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NEW THREAD FOR OJ - REST IN PEACE STEVE - STRENGTH AND LOVE FOR OJ AND THE CHILDREN

726 replies

Buda · 18/06/2008 11:15

Hope this is ok - both other threads seem to be full or almost full now.

We are all thinking of you Jo.

Trifles and rum and bubbles at the ready.

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triplets · 30/07/2008 22:29

Hi Jo,
Sorry not to have been around much recently, too many problems to go into. Very happy fr you that you have foud some happiness on your hols, my goodness you so deserve too. Much love to you and the kids, safe journey home xxxx

chutneymary · 31/07/2008 07:30

Welcome home OJ, you lovely brave lady! I am so glad you had a good time and feel a little refreshed. I think it will take a long time to get used to your new situation but you are doing brilliantly.

Look forward to the photos!

littlelapin · 31/07/2008 07:32

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MamaGLovesMe · 31/07/2008 16:47

OJ has just landed.

bundle · 31/07/2008 16:48
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imaginaryfriend · 31/07/2008 18:35

Welcome home OJ. I'm still reading and thinking of you frequently.

CurrantBM · 31/07/2008 19:10

OJ so pleased to hear that you that you and the children coped so well after Tracy went home.

I've not posted much recently, but all of you are in my thoughts.

Welcome home, looking forward to seeing some of Elliots' camera work!

chocaholic73 · 31/07/2008 19:14

Glad that you have had some good times on holiday. Welcome back. I still think of you often.

bossybritches · 31/07/2008 20:56

welcome home

Good to have you back xx

triplets · 31/07/2008 22:15

Dearest Jo and kids, I know its going to be hard to come back, but I just want to say how much I admire you all for your courage, I know you will have had mixed memories, be happy Jo, all is well xxx

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Evenstar · 01/08/2008 00:21

Hope you had a good journey home OJ, you have been in my thoughts.

onlyjoking9329 · 01/08/2008 20:09

Hello,
thankyou all for helping keep my sanity whilst i was away, i have put a few photos on my profile, tracey has just given me a photo disc with another 200+ on it so i will find some where i do not
look too hagard nice ones to add in a bit.
i have spent far too long on the phone today to the tax credits numpties mostly on hold, they still haven't got it sorted and were on about sending me yet more grief forms and said i would need to send the kids birth certificates in, so nearly 2 months on and still not sorted out

MatNanPlus · 01/08/2008 20:14

Hope the flight wasn't delayed and you are all safely snug at home.

Izabella · 04/08/2008 20:58

Hi OJ, glad you & the kids are all safely back home. I hope it wasn't too painful walking in the door. I did find it hit me afresh then. I can't believe that the tax credit people still haven't got it sorted!!! I can imagine you're busy at the moment with all three kids at home. Sending you much love xxx

chocaholic73 · 05/08/2008 15:02

Hope you're all OK OJ. Thinking of you.

onlyjoking9329 · 05/08/2008 23:00

it has been a difficult couple of days here, elliot has been talking a lot about his Dad and making up stories where in the end Dad is made better and doesn't die.
i have been very tearful for the last couple of days and had very little sleep so ended up with a migraine today and throwing up a lot.
Tracey came throu and bathed the kids for me this morning then took the kids home with her for the day so i could sleep and be sick in peace, Beth & Elliot get worried if i am sick Elliot gets worried if i have a headache as he thinks it means i have bad cells and will die.
i feel much better tonight thou my eyes are sore from crying and my tummy hurts from being sick.
tomorrow will be better i am having my hair done tracey is coming to sit with the kids to make sure i go, finally today i have been paid some child benefit so that is one thing sorted, still got loads of forms to fill in for the insurance claim from the car accident and that will be going to court soon and they want me to attend.
Debbie is back from her holidays and will be coming to see me on thursday she helps me to make sense of the stuff in my head and makes me feel i am doing ok.

LilRedWG · 06/08/2008 10:52

Keep going sweetheart. I know it's rough, but we are all here for you (if only in spirit) and the wonderful tracey is there for you in person. x

chocaholic73 · 06/08/2008 11:56

sorry things are so rough at the moment. I suspect it's worse being at home than on holiday, even though you had been there with Steve, because home is normal and you know that's how things are now. Has anyone suggested bereavement counselling to you Jo? Maybe it is something you could talk about with Debbie. You have held things together for so long and even now you are for the kids. I am sure your migraines and sickness are a physical reaction to all of this. Hope you enjoy having your hair done ..Tracey is a real star. As Lilred said, we are here for you if only in spirit ..wish it could be more.

grouchyoscar · 06/08/2008 14:07

OJ, you are much more than OK. Totally amazing TBH

Izabella · 09/08/2008 22:57

OJ, I hope the end of the week has been better than the beginning. I am so sorry that you were so poorly on Tuesday. Tracey is a star! It must be so hard to see the kids try to make sense of all that has happened to their dad and to be concerned about loosing you as well. Its a totally natural reaction, but knowing that doesn't make it nay easier to deal with. Elliot may find that in the long run it helps him to verbalize about what might have happened to his Daddy if he got better, even though it must be heartbreaking for you to hear. Please do call when you're feeling up to it. Lots of love. xxx

onlyjoking9329 · 10/08/2008 13:20

The end of the week was better, have been busy out and about which always helps and gives me something to focus on, i saw Debbie on thursday thou for some reason i couldn't honestly tell her how i was feeling which made me cross with myself once she had left.
i spent sometime yesterday writing 2 peoms i don't know if it has helped or not cos when i read them back it feels like they are not mine, if that makes any kind of sense.
i have promised the kids we will make chocolate orange cakes today so i had best go get sorted for that.
it would be lovely to talk to you again soon i will text you, i think i have some mates coming tonight but not sure just yet.

Lycralovinlady · 12/08/2008 15:37

i always read your posts but never feel i

can add anything, i haven't seen you around

(not that i am stalking you) and wondering

How are things with you?

I so admire your bravery you have a lot to

deal with, grief comes in waves and can

knock you over when you are not expecting it.

do you have any help or support from your

family or steves family?

When my brother died i found it very

comforting to be around our family who knew

and loved him as i did.

You have been dealing and coping with all

this for such a long time you must be

drained. Find some time for yourself in all

of this.

onlyjoking9329 · 13/08/2008 11:23

LLL cool name!
Sadly it is just me and the kids now, I have no extended family and Steves family have been abusive throughout and now don't speak to us. I feel for the kids as they have lost all family links with their dad.
It was a year on Sunday that we were told Steve had cancer, it will be a year on Friday that we were told it was terminal, it has been a difficult year.
This last few days have been painfully difficult, but today I feel hopeful, we are not going to survive, we are going to live, that is my new mantra.