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Please can someone help me. Im in so much pain and I dont know what to do.

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spookycharlotte121 · 19/04/2010 00:02

I have had horrible pains all day..... they feel like periiod pains. As the day has progressed they have been getting worse and worse.

Nurofen isnt touching it. Im totally exhausted by it and just want to sleep. Im sat here crying because I dont know what to do. I took painkillers nearly an hour ago anf they just arent working and I just want to sleep.

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CMOTdibbler · 20/04/2010 16:30

Thinking of you. Tell them that you are really worried about EP and make them scan you

Northernlurker · 20/04/2010 16:32

Threads like this make me embarassed to be an NHS manager Charlotte may or may not have an EP but we should never be discharging anybody in a state of confusion or ignorance about their condition and we should never be making people feel stupid for having questions or needing to go back.

That's leaving aside the issue of not discharging people with untreated potentially life threatening problems. I hope that isn't what's happened here - but if it is can I volunteer to help you write your complaint Charlotte!

Brollyflower · 20/04/2010 16:41

Just came home again. Really glad to read she's gone, but v worried that they're not taking her seriously and especially to read about the shoulder pain.

I hope we get news soon that she's had a scan and been properly examined.

angel886 · 20/04/2010 16:44

Hope your ok

maduggar · 20/04/2010 16:46

I really do hope they can give you some answers

TotalChaos · 20/04/2010 16:50

Hope you are OK spooky and getting a scan. When I had a suspected ep (non doubling HCG levels) I got scanned the next morning, with instructions to come in straight away before that if I had a lot of pain. It just feels so wrong that they are so resistant to doing a scan.

Lubyloo · 20/04/2010 16:53

Spooky - I am so angry on your behalf but glad you have gone back to the hospital. I have just had my second EP and wasn't taken seriously either. Thanks to their refusal to monitor me closely I ruptured, lost four pints of blood and very nearly died. I kept being told that I just had my dates wrong even though I knew I hadn't and had all the symptoms I had with my first EP.

Doctors seem to be woefully uneducated about ectopics. Please stand your ground and do not let them send you home without a scan. I wish I had done this as I would have been spared major open surgery and would not still be in pain three months later as I am now. It is all the more shocking that judging from the posts on this thread that my experience is not an isolated one.

We're all thinking of you and hope that everything is alright.

Fimbo · 20/04/2010 17:02

Hope everything is ok SC.

chimchar · 20/04/2010 17:08

following this story charlotte and am really really sending you so many good wishes from here....

hope you are getting some answers at last.

whilst the nhs are fantastic a lot of the time, mistakes are made. my mum died because a doctor didn't take her symptoms seriously and followed what they should have done.

IMoveTheStars · 20/04/2010 17:09

Hope you're OK Charlotte?

TiggyR · 20/04/2010 17:20

Has she gone? She should have gone in an ambulance even if it was only next door - don't they see ambulance people sooner than walk-ins? Shoulder/collarbone area pain is indeed a sign of internal bleeding - surely any triage nurse who knew she was MCing would whizz her in like a shot? Poor girl, she sounds like she's had a really rough time what with everything. I hope she's ok.

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spookycharlotte121 · 20/04/2010 17:29

This is charlottes sister. She hasn't gone to the hospital. Shs has got herself in a right state because she thinks she is being a nuisance. I don't know what the Doc said to her on the phone but it has obviously really upset her.
I think she needs to have a scan so that they can at least give her some peace of mind but she is refusing to go to the hospital and I can't get her to see sense.

I know she has had a lot of support on here since she started having her symptoms but she wont listen. She's being so stupid. I am disgusted by the way the hospital have treated her.

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Alambil · 20/04/2010 17:31

can she get on facebook? tell her it's louise... and I NEED to talk to her

justallovertheplace · 20/04/2010 17:31

For goodness sake, take her NOW. If undiagnosed, this could be FATAL. I know she's probably in shock as well as pain, but she has to be an adult now, think of her children as well as herself. She needs medical attention and lives next door to the hospital. Stop fanying around on the computer and take her in

YesYouMust · 20/04/2010 17:33

So sorry to hear that, can she not go to a different hospital even?

toccatanfudge · 20/04/2010 17:33

I'll talk to her on there again as well if she wants - it's Gwen

lou031205 · 20/04/2010 17:33

Agree wholeheartedly with justallovertheplace.

Fimbo · 20/04/2010 17:33

Charlotte's sister - please take her.

IMoveTheStars · 20/04/2010 17:34

I know she's right next to the hospital, but in this situation I would call an ambulance. Now.

Just say suspected ectopic, and let the paramedics persuade her to go in, they will reassure her that she's not being a nuisance, and it will help on arrival to A&E if she has someone medical to speak for her.. might help speed her through.

Lulumaam · 20/04/2010 17:34

this happened to my friend. she almost died, i had to take a call from her partner sobbing down the phone saying it was touch and go

this is serious

she has two children and herself to think about

she has pain, abdominal that has been one sided, shoulder pain, faint , bleeding , nausea, and low HCG levels

it might not be ectopic, but she has a hell of a lot of symptoms

her future fertility could also be compromised

her life could be in danger

CMOTdibbler · 20/04/2010 17:35

Call an ambulance - tell them her symptoms and that you think it is an EP. She really, really needs to be seen

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spookycharlotte121 · 20/04/2010 17:35

That is exactly what I have said to her.

She is insisting that shes comfortable and they will send her home. Sorry this must seem a stupid thing to do but she is forever talking about mumsnet so I thought it was worth trying so I can yell things at her to get her to go. I think she looks upto a lot of people on here.
She does seem in less pain now but that could just be her body coping with it. I just don't know what to do with her. I cant physically make her go.

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toccatanfudge · 20/04/2010 17:35

you have to take her.

Tell her to think about what she said about how she has to put her children first. She has to go for THEIR sakes

Lulumaam · 20/04/2010 17:35

i got rushed to hospitl once and admitted due to a suspected DVT, i was given fragmin and treated as though i had a DVT, until the veinogram showed otherwise. at which point i was sent on my way...

but it ocul dhave been something fatal

it had to be checked, felt a bit daft, but was more glad to (a) not have a DVT
and (b) be alive

Lulumaam · 20/04/2010 17:37

she will be getting used to the pain as it has been for so long, your endorphins kick in

thanks for the update, you must be terribly worried

i have to go out soon, but i will chekc as soon as i get back

lewisfan could you message me via FB if anything happens in teh next 2 -3 hours . thanks xx