Okrahoma! where the wind comes sweeping down the plains - 10 / 10 thread

[FrannyandZooey]

For anyone who wants a boost to their general health. The suggested goals are:

EAT 10 PORTIONS OF FRUIT AND VEGETABLES EVERY DAY - if you don't usually eat much fruit and veg I would build up gradually or you could upset your digestion.

DO (AT LEAST) 10 MINUTES OF EXERCISE EVERY DAY - can be yoga, stretching or something more energetic. The plan is that the idea of doing 10 minutes is not too daunting, and having started you may well find you want to do more.

There are no restrictions on what you eat so long as you get your 10 fruit and veg as well. The focus is not on weight loss but on improving our energy levels and hopefully our general mood and well-being. Sign up below and post here to tell us how you're getting on and how you are feeling.

Basic guidance on what constitutes a portion of fruit and veg here and you can download more detailed information by following the link at the very bottom of the page

I am going to do all three....
Have an appointment with a child support worker, have spoken to the police, who were very helpful, offered to either come out now or note the incident and give me time to talk to school and parents first, and use 'threat' of further action as a deterrant.

School I will talk to later.

Am also going to try and offer DS plenty of alternative activities so going out to play doesn't seem quite so appealing...I'll be needing that clone now then...

Has helped having comments on here to buck me up to sort it....

So....cake all round...cheers.

Good.

Are the police going to go to the school or visit the children. They should do - and you could ask for a community police officer to do exactly this. And the school.

DS needs to see people in authority, coming down VERY hard doesn't he? So he understands he is protected and valued, and that he deserves more and better. Well done.

also, make sure your ds knos how to contact childline - and let him know it is ok to do so. He will need an outlet to talk about how the bullying is affecting him, and you may too close to the issues behind the bullying IYSWIM, for him to feel he can.

You can also ring them for help/advice/a cry...

Oh TooT, I know how much you cared about and were cared for by her. I am thinking of you.

MW, that is awful, Poor DS. That behaviour sounds horrific, bloody hell. Well done for tackling it so head on, he needs to see that you are actively fighting his corner, and that there are things that can be done.

Chips and curry sauce (sauce was made in a room where a sultana had once been)

A magnum temptation.

Guilty as charged.... [don't care emoticon]

I don't think you should just offer him alternative activities though.

I think you should sit down and spell it out that they are a toxic bunch who are taking advantage of him, are not treating him in the way he deserves to be treated in this life, that you are furious about it, that you and him are going to take this on because he deserves the best out of life. He is in no way to hang out with them because they don't care about him. Then say, let's find some other stuff for you to do.

I think you are right 100, i think that would also put more control in his hands as well so he sees it is HIS choice not to be intimidated by them. His self esteem needs rebuilding, so he can make the choices in the future if it comes up again, rather than accepting it as a part of life....thanks

But he will be intimidated by them. It's not a matter of choice is it?

The clear message re his self-esteem is that the people who are in charge, you, the school, the police are on his side, are going to take action because he deserves this level of attention and action because he's a wonderful and valuable and loved individual and that the way those kids treated him is Not Good Enough in anyones book.

Also it's a good lesson in life, not to hang about with people who hate you.

Are you going in to school later?

100x, you rock!!

Mits, you are being thoroughly Anned

Thank you everybody for kind messages

Anne is great.

TooT, the tickets arrived
I am impressed by their service.

Raisins
pear
apple
banana chips

Mits

It sounds as though you are doing all the right things.

How are you TooT?

Olives (they are not on my list so I don't know how many I need to eat. I had about 6 so will call it half a portion)
1/2 Red pepper (1)
Approx 7.5 cm cucumber (1.5)
Grapes, 1 large handful (1)
Juice, lots (1)

0.5 + 1 + 1.5 + 1 + 1 = 5

lentil soup
Peaches (tinned)
Melon

Dunno what's for dinner yet. But Dh is cooking so fuck all F&V I imagine.

I feel fat and frumpy.

So sorry to hear about ds Mits. I won't add anything as people have posted some great advice, but I didn't want you to think I was ignoring it either.

lol at SB's counting, she has FOCUS and is taking her portions seriously

OJ
satsumas
carrots
cucumber x2
humous
salad leaves
tomatoes
radishes
corn on the cob

Ow Moll. Make sure your dh uses some f&v, it will make you feel vurtuous.

After being doubted and questioned, I thought I should give details, Lemur

There was tomato in my bread too but I didn't count that.

oo, look at bunny with her decimals

bish, that business with your ds sounds absolutely awful. Lots of good advice

as for me:

sultana bran (between 0.5 and 0.75, I'd say)
banana (1.0)
peas (0.5)
carrots (0.5)
broccoli (1.0)
carrot (0.5)
houmus (1)

still to have my two oranges (2.0 lined up)

which will be 7.25ish

A good day in teh pointy household

SB, I read that as tomatoes in your bed and thought you had crossed the border from Serious to Obsessed.

My bed contains an assortment of other things (space shuttles, trains, cars, grains of rice, sticks etc) but no F&V. Yet.

pmsl @ Pointy.

LOL at pointy
you started off all meek and trying to fit in and now i can see you squinting at us all and writing things in your notebook

"guad - claims to sort apricots. perhaps forrin?

bunny - suspicious arithmetic. question further tomorrow"

what else? I love anne. MW i hope you get it sorted.

TooT i hope you are doing ok. Please come and tell us more about her when you feel up to it. She always sounded wonderful - reading what you said about her made me envious of your relationship. I am so glad she was in your life.

right
i am determined to do my full 10 / 10 (including exercise) every day this week
to this end i went to the gym for 40 mins after work today
i am STARVING although i just ate dinner
plus could go to bed right now tbh
may have to rethink this

so far:
banana
apple
pineapple
raisins (2 lots)
banana
strawberries
peas
broccoli
tofu

= 10

and more coming, when i can get ds2 off my lap and attack the kitchen

well..I like the experience of being 'anned', it is as good for my confidence as his cos it is no good having a mum who can't cope with confrontation as an example so...ta....

His Dad is being supportive at the mo, but rightly or wrongly I don't feel it is reliable so whilst DS needs him on board I am sort of doing things my way because I believe in my heart that with the right attitude I am doing the right thing. and I stood up to H and my Dad, and I said that my son deserved to have his childhood back and I was going to do that with or without support...

You are all blardy marvellous though.

Anyway,

Apples x2
banana x2
pepper,
tomato, x2
onion,
mushroom,
juice,

Boring but 10.

Hurtling around all day but no exercise as such. Will get on rowing machine before bed.