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Please can someone help me. Im in so much pain and I dont know what to do.

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spookycharlotte121 · 19/04/2010 00:02

I have had horrible pains all day..... they feel like periiod pains. As the day has progressed they have been getting worse and worse.

Nurofen isnt touching it. Im totally exhausted by it and just want to sleep. Im sat here crying because I dont know what to do. I took painkillers nearly an hour ago anf they just arent working and I just want to sleep.

OP posts:
ButterPie · 21/04/2010 13:34

Ok, as a start, can someone who knows what to say give us a quick bit to post on our facebooks? You know, one of those status memes.

I just want to warn my friends who wouldn't even think of pregnancy, etopic or not, if they got these symptoms.

tortoiseonthehalfshell · 21/04/2010 13:38

If it's definitely ectopic, you know that means that you wonderful knowledgeable bossy cows straighttalking women have probably saved Charlotte's life.

Be proud.

snorkie · 21/04/2010 13:39

Oh dear. I hoped it wouldn't come to this, even though the symptoms did seem to fit. Best wishes to you spooky.

Horton · 21/04/2010 13:42

Charlotte, really glad to hear you are being taken seriously. Hope all is well with you.

And I second everyone else. This has been dreadful behaviour on the part of the hospital and everyone else spooky has seen. She could be dead by now if things had panned out a little differently!

ADuckCalledBill · 21/04/2010 13:45

Bloody hell ladies, you have saved a life. Well done.

Spooky - thank goodness you are being treated at last. I know what it is like to feel like you are wasting time but now you know you CAN trust yourself. Take care and wishing you a speedy recovery.

jabberwocky · 21/04/2010 13:48

I am SO glad that we have such well-informed assertive ladies on here! Well done for getting Charlotte the information she needed. This is MN at its best.

Elffriend · 21/04/2010 13:49

Have followed this throughout and amnow shuddering at what could have happened without you lot. Horrific.

Am aghast at the hospital - there are no excuses - stupid bastards. If I were Charlotte's mum I would be finding someone to punch round about now.

Hope you're okay Charlotte. There are a lot of people thinking of you.

toccatanfudge · 21/04/2010 13:51

ok - another message from Charlotte - which I said i'd pass on before I go out.

Will copy and paste it rather than try and put it in my own words

"Im having another internal scan at 2 by the consultant. He will decide a course of action then depending on what he see's. Op could be this afternoon or i might be given an injection. Would really appreciate it if u could pass it on to mn & also ask if people can pray for me. I know not everyone believes but bricking it. Im alone here so it would be good to know people are praying. im sure god is watching over me also. thanks for all ur help."

GibbonInARibbon · 21/04/2010 13:52

Thinking of you spooky, hope you are getting the care you should have done days ago x

ilovemydogandmrobama · 21/04/2010 13:53

What the fuck is going on? Am so angry for her. I know the hospital, and am shocked that not only was she not diagnosed the first time she went to hospital, then discharged, her GP isn't helpful and a doctor said it wasn't ectopic.

Was hoping Aitch was wrong, and that it wasn't ectopic as it meant that someone on the internet was giving better medical advice than a trained doctor. No offence Aitch.

GibbonInARibbon · 21/04/2010 13:53

Tell her am praying T&F

Brollyflower · 21/04/2010 14:00

Oh poor thing. While i was hoping she would finally get good care, I was also fervently hoping everyone would turn out to be wrong . She's already in my thoughts and prayers x

hazeyjane · 21/04/2010 14:02

Oh, poor girl. I hope someone can go in to be with her for a bit, it is so scary being in hospital, but if you are on your own, and not sure of what is happening, it is horrible.

I'll be thinking of her and sending all the positive thoughts I can.

GeneHuntsMistress · 21/04/2010 14:10

i've been following this since last night, that poor poor womman. please tell Charlotte i have been praying for her since i read this last night, and shall continue to do so x

Alambil · 21/04/2010 14:14

Toc, can you text her to say the hospital chaplain can go to pray with her if she wants / feels she needs it...

JustMooching · 21/04/2010 14:14

Thoughts and prayers are with your spooky.

lowrib · 21/04/2010 14:14

spookycharlotte121 I'm so glad to hear that they're taking you seriously now, and just so angry for you that it's taken so long. Like TheCrackFox says well done for standing up for yourself.

I'm thinking of you and sending you positive thoughts.

FWIW a very good of mine had an ectopic pregnancy when she was 19, and was really was scared of the reaction of her Catholic family to the pregnancy. I have no idea if it would be the same for you, but in the event her family understood the seriousness of the situation and (she was shocked see) were just pleased she was alright and forgot to have a go at her about the sex!

Lexilicious · 21/04/2010 14:15

Prayers from me, been watching since monday. Having a cry now at what might have happened without you lot.

Alambil · 21/04/2010 14:16

oh don't worry - I caught her fb

Fimbo · 21/04/2010 14:17

So sorry this is happening Charlotte. Thank god for people like Aitch and others who knew what they were talking about.

piprabbit · 21/04/2010 14:21

SO glad to hear that spooky is being taken seriously at last - and sorry to hear that she may be about to have surgery and that she feels alone and frightened.

Hopefully she will find the courage to speak to her family - I'm sure they will be supportive, because they will be aware that they have come close to losing her. The aftermath of an ep isn't just the physical recovery from surgery (about 2 weeks) but also the crashing pregnancy hormones and the emotional shock of what has happened - I think spooky will need all the help and support she can get.

Good luck and all my prayers spooky.

ShowOfHands · 21/04/2010 14:22

Been watching this on and off since the beginning and am horrified at the basic ignorance. It's not all hospitals as I had bleeding and one-sided pain during pg and was immediately treated as having an ep until proven otherwise. I would like to see all hospitals operating similarly. As I already mentioned, it happened to a friend (who post ep confirmation was discharged by a junior dr by mistake and almost didn't make it as a consequence).

Poor girl. It's terrifying enough just to be pg without planning it. She's dealing with an unexpected pg, pain, bleeding, fear of ep/miscarriage, anxiety, esteem issues and the people trained to help aren't doing so.

I'll join that campaign.

toccatanfudge · 21/04/2010 14:25

right am off out now - but just seen that Lewis has sent her mobile number to SC as well, and is online so will probably update with anything else while I'm gone.

ilovespinach · 21/04/2010 14:27

Just read this thread and I am truly shocked that it would take so long for the hospital to scan.

Very best wishes to the OP x

TiggyR · 21/04/2010 14:32

Wow. To think they sent her home to MC quietly, with two small children in the house, and it was only the constant bullying on here , and to her sister, that made her to go back to A&E at all. Without all this advice and support from this thread she would have laid down in her bed with some Nurofen, not wanting to 'bother' anyone, and passed out from the pain. The rest doesn't bear thinking about really.