adjust to - so out of their ordinary expectations. She could be reacting. Also think the teenage years are selfish years, hard on parents but to do with their rite of passage.
Still hope she helps you out a bit around the house - not guaranteed with teenage logic I find!

I don't think I appreciated what my Mum went through as a parent until I became a parent of a teen myself.

welshpixie, my dad died when I was just turned 20 and it was a really awful time. Looking back, I can see things were handled badly by my Mum although now I think she was doing the best she could. I wasn't easy to parent (wasn't a bad kid, never got into trouble of any kind, but was extremely argumentative) and when my dad died, my world fell apart.
It took years before things settled down for me. It's early days for you and your DD and I hope you manage to help each other through it.

Thanks for your ideas, perhaps I phrased it badly. my Dh struggled to see his little girl become more independent and I thought it would be a good idea for her to have a more equal position with me. she likes to be independent and is very good and grown up. she was a great help sorting the funeral out and I tried to make sure she had a say in the decisions. she spoke at the funeral which is something I could not have done, but she was adamant she wanted to do. I think I will play it by ear when she gets back.

Is she sitting back and letting you run round after her welshpixie?

Is that usual for her?

It could be she's being an average teen - bit thoughtless at times (wrapped up in her own little air bubble), or she could be taking you for a mug.

I think playing it by ear is a good tactic. Maybe giving her some tasks that are 'hers' to own and be responsible for would help?

The next year will probably be a bit rocky for you both, understandably. X

Horsemad she can be a bit lazy but it just got my goat when she sat there and I was running around after her. I am also away for a few days staying with friends so am being pampered too. they have a few young grandchildren who I am going to kidnap. I have seen a lot of old friends who I haven't seen in more than 5 years.

welshpixie, glad you are being cared for, enjoy your break.

My DS1 has gone back now

He has another fortnight off, but has stuff to do. House is quieter without him, but the food is still in the cupboards!

He will be back later in the month for 2/3 days so not long to wait for that.

Hope everyone still enjoying having their student DC back in the fold.

My DD on her way back this afternoon for 4 weeks then has 1 week catchup lectures then exams start - she has 6 exams (last one is last week in May) she is due out of her flat by 2nd week in June - FIRST YEAR DONE! It seems to have gone so quickly!

I've got DD for another fortnight , then she's back for a month for exams and the n month of partying and no lectures before coming home on the 23rd June. It does indeed feel like it has flown by Quietly!

DS is home for another 3 weeks. He seems very chilled and far more of his stories are about lectures or tutorials compared to the last time he was home!

So is DD ! I got it wrong ...it feels like she's been home forever and is costing me a fortune in chocolate and nice things