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Problem/Dependent Drinkers and Alcoholics (recovering or active) Support V

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kokeshi · 22/05/2008 00:12

Welcome to the thread, the purpose of this is to give anyone who is having any trouble with their drinking, a safe place to come and post about it honestly and without judgement.

There are many of us that use the thread for support and encouragement: some in recovery, others just needing a place to share about their worries. It's been going on in one form of another for a while now and has helped many people.

Thank you to all of those who have kept it going thus far, and welcome to anyone who has decided the time has come to ask for help.

Everybody's welcome, no matter what stage your drinking is at.

Jump right in, the water's fine

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BrassicMonkey · 03/06/2008 00:45

Crossed with loads of you then. Hi to gerbra and expat as well.

What's a wee maw Kokeshi?

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kokeshi · 03/06/2008 01:06

small mother

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kokeshi · 03/06/2008 01:10

Try to not get pissed off at yourself for feeling resentful, every day you are dealing with issues that you'd previously have drunk to cope with. This is a work in progress, and when you first get sober, everything seems so unfamiliar and harsh.

It's great that you're talking about it though. Keep an open mind about doing the extra week, just take it a day at a time.

Well done on 5 weeks by the way! Bloody marvellous.

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2sugarsagain · 03/06/2008 06:06

Hi everyone,

Thought I'd add my recent tuppence's worth.

On Saturday I went to an AA meeting. I was taken there by someone who stayed in my house when I moved here - we were both 18. She's lovely, called the AA number but no-one could take me, so I called her. Yesterday - and I do want to share this with you - she left me this lovely text message:

Stay in the light lovely girl x you have the ability to change everything if you stop drinking x you don't have t live this way x you are too special x love x

Well, it made me weep all day! H is being nicer now too, and she's carting me off for another meeting this evening.

TBH, I don't find AA meetings particularly useful, but for the moment I'll stick with it. And H has measured out amounts of alcohol, with the days of the week on them. I really shouldn't run him down so much.......

Hope you're all doing fine

2sugarsagain · 03/06/2008 06:13

Meant to add I only bumped into her last year - we're both 43 now! She came up to me and said '2sugars, is that you?' And she ended up marrying someone she'd met there. She's shockingly gorgeous.

jellibabe · 03/06/2008 09:15

Purpleone, people like that are just trying to undermine your confidence. It's like stopping smoking - you tend to find people seem to offer you cigs etc even though they know your trying to stop. IMO it's as tho if your still drinking/smoking it helps to alleviate their own feelings about drinking etc.

Keep going Purple - you are a strong person and my money is on you beating this. xx

ToEmbarassedToPostUnderUsual · 03/06/2008 11:42

hello

ToEmbarassedToPostUnderUsual · 03/06/2008 11:44

I drink bottle a night.
It is a habit.
I want to stop as am worried what it is doing to my health.

I wonder whether to confide in my dr but am worried about it being on my notes.
I just dont know whether I can do it by myself. I need someone to support me really.

have read & lurked for ages but not been brave enough to post...not really brave now as have changed name but then dont want people in RL knowing my problem....

gerbra · 03/06/2008 14:21

Hi ToEmbarrassed, well done for posting if you've been lurking for a while.

Have you tried stopping before? How did it go? If it's support you're looking for, you'll find it here. There are posters here who have given up drinking, others who are still trying to moderate their drinking and others who may (or may not) be thinking about cutting down/stopping - all amounting to lots of advice and lots of different perspectives!

I'm on my way out now the rain has finally stopped but just wanted to say hello

Gerbra

gerbra · 03/06/2008 14:22

ooo, and hello to BM 5 weeks

Flowertop · 03/06/2008 15:12

Hi Happy Birthday Kokeshi. BM fantastic news on 5 weeks. Haven't posted (lurked as usual!) but still hanging on in there with you all. I feel like I know some of you just by reading your posts. BM you are bound to feel pissed off and resentful and it is probably a good idea to share it with your therapist as that is how you feel. I think if we all let out our true feelings some of the time we all feel angry, restentful, pissed off etc but then have a drink to make us feel better. You aren't doing that so it's got to come out somewhere and I suppose you have to acknowledge those feelings. You have done really well and wish I had some of what you have!! .

XX

Flowertop · 03/06/2008 15:19

Half of my problem is that I care so much what people think that I spend my whole life worrying if I have upset them. I might go out on a social event and then worry that I should have asked other friends. So I end up never telling anyone what I have been doing in fear of upsetting them because I didn't ask them to come. I go over converstations/emails/test messages to ensure that I didn't upset the recipient. Sorry but it is really getting to me today.

XX

gerbra · 03/06/2008 23:13

Hi Flowertop,

FWIW, I always worry I post on here too much and bore people senseless with my inane sober/drunken guff!

(More seriously though, I made myself quite sick from anxiety about what people thought of me / whether what I said/did was construed wrong (exactly like you describe actually). I used to read back people's e-mails / replay conversations in my head (even my closest friends) and read sub-text into them that wasn't there. I actually had hypnotherapy for it in the end and it did help, as did ADs actually. It's a horrid state of mind to be in...I sympathise

How's everyone else tonight?

Toembarrased, are you lurking ?

Gerbra x

copingvquietly · 03/06/2008 23:24

helo am a bit drnuk

gerbra · 03/06/2008 23:30

Hi coping,
how are you feeling tonight?

gerbra · 03/06/2008 23:52

Am off to bed now so night night all

Gerbra x

PurpleOne · 04/06/2008 00:56

Just needing some vibes here girls, as I start my alcohol counselling tomorrow. They offer med detox, counselling, acupuncture, coping tools and strategies.
Feeling horrid as I'm posting but needed to do this.. But have gone 'balls out' tonight so to speak....
I so want this life to be over with...

Will post back in tomorrow x x

2sugarsagain · 04/06/2008 06:41

W ent to another AA meeting last night.

The friend I talked about suggested that as she hadn't seen her GP in 10 years, I might be able to adopt her persona for a day, say I've a dying uncle in Australia, and get some Diazepam for the journey. When in actual fact it would be for me, to stop me fitting. Do you thing that would be so very wrong?

Cutting down on drinking isn't working - if I have a bit, I just want a bit more. xxx

Flowertop · 04/06/2008 09:27

PurpleOne sending some positive vibes your way. Please let us know how you are doing.
XX

tengreenbottles · 04/06/2008 09:33

Tooemabarassed how long have you been drinking a bottle a night ? I too am on a bottle a night and dont want to go to the drs , I managed not to drink at all on monday night and felt great yesterday ,but then went to the garage for mushrooms and came away with a bottle of wine too ,damn the offers ! I take it you meant a bottle of wine and not vodka ?

gerbra · 04/06/2008 09:55

Good luck purpleone, here starts a new, positive chapter...I hope it goes well

Hi 10green and 2sugars .

2sugars, I'm no medical expert, but do you think you should get the pills if the gp doesn't know who/what they're being prescribed for? I'd worry that they may be detrimental...just sounds a bit worrying.

How's everyone today? I'm back on my treadmill of work so will hopefully keep my head down and chug through the rest of the month

HairyB, how are you? Feeling any better?

I'll pop back later
Gerbra x

ToEmbarassedToPostUnderUsual · 04/06/2008 10:55

yes bottle of wine a night
done it for at least a year

tengreenbottles · 04/06/2008 11:21

Me too ,tooemabarassed , i cant have a bottle of wine in the house and just have a couple of glasses ,i can drink the stuff like pop . I sort of self regulate by only buying one at a time , because im worried if i have more than one in i will end up drinking 2 bottles a night . I dont know if i feel alcoholic but ive definately built up a habit/ dependency on the stuff . I have to admit that ive name changed too because ive posted on this thread before and feel like a failure that i havent managed to stop

tengreenbottles · 04/06/2008 15:23

Oh dear i have killed the thread , R.I.P thread

mother3 · 04/06/2008 15:56

tengreenbottles you didnt kill the thread.I feel like lots of others that like a drink it gives me confidence.It does tear a way at your health/money.I still keep doing it.I hate my self when i am not on top of things at home washing etc.I always check my self on it as i feel like i am letting my family down even though i am always there for every 1..I hate the shakes sweating etc.i do work in a stressful job (children)I think the more some one drinks the more they can tolerate it and they need more.Not a good sign.It is a very sad/bad habbit to try to be in control of.It is an illnes to want to drink all the time.I wish i didnt like to drink i have a lovely husband