Okrahoma! where the wind comes sweeping down the plains - 10 / 10 thread

[FrannyandZooey]

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EAT 10 PORTIONS OF FRUIT AND VEGETABLES EVERY DAY - if you don't usually eat much fruit and veg I would build up gradually or you could upset your digestion.

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I have eaten my praline flake and drunk a whole bottle of red wine and have just started on a cadburys caramel.

oh ,deflated>. It all sounded so exotic for a moment.

I don't know anyone who does anything like bulk food co-operatives and hours of apricot sorting. It's an interesting idea.

Sorry. I wish I could say that I was rocking on the verandah with a bourbon as the sun goes down amidst chirping crickets and wild beast rustling in the undergrass.

I have had some red wine and my baby is still squawking and the there is a moon and I might take a turn about the garden though.

Do you not know anyone who does this? I know billions of people of who do it, in fact, I thought I was the last one to jump on the cheap whole food wagon.

I don't think I have eaten any fruit or veg today.
Oh, some raisins in flapjack.
Fruit spread in a sandwich.
There.

My grandmother died this evening. It would have been her birthday tomorrow.

Oh toot, so sorry to hear that, are you alright?

((((TooT)))) Sorry to hear that Were you close?

Just wanted to tell you all that I had my first 'oh, isn't he sleeping through yet' comment today! 'No, and you don't expect them to at this age, do you? ' I replied!

Sorry to hear that, Toot. Hope you're okay.

I am
We sent off a birthday parcel today, and cards that the children had made. And she won't get them

now i am bawling again

sorry to hear about your grandmother, that is sad

Oh Toot

So sorry.

Oh Toot, so sorry about your Grandma.

Maybe light a candle and celebrate her birthday for her today?

TooT i am really sorry to hear that
I remember you speaking of her and I know you will miss her a lot
the birthday cards etc are very sad
it's the little things that get you sometimes

perhaps we should get pink a shipment of these..

Toot ((((())))) xx

DS was 'beaten up' again, and someone simulated raping him...TWATS. Rubbed his face in the earth and hit him with his own scooter. He is covered in bruises but one of the mums said things just 'get out of hand a bit'. Oh and he has a whip mark on his legs. Apparently he gets the piss taken oput of him sometimes because of me and he gets incest jokes made about us because we are close and do stuff together. Actually.... What the F is wrong with people?

I am going to do a thread, they don't appear to be in a frame of mind to leave him alone and I am at my wits end. He won't keep away as he wants to be accepted.

Oh arse......

Hope you got through yesterday Guad..must be odd..

Ate hormonal crap yesterday, but managed a run. all washed down with smoothies.

Oh..and when he woke up yesterday he had his pyjama cord wrapped around his neck...

Fuck Mits, that is terrible.

TooT hugs to you. I am so sorry.

Is that happening at school, MW? What do they say about that? I would be seriously considering taking him out if that was the case. Poor boy.

Toot - Hope you got some sleep.

Out of school... although one of them goes to his school and DS says he does stuff at school..he gets told to 'play with someone else'...there are only 62 in the whole school.

He only has this term left after sats but some of them go to his next school...the others go to the other option.
Feel like I am in a no win situation. Will do thread though, he can't go through this.

Thanks for support....

TooTs {{{hug}}}

MW, Fucking HELL!!

Are you logging all this?
so and for you.
Make sure the next school takes this into account - you can ask for separate classes to certain children on grounds like these. What are the school doing?

One of the kids from last night started in the school playground. I approached his teacher.
I don't know Molly..not a lot it seems. They seem to be in denial but I have told them I will take him out of school sats or no sats. I am shaking. I nearly lost it and the bell had gone,. Now he will get grief for that.

One of the mothers has confirmed her son witnessed him being beaten up. Which is something.

I will do that thread in a bit....thanks

What are you going to do about it Mits?

I think you'd better make an appointment with Head today. Explain what happened. Tell him you want everyone to make sure ds is safe when he's in school, it's their duty of care. You want everyone to be vigilant. You want this addressed in school - you expect the teachers to act and work on this. Suggest they do some bullying /empathy work during their PHSE lessons. Leave it at that.
You'd better tell ds that it's no good EVER hanging around with people who don't like you, that he's better than that, and he should give up on them. His self-esteem will just get lower and lower won't it. Tell him he deserves better than that and to not hang out with them anymore and to avoid them, it's a matter of self respect and survival.

I'd bloody well go and talk to either the kids or their mothers too. But I am a bolshy trouble-maker.

You need to be assertive about this. You need ds to see you taking control of this situation. Otherwise he will feel helpless and as though there is nothing anyone can do, when there bloody well is. Even if it's an act - you need to get your arse in gear and make some noise. Then you need to call Kidscape or equivalent and find some social training classes near you which deal with children who have been bullied to help him find some strategies and some self esteem in time for secondary. IMO

Very sorry to hear about your grandma TooT. So sad. I remember lots that you've said about her too, and how much you will miss her.

The level of violence sounds worrying to me, I think I'd be tempted to have a chat with a community police officer too - if he's being hit with a scooter, has physical injuries and the simulated rape thing - that sounds serious. It might be an idea to get those injuries logged with gp too.

Definitely call kidscape.

I agree with contacting kidscape too. The level of viciousness is shocking. Everyone knows kids can be very cruel but simulating rape at eleven? Or at any age tbh, it's assault, not bullying, especially with his injuries.

The school should be protecting him, and he needs to understand that they won't accept him, ever, by him letting them treat him like that. I think it needs to go further actually. Hopefully kidscape will be able to advise you.

Mits have you tried the police?
If he has actual bodily harm and a witness there should be something they can do.

I suggest you make yourself very visible to these children so that they know your son has people around him that are looking out for him and will not let this happen.
Is dad about? or do you have any large male friends who could do a bit of picking up from school or just be seen out and about with your son?
These kids need to know their boundries, they need to know that their actions don't stop with your son and when he feels he can't deal with their behaviour (and what 11yr old could/should?) that some one else will.
I'm livid for you