Problem/Dependent Drinkers and Alcoholics (recovering or active) Support IV

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No PC hang on in there, do it in 5 minute bursts if necessary, can you go for a walk ?(not past offie?)

PC I have to go now am hoping someone else is still around....take care...5 minute bursts......change your situation.....hang on in there.

PC i have never posted on here and cannot imagine how hard it must be for you so please excuse me if i say something stupid...

short term... can you go make yourself something to eat. make it slowly. eat it. slowly.

how long have you got to go until you have to pick up your kids?

Good for you GP - I'm trying to Friday - let's see how we go...mutual support...ah!

Paperchain - are you still around - post if you're here - I'm around for another 15 mins or so...

Gerbra x

Hi paperchain - are you at home? Is there alcohol there? (Just yes or no is fine on those is fine, don't go into it.)

Have something sweet to eat. Chocolate, biscuits, tea with massive amounts of sugar, etc. If you're newly sober, your body is craving sugar. Eat something sweet, even if you don't want to or are dieting or whatever. Ok? A jam sandwich is always good.

You can do this.

sorry i have not been on for a few days but real life has been pretty hectic for the last few days and we had rats (urgh urgh) get in the house AGAIN. I have to admit I had a drink as I was so stressed about it all. Its getting sorted though. I think alot of my triggers appear to be hormonal as I have craved and caved and then I have come on today and I am pretty sure it is related. I also feel a traitor posting after I have had had a drink instead of abstaining like I was telling everyone else it was so fucking great (it was)

I am sorry a fight has broke out on here too

anyway i was also signing in to say good look to BM. I really have been thinking of you alot, you are doing so well xx

hello

sorry for sounding so desper4ate - except that I am

esating idea ghood - not eaten since breakdast. But got no kitchen atm 9long story) so cant do that. wine is in dining room. behind the kithcen contextts. I think that is where I am going.

oh and paperchain can you have some caffeine?

Paperchain - hunger's probably part of the craving feeling...
Don't go to the wine - go and eat something that's accessible or nip out and get something (like gp said, not the offie).

You can do this - just make the decision to go for the food...
Gerbra xxx

youare all being so nice, thans. I dont deserve it. In fact I am so emabrrased to be psoting in such a mess. its like being drunk but WITH the inhibitions.

I wish I coudl cry :

(waves at OifOif)

You're not a traitor at all! Just because abstaining is great doesn't mean that drinking is not appealing, too. The sugar thing does work for my hormonal urges, too (ooh errr, not that that!). Usual caveats apply but I have lost a fair amount of weight since being sober, so one addiction didn't replace the other.

Good luck to BM, too. Feel all enabling if you're not supposed to be posting... am totally joking, I hope it's going well for you and good on you for having perspective to see what winds you up and then stopping that!

It's what the thread's here for paperchain - just keep chatting here until the major craving passes and you'll be chuffed to bits...

You are doing really really amazingly, paperchain. These cravings are whoppingly difficult, I know.

It gets better.

Ok, a joke for you:

ask me if I'm a boat

I am in total awe at you holding out this long if you are feeling so bad.

Can you nip out for some chocolate?

paperchain if I get cravings at unsuitable (like before picking children up for example) I try to imagine a scenario where I would be 'rumbled' for drinking whilst being out fetching the children (if I did give in to drink that is) I am paranoid about people knowing I drink too much so someone smelling alcohol on me would be very upsetting for me. I try think of all the bitchy mums talking about me for being an alchie and this usually stops me. Because my children are more important than the alcohol. I am not sure this will help you though

(Shame I couldnt have thought about this before those pesky rats start digging into my house)

I've got to go now - stay strong paperchain and I'll look out for the answer to that joke later (nice to meet you particularlygrey!).

Oifoif - it feels awful to fall off the wagon but don't be disheartened - you shouldn't be if you look at how well you've done.
Did you have a drink last night? How do you feel today? ...apart from the good old hormones of course...

Will pop in later, hope everyone else is okay

Gerbra x

god sorry that doesnt mean you should give in. sorry i'm rubbish.

I find cravings can pass after a while, i tell myself not to drink until a certain time and that usually works.

Completely abstaining i find hard, I had a crap day today and just want to open a bottle and forget things. I know the problems will be there tomorrow but just want a few hours off from worrying about everything.

paperchain, I would need to eat. If it were me, I'd decide first exactly what I was going to grab, go in there and grab it and head back out. Then eat it.

I don't know if that's the right advice for you but general wisdom says that getting hungry, angry, lonely and tired are triggers for drinking. My biggest one is hunger.

Maybe post what you're going to get then run in there and get it and head back out and post when you're back? Have heard people use that technique with things although never tried it myself...

I'm going to get thenm now. WIll try to resist having a quick swig before I go. Its safe up here atm, but downstairs isnt

manky - nto rubbish, not all, NICE

thanks all

okay here goes are you a boat?

Yes, I'm a boat.

Now as me if I'm an airplane.

(Good luck on food run, post when you get back)

I know its hard paperchain, but if you really want to, you can hold out. Do something, anything, to pass time. Come on, you know how this works. What about real-life people- partner, friend, family, phone someone, talk about it.
Cravings won't kill you.
Keep posting.

GP just keep posting as know you are really going through it at the moment. Let's just all move on and get back to being the supportive group we are. I am definitely an A).

PC it sounds like you need some extra help. Is there noone in RL who can offer you support at this time. I really feel for you and want to reach out and help you but know that's not possible. Could you at least phone the samaritans or your therapist when you are feeling so bad. Is your therapist good?

BM nice to see you posting and keep drinking that water (sparking or still?). Hi to everyone else.
XX

FioFio that is a fantastic idea about the other mums being really bitchy (in your head of course!!) and talking about your habits. I always imagine that I am pulled over by the police who then breathalyse (sp??) me and have to go to court etc. etc. The reason why I never, ever have a drop of alcohol when I am driving. It is more stressful thinking about the repurcusions (sp again??) than the desire for my wine.

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