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2005: the flare-loving fag-free club

337 replies

charliecat · 02/01/2005 18:06

Here we go girls

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Cod · 14/02/2005 19:27

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whymummy · 14/02/2005 19:32

oh yes cod,that was me

charliecat · 15/02/2005 09:50

Cods tactful isnt she? Glad you are feeling gooood whymummy..I have been spending a fortune on bits and bobs recently, like a bin for the kitchen and school uniform and haircuts etc so havent had much left for me me me....but we have stocked up on lots of crisps and crap and dips and chewing gum thats probably cost more than both our smoking habits put together!

Am a bit worried about dp, hes on a high just now that hes kicked it, and im a bit worried that when he comes off his cloud he will relapse.
I suppose its because ive been there done that, he does seem to have a steely determination about him but you know when you just think...ah f* it...go on then..I hope not.
I did explain that now when I have a bad day i remind myself its not as bad as having a bad day and being a smoker but thats a lesson well learnt you know?
And I remeber us all getting to 3 weeks and having just one...Oh God! Nightmare.
Where are you Mink BTW?

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whymummy · 15/02/2005 10:59

she's a smelly fish
cc i really,really hope your dp does well and glad you're using your saved money wisely LOTS OF FOOD i think i've put on a stone but i'm happy

charliecat · 15/02/2005 11:33

I think we should have cod insulting sessions, she could insult us all so badly, telling us how stupid we are and how much we stink etc etc and we would all be sooooooooooo ashamed we wouldnt do it anymore
Ive put on enough weight to not fit in any of my clothes anymore...but im happy too...and I am eating like a horse so its hardly surprising...and i could limit myself but i dont so ...neh neh... i dont smoke is that not good enough lol!!

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whymummy · 15/02/2005 11:40

i'm sure cod is an ex smoker,were you a stinky smoker too cod???

charliecat · 15/02/2005 11:43

Yeah I think she was.....

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charliecat · 15/02/2005 11:48

So that of course means cod must have smelt like a minger once upon a time too

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charliecat · 15/02/2005 12:07

what do you make of these?

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fionagib · 16/02/2005 10:49

hello girls
have been away for a few days staying with friends, they used to let me smoke in their house and gawd did I stink it out, but not this time cos lozenges don't stink!!!

yeah saffy I worked on j17 in about 1965!!!

MINK WHERE ART THOU????????????????? we miss you!

cc your dh is doing so well, pls pass on massive congrats! Am but lardy too, not massive but kinda squidgy all over, but will soon get back into running, fresh fruit galore etc... groan....

my dh still smoking btw

charliecat · 16/02/2005 10:55

Well Done FG!!!!!!! I remember when the thought of you going to friends would fill you with FEAR...that you wouldnt survive it and just look at you now????????
Minks disapeerance is worrying isnt it? Please post Mink if you reading!

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fionagib · 16/02/2005 14:27

I have a horrible feeling that mink is puffing. slather on some of yor own oilks mink!! for others on this thread - ages ago mink, who's an aromatherapy expert, made special oils which really did help our addictions.

yeah cc it really does feel good to be free. nice line in chat earlier, about how we are gonna treat ourselves - am gonna have facial and eyebrow taming! Need smartening up, definitely. Have horrible big pores and fuzzy brows.

minkmama · 16/02/2005 23:23

haven't managed to come on here at all the last few days (or is it longer than that??) but the first thing i read was fg saying 'mink...puffing' and am ashamed to admit that it is true AGAIN.

that's not actually why i haven't come to chat but dh is on holiday this week so you probably won't read me puffing or no till the beginning of next week.

i've got no good reason this time, i've fallen into that horrible pit. sigh.

this is good evidence that 1/2/a packet DOES NOT END THERE. what am i doing - it's nought degrees out by that pongy bin???

am off to take kids to zoo tomorrow so at least that's none for the day. do you think i should phone the nhs quit line, have any of you lot done it? xx

charliecat · 17/02/2005 08:41

Aw MINK {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{poor you}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} You sound bloody gutted.
I havent rang the Quitline but if thats what you feel might help then go ahead. Theres one isnt there thats 24/7 that you can call just to get you over a bad moment...anyone know what thats called?
Where is dh off too? What zoo are you taking the boys too?
It feels like youve been gone forever by the way, a dead silence from you.
Gutted for you, but you know we will be here to prop you up when you need us ok? {{{{{hugs}}}}}}

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fionagib · 17/02/2005 09:50

poor mink, don't fret hon, there'll be a right time when you're absolutely sick of ciggies and then you'll crack it, cos you've gone for months without a smoke before and weren't even missing them a lot of that time.

No pressure, don't give yourself a half time - just have a lovely time while your dh is on hol and have fun watching the monkeys! xxxxxxx big hug

whymummy · 17/02/2005 12:47

hello everyone
don't worry minkmama,take your time,you will do it one day!
i nearly gave in tuesday night,dh came from work in a bad mood saw me eating some sweets and went into one about me getting fat so i kind of lost it,actually i lost it big time,he's the one that's been nagging me for years to give up and when i do he has a go at me for eating the sweets that get me over the cravings! he soon realised his mistake and has been apologising since,i'm going to make him suffer a bit longer.what are men like????

charliecat · 17/02/2005 13:32

....I have been waiting for a snide remark or two from dp and I was going to eat his head off....thankfully he hasnt or any that he has have been so snide he would have wormed his way out.
Im preferring being plump and not smoking than i did not plump and smoking loads of fags each day/hundreds per week/ thousands a year.
Once youve really got it in your head your not going to smoke anymore its really good. Still have my moments when I think a fag would ease my pain/hunger/happyness....whatever...but sense kicks in...even if the ache of whatever remains.
Sigh

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fee77 · 17/02/2005 13:56

Oh Mink - sorry! I don't know what else to say. I am turning into one of those smug non smokers now. I think i have reached a turning point!
Tuesday i went round to a mates house as she was very down. Any way, between the two of us we managed to get through 2 bottles of wine! Good going. Wednesday morning i woke up a little groggy but my first thought was i would feel a lot worse if i had smoked. I was a chronic chain smoker when i was drinking.
And then last night i went to the pub with some friends (all no smokers so it was easy!) but this morning i realised how much i stank of fags - my hair my clothes my handbag and i thought - i used to smell like that all the time.
So i shall go off and polish my halo now - i hope i remember this when i get my next "urge"!

fionagib · 17/02/2005 14:06

tbh fee, am starting to really notice the smell too - my dh smokes in kitchen after kids have all gone to bed, and usually we'd sit there some nights yacking away, tanking into the wine, and chain smoking of course - and now I find it pretty horrible, all that smoke drifting my way in our house, and also there's still the little niggle, the packet of silk cut sitting there.

cc and mink know that I've tried to get him to smoke outside which he does for a while, then drifts back in again, and I don't wanna fall out with him about it.

I don't mean to sound sanctimonious - but I genuinely do really notice it, and actually don't like it at all. Guess that's a good sign... hard on dh tho cos I'm always saying, 'I'm off for a bath', and leaving him with no one to talk to.

Is that mean?

cc and whymummy - you've cracked the ciggies which is what matters. Sweets are better than black lungs anyhow. keep it up ladies! xxxxxxx

ps have had so many lozenges lately I've got an ulcer on my tongue. niiice!

whymummy · 17/02/2005 17:21

hi again
i've just realised it's been a month today!!! i'm so chuffed
thank you again for your support it really helps

fionagib · 17/02/2005 21:05

That is BRILLIANT whymummy - well done!!!!!!!!!!!

saffy202 · 18/02/2005 09:12

Well 7 weeks today for me and I feel awful!
Have been in floods of tears since I got up and I don't know why. I'm not a 'tearful' person and rarely cry. I soooo wanted a ciggie but the thing that stopped me was I have an appointment with the smoking counsellor this morning. Can't really chat with her either about it as I have to take the kids with me.

Has anyone else had days like this?

Had a really bad hangover yesterday due to too much wine the night before so maybe it's just that....

charliecat · 18/02/2005 10:20

Well Done everyone!!!
Saffy I hope youve gone along to your appointment...a fag would not stop you crying...although im sure you know that...
...crying is natures way of relieving stress...and if a hangover isnt stress i dont know what is...big big deep breaths...do you really want to go back to day 1 again...your 7 weeks into this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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fionagib · 18/02/2005 12:31

sorry to hear you're feeling bad saffy - it could be simply fag linked, it's amazing how the evil monster snaps at you when you think you should be wellover it. You did so well to resist a ciggie. Like cc says it wouldn't have made you feel any better, just worse & angry with yourself.

Maybe you're a bit overtired, or the hangover's lingering. Be good to yourself, you should feel really proud.

saffy202 · 18/02/2005 19:21

Feeling a lot happier now! Stocked up on supplies of wine & ice-cream. Also popped into library who had just gotten in a load of new books I'd fancied so well set up. DH is off on a stag do tomorrow morning until Sunday - eldest son has a footie match tomorrow so will have to stand at the touchlines cheering him on instead of dh - tend to avoid winter matches - but when I do go I can easily smoke one after another - so will make sure I have plenty of lozenges.

Will snuggle up with kids later and watch a dvd and eat pizza - whats everyone else got planned?