Problem/Dependent Drinkers and Alcoholics (recovering or active) Support IV

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p.s. glad you're feeling chipper too

I have drunk a lot for the last few days. I am feelin very stressed and things are getting on top of me and I am turning to the bottle in dsperation. (I am also struggling with myother addictions as well).

The thing is, I dont knwo how else to cope... I wish I wanted to stop drinking, but I dont, because I dont knwo what to replace it with

I am feeling very scared and very lonely atm

Oh so sorry paperchain...am around for a bit if you want to chat.

Paperchain - you sound horribly down.
I wish I had some sound advice for you but I'm far from having sorted things myself. I've found that not drinking, even for just one night, has helped to clear a fog, but I know that's no help at all to you if you can't imagine coping without drinking at the moment.

I wish I could help more...I'm sure someone will be along in due course with better advice/support.

Remember that continuing to post on here is a step in itself and means you'll always be in touch with a source of support...even if it's just a virtual hug ...

Gerbra xx

sorry bb - cross-posted with you...
glad you're on line as i have to go and cook - food waits for no one in this house!

Hope you feel better paperchain
gerbra x

thank you for ytour nice posts, thanks

paperchain, if it helps, I too am having a real struggle with my head and the bottle is a convenient cushion for me too. I think a lot of what I'm feeling is probably hormonal, but I really struggle with depression, and the blackness has been around a lot over the past few days. Don't want to bring you down, but I know that if you're really struggling, sometimes it's hard to read about others successes. (No disrespect, I think you're all doing brill just sometimes it can make us drinkers feel a bit lonely and useless.) Keep posting if you can, it does help honey. hugs

thansk hairy {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}}}}} I ahve given up

anyone wants me on Facebook, am orig name plus Smith

Doesn't matter, you are still here, that's something.
Are Tuesdays always this bloody hard?

BM, all the very best wishes to you xx

BB, think a lot of people find Tuesdays hard. I have been to bed already and got up again (I had a ridiculously early start this morning) and have just opened a bottle of San Miguel zero alcohol - actually surprisingly nice

going back to bed soon to read Heat

Do you not find pretend alcohol difficult?

gawd hairybiker - I really hope i wasn't coming across as preachy - it's just been quite a novel feeling for me and i wanted to share it ... if i've over-egged it i'm very sorry

Paperchain - as someone wise once said - this thread is for everyone - drinking or not. For me, it's even more of a source of support when I'm drinking more than I want to be...I find it invaluable when I'm feeling very down. Don't stop posting

Hope everyone's okay tonight. Seems like Tuesday's a struggle-fest. Have been very twitchy for a drink tonight and am desperately trying to stay strong (DP's bottles of wine are waving invitingly to me from across the room...). As much as I love the feeling of a clear head the following day, it doesn't make the urge to drink in the evening any less...

Gerbra x

BottlebinBerrie - no, I don't find it difficult at the moment. I feel quite OK about it, actually. Couldn't have said that 6 weeks ago...

Gerbra, are you on Facebook?

So have you been given up for 6 weeks? Completly? How long did it take to be easier (I might have asked this before! )

Hi Sillytilly - I'm not - have always been a bit worried about being poked and purchased - seriously though, I don't know much about it!
I do know that it might become another addiction and it will be yet another thing I'll be on all day without getting work done!

Have you found it really useful?

Bottle, no, haven't given it up, have only drunk on high days and holidays, as it were. so, friday night if I go out, or maybe glass or two of red (has to be red, I glug white so badly)

I really wanted to try and keep it under control before giving up totally

Gerbra - oh, go on, join. I can tell you all about my job then (yawn yawn) how has today been for you?

Oh good Sillytilly, that's how I want to be. Do you feel safer from having to give up completly 6 weeks on or do you feel that you could go back to your old ways really easily? Do you feel that urge every night still?

I feel I have fundamentally changed, really. I did that down your drink programme online and it really helped - have you seen it?

I really want to be, as you say, someone who enjoys a COUPLE of glasses of wine once a week at home, if I want, or an occasional mad night out, but I want it to not trigger more drinking the next day.

so, to me, what made the most sense was the high days and holidays thing, because then I don't stress that I am "missing out" and it doesn't become such a big deal.

I feel in a good place with it, atm, and a lot of that is thanks to this threda, helps so much to sort your jead out. I honestly think (to me) a lot of it was pure habit, nothing more powerful than that.

I don't wish i could drink now on the days I'm not, I occasionally think, say, "oh, sun is shining - white wine in garden" but then I think "yes, I'll have to arrange a night and get X round for a meal".

I really really want to keep it like this - I have lost weight (about 7lb) and skin looks great, plus anxiety levels have dropped so much.

will take my non-techno self over there tomorrow and see how it looks Sillytilly!

Today has been fine - thanks for asking! The days are really great - I think it's not carrying around the guilt from drinking the night before (and the hangover obviously). The evenings are a different matter. Am longing for a drink tonight but am determined to at least see tonight through. (Am only saying this as I don't want to freak myself out by saying 'none til Friday'!).

It's so inspiring to hear you're finding it relatively okay to abstain when you're not going out, and enjoying a drink when you do - this is what I want to get back to. I was like that for years and years and then it all went pete tong when I flatshared with someone who brought wine back home.

I kind of think (hope) I can get back into a healthy routine with it though - although that may well be just denial!

Will defo have a look at facebook tomorrow - am off for a bath with a good book (nice!).

See everyone tomorrow
gerbra x

that's mad it is so sort of transferable, the habit of drinking too much

are you still in touch with the flatmate? does she still drink?

you can do this, Gerbra, see - nice plan for tonight. I'm off to bed soon too. and just think og the lovely feeling we'll wake with tomorrow.....

only two days till friday then

gerbrajess no didn't mean to make you feel like that, it's just that I would love to be right where you are now, and aren't, so feel a bit crap. Basically, that's it. So glad you are doing so well. Found it difficult to post on here for a bit coz of all the scrapping. Really can't deal with that, not on here. it feels like this is the only place i can come where there is total acceptance and no conflict and was really distressed when there was so much upset. Lets hope it's sorted out now. Well done everyone.

Just sharing a tip I got from the alcohol clinic. They suggested I drink Bovril as it is loaded with the vitamin B's that alcohol depletes. Bought a jar and finally opened it today. Not as unpleasant as I remembered!!

I find when I am drinking I quickly slip into neglecting myself (especially my health)and ended up feeling really rundown. I go off food or forget to eat. At least with vitamins I am giving my body a little help.

Marmite and Bovril are excellent on toast. My nana used to make me hot Bovril before bed...must be why my liver seems to be made of concrete!

Had a really bad couple of days, and the bottle was the first thing I thought of, despite being sober more times recently than I have ever been.
I am pissed now, and my problems won't be solved in the morning will they?

Can understand the neglect thing Jelli. It's bloody hard this not drinking malarkey, good luck to everyone abstaining. Evenings are so difficult.

Sending my biggest blessings to BM too x x x(((hugs))) Can understand totally what you say about association with the pc, and all things you do while drinking.

Hope everyone is doing okay x x
Just thought I'd poke my head round the thread door.

Hello Purple woke up early again.

Thats great Purple. As Teasle said 'all those one nights off the drink add up don't they- so don't minimise it- you're doing well'.

Glowwormish you sound as if your having a hellish time. I hope you go and see your Dr. I don't think I would have made any progress without being prescribed AD's. They helped to lift me.

Just keep swimming, life is not stagnant. x