Should old tom-ay-toes be forgot and lemon brought to rind - 10/10 thread

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I am vegetarian too.

But i rarely get to 10

I once had a sticker form fran, I htink.

Hello, MoveIt, nice to have you here.

Um, pickled onions
teeny red peppers
lemon relish
pear
tomatoes
beans
rasins

I don't generally bother with Hotel Chocolat. I find them ordinary and expensive.

Lol at libgering, that was unintentionally onomatopeic. Vinegar all the way, don't be such a baby.

Toot - you have gone all assertive. More patting less hugs I say. Chin up, onwards and out etc.

and LOLOL at it would be better if Mr Avi took off his jacket. I second that.

i am not very good at physical contact - i don;t dislike it i can just never work out the rules - who do you kiss? who do you hug? i worry about it. i worry when i am meeting someone and i can't remember what kiss hug shake combination we do.

Yes, that's it. There seem to be a lot of rules that I don't know about, left, right, hug, kiss, snog. And you just don't know where people have been do you. The bus is the worst. A dim den of space invasion. I walk.

I know what you mean about not knowing the rules. That is why I do my hugging on MN.

LOL Guad do people try to hug you on buses?

You know I don't really care about the rules in this instance. Sometimes you just need a good squeeze (provided it is someone you actually want to touch in the first place - but then I suppose this is where some of the uncertainty arises)

When I met FMF for the first time (before the 10/10 big meet) I was all nervous and she came up and gave me the loveliest, warm hug and it really put me at ease.

I really hate limp handshakes though

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Tatties! Don't think I've seen you on here for ages. How are you?

i am just about pulling through
perhaps if he just undid his cuffs
even that could help i think

Apart from very close friends I struggle with physical contact (have been accused of being frigid), So I usually get it wrong and feel stupid.

I'm not on ravellry, I think I would be a bit of a fraud as I can only do very limited stitches and 'squares'.
Might take a look. The blanket I am doing is is in bright colours with a black crochet edging and already looks good!

Pats Toot on back for doing new thread. Worries about her shaking. I am going to text you in a minute Toot.

Hello MoveIt. you will like it on here we are all mad very friendly.

Would it be OK if I had a moan? Life is decidedly... odd.. atm

DH has the lurgy. He's had it for well over a week. He lies around, doing fuck all, because he feels so bad. I try not to get cross as I don't want to spoil DD's christmas or our precious time together as a family. I am cross though. I had barely recovered from the same lurgy myself when he went down and I had to do the whole Christmas thing single handedly. I am knackered. I couldn't take any time off work when I was ill (would invoke disciplinary based on attendance) and no fucker ran round after me, letting me have endless lie ins, never having to cook etc etc

His parents turned up on Boxing Day. THey brought dd shitloads of stuff - we had asked them not to buy anything big as we have no space so they bought loads of small stuff. Loads. Arghhhhhhhhhh.

The day after they arrived I had a tantrum. DH still doing fuck all, FIL going on about how tired DH is, they do fuck all to actually help, refuse to take dd off our hands because she's being clingy to me and might cry, put the kettle on but don't make me a drink, small things that bugged me. I burst into teats and stormed upstairs . DH made them take DD out, left me alone (bliss) for a couple of hours. THe next day they went home, they could have stayed and helped for a couple more days, but no. My theory is that my outburst made them uncomfortable so off they fucked. You see, in their family, no one gets upset. No one complains. One just soldiers on in the fave of adversity - no talk of feelings or whatever. THe thing to do if someone is obviously struggling is to piss off back home muttering things about not wanting to make any extra work, don't want to get in teh way blah blah. Hey ho.

And then today, well today I found out my job is being made redundant. I am one of 5 people being asked to apply for 4 positions, doing something I don't particularly want to do, working for someone I don't particularly want to work for - all of which are full time, when I work part time atm. We are undergoing the 90 day consultation malarkey. So I will either end up jobless, which we can't afford and I don't want because my job literally keeps me sane - or I end up working FT and never seeing DD who will react very, very badly to that particular set up. Just when I had got things more or less sorted in the old work/life balance cliche.

Fuckety fuck fuck fuck

Oh TF

Sorry about the being ill and the unhelpful ILs and your job.

Can you plan something nice for when DH is better?

Can you eat ready meals / easy things for a day or two?

And would any of the other 4 people want to work part-time or jobshare somehow? Will you get a reasonable redundancy package if the worst happens?

I won;t kiss you because I've got a coldsore, but (((((hugs)))))

Oh TF how awful for you. Can you apply for the job but tell yourself it is only short term until you find something you really like.

Will DH talk to you or get defensive? You obviously need a break. I think you have to get things off your chest, but could you write to your inlaws if you feel bad. I'd love to be assertive with my in-laws but am usually a pathetic apologetic moron, so I secretly admire you.

Can you treat yourself to something, even though it is just after christrmas, that will boost your self esteem.

Sorry if that is hopeless, you are so lovely it is awful to hear you are stressed.

Big hugs and {{{positive vibes}}}

THanks

DH back at work tomorrow - the holiday is over. DD and I have a few more days so we will make that special. Long walk in the country needed tomorrow I think.

I am going to see about a job share, I've been told that it would be considered if someone wants to share, but I can't see it tbh because everyone else is FT through choice. Can't hurt to ask though.

I am going to apply for one of the available positions and look for something else in the meantime. PArt time jobs that pay more than minimum wage and have dd friendly hours are few and far between though. DH is away a lot so I have limited flexibility wrt hours.

We are mostly eating leftovers atm... weird and wonderful concoctions of whatever needs using up DH usually has a massive appetite but has none atm so the massive shop we did just before Christmas is still going strong.

I've realised that my seemingly good relationship with the IL's is purely superficial. They are lovely if all is well but can't be relied upon if I am upset or there is a crisis. Sadly I have a similar relationship with my own family.

I feel very lonely atm. Thank God for MN. It has been weird lately and good people are no longer here but it helps enormously to have somewhere to offload.

Just writing it all down can be amazingly cathartic.

oh tiger - poor you.

the problem is that some men people are just so rubbish at being ill. it is a design flaw that xmas falls bang in the middle of ill season and some men people are happy to lie down and be ill whereas other women people will solider on and get things done.

it is a bit poor of your in laws. i would just store it in memory and readdress your opinion of them rather than seethe about it.

BUT do not forget how much work and effort you have put into making a lovely xmas and lovely memories because you are nice and good and kind. You must not forget to recognise yourself in this.

i hope the job thing sorts out - i know it is hard for you.

for tigerfeet

Oh Tiger what shitty awful bollocks. Doesn't it always happen all at once too? The job thing is probably happening for a reason - when your perfect, well paid, part-time, schoolhoursfriendly job comes up you'll think 'phew, thank goodness the other one fell apart or I wouldn't have been looking' and then you'll all be much happier and wonder why you ever stayed in the old job!

ILTMIMI, welcome aboard. I'm not veggie but I sometimes manage 10. TBH 7-8 is an average day and only because this thread makes me think about it. 5 is a bad f&v day usually (except over Xmas when my only contribution has been chocolate oranges )

Franny please stop being such a lech. BBB and Mr Avi aren't there soley for your pleasure

TooT when can you get some heating back? Can I send you a blanket? [concerned]

I'm also not a fan of hugging any more. Up until my first uni friends I was very huggy but people I've met since I don't like to grope in greeting

I can't wait to start running again after this baby appears. (Gosh that sounds like I'm in denial about how he's going to arrive ) I was driving round a bit of my old route in the dark the other night and thought of myself running under cover of darkness in my big hat! I'm still about half a stone lighter than I was at the start of this year

oh pink you sound brighter - are you rested and happy? when is your due date?

A little bit brighter thanks BBB. We played at dd's friend's house this morning which was nice and I had an hour in bed this afternoon which I needed and plan to do again tomorrow! Oh my god I've just see the time. I'm off to bed!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But yes, getting better, toothache's gone, due in 7 and a half weeks (but he'll be late)!

Night night naked BBB x

Oh TigerFeet I am so sorry about it all. This is such a miserable time of year to be miserable too. I like Pink's idea about your perfect job being just on the horizon.
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