There's a StarFruit waiting in the Pie.......10/10

[TinyBlueFeather]

Original post by the lovely FrannyandZooey

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Wow, when I unstaunch it flows doesn't it?

No, he's not happy, he's lonely. But also he won't compromise. He says boys he likes are all in 'X's gang' so I say well be in X's gang? and he said 'I won't be in a gang called 'X's gang', that's just his name but its seven people. That's rubbish.'

So either he just aint getting it, or he genuinely feels like this?

ALSO I was saying all this to a friend, and she said he wasn't weird, but he is serious and lots of boys aren't at this age, and that's what sets him apart. She said her son likes him. So perhaps you know, you raise your children to be individuals but then you just can't hack it when they are, perhaps?

Okay. That's enough. Am so sorry.

[staunches stiffly, sips laudenem]

He's making some mature choices there, because he is serious, and he's got his code hasn't he, it's his, and he is an individual, and he won't bend to fit into someone else's code, which makes school harder for him now, but maybe it'll get him far later in life.

It's a shame if he's lonely, but it only takes one friend to come along for that to change, and that will happen, I bet. Maybe secondary school will be great for him.

Very sorry for the hijack everyone.

Carrots
aubergines
peppers
brocolli

Oh Swedes, thank you. That's really reassuring to read actually. I think the last post especially actually, that sounds v. like ds1, and I am going to take strength from that.

Yes, Avi it is a good point. He has some older not at school friends, and he likes being with them. He doesn't do much out of school, mostly because he does masses in school and also because he likes to do his stuff at home too. Solitary stuff like Pokemon classification and well, writing, funnily enough. He's not sporty. I have asked if he'd like to do something out of school and he offered 'chess?' Which isn't wildly social but might be types more like him than our brief visit to a rugby club.

Thank you all for lovely support btw. I feel masses better just writing it down.

Also Boco it is that inflexibility that worries me, but perhaps it shouldn't. I can't work out why someone would isolate themselves so much?

Sorry. Really. I'll stop now.

I'll go to bed now. Thank you all, you are all v. nice people. I appreciate it.

You know, I think he and dd1 might get on rather well.
But then, they might stubbornly not.
Because you can't predict anything.

hello

100x I think that this age is particularly difficult because at this age all children are going through a kind of re-jigging and having to understand as the social rules are bending and switching all over the place. Post puberty you get lots of sub groups don't you and I think this is a way of dealing with all over anomilies and corralling ourselves.

If he is lonely what happens if you explain in very direct terms what things you have to do to make friends - like list the social rules as if they were actual rules? I have also used stories to explain how friendship works - would that help at all? Also has there been any more successful friendships that you can talk through and together identify what was happening there that worked?

Boco is right that things like this get easier as you get older. I think in some ways school is important as he will be learning from being around others his own age.

I agree with you about the anxiety transfer thing - as soon as you told your brain it wasn't allowed to do diet anymore it raced around to find another anxiety hook to hang itself on and so you can race around on there.

I know when I am not taking care of my mental health if I make myself live out bullying scenarios for my children that could possibly happen.

oh no I was so long posting that you all went!

100x
hope you come back in the morning because your DS sounds like my DH. When he talks of his childhood he was always alone and always doing his own thing. I was a pack runner and cannot understand how or why he managed it, but it was his choice, and he is a fine adult, and still prefers his own company to just company for company's sake. He has good friends but not in the same, probably rather needy and dependent way I do.

Sometimes seeing the adults our children may be can help? Oh, and school did not interest him but he had gone on to be an academic

I am not sure about Aspergers hook, I think lots of it is star sign. My DH is Aquarius.

Pink - please be very obvious about your needs. Glad you arein bed, not reading this

Hugs to other veggers and hello to Polly whether you are old or new

Banana
Carrot
Parsnip
Peas
Pears
Rhubarb
Plum

mostly wrapped up in lush rost beef, york pud and crumble

now already fearing snow laden struggle to work tomorrow - might eschew bike

Stuffit it had taken 2 days about about 800 posts from others to reply to you!

I dream about builders because having promised they would finish before DS was born (they started before he was conceived!) on the day I was rushed to hospital we had about 10 people painting madly, no water, no heating and no windows....

I could go on.

One time I was woken by 4 builders walking in on me and DS (DH away) I said "what are you doing?" they said "don't mind us" and carried on....I was stuck nakkid in bed....

Enough . I am 3 days late with post (I am never around to chat) and don't want to ruin warm Sunday yurt vibe!

Bee, what a great post.

Leaves (2)
Strawberries (yuck)
raisins

Four

But I went for a run, messed about with the eliptical thingy and did some yoga.

Good morning.

LR and I are meeting up today....as long as neither of us bottles....

...which of course we won't as we are both big and brave.
Well, small and brave.
Well, small.

MOLLY I woke up in pain, feeling violently sick, had to cling on to the banisters to get down the stairs with a violent headache, and feeling very sick, and very sorry for myself

Have just read your comment about me on another thread and am now laughing so much I can barely see to type.....

ello Feather, you okay?

toot, you're brave too. anyway, now you've posted it, so you have to go. no escape.
tiny, that' sounds crap. have you gone back to bed?

and where's the other thread?

I suppose I'll have to list then, keep myself busy while you're all off doing something more interesting...

bugger, I want to list yesterday, I had another 10 day. But anyway, today:

coconut juice
apple
kale and pumpkin leaf

oh that's pants, eating another apple now