Hot Cross Plums (and something about Gourd of the Dance) - 10 / 10 thread - all welcome

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For anyone who wants a boost to their general health. The suggested goals are:

EAT 10 PORTIONS OF FRUIT AND VEGETABLES EVERY DAY - if you don't usually eat much fruit and veg I would build up gradually or you could upset your digestion.

DO (AT LEAST) 10 MINUTES OF EXERCISE EVERY DAY - can be yoga, stretching or something more energetic. The plan is that the idea of doing 10 minutes is not too daunting, and having started you may well find you want to do more.

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Yes I think you are right BBBee. I'm going to do what you said, I'll call her and be supportive and drip drip ideas.

No - this is another SIL! I specialize in SIL's, I have 3 brothers and dh has 2, so I have SIL's coming out my ears. This one is poles apart from other SIL who is AP par excellence but unhappy and going to 'depressed classes'.

lully - how bizarre and odd. I am not very good at this kind of thing and would probably declare all to DB.

hell is other people (present company...)

oh boco i am fine in a guilty way. I am good at being guilty and instantly dismissing it.

Can I change tack? or is that crass?

Oh I will then.

I am going to London tom as my mum is taking me to the history boys. I can go early and mill about doing stuff but not sure what - anyone know of anything interesting metropolis way?

Not shopping.

boco - can we talk about your dres again?

I dont know whether to make up excuses & decline
Tell him about the email,discuss & decline
or accept & pretend didn't get email

NOT accept - any but that - you would hate it. it would be atmosoherey and strange.

Come camping with me instead.

ds has found a ridiculous pair of large green sunglasses & looks like Christopher Biggins

he is doing a mad easter bunny dance & making me giggle

You see....I thought Christmas was okay....
She however said it was ghastly & awkward

we have been doing things together as a group of friends for years...I dont understand the sudden change

ok Bee
Where are we going?
It has to be luxurious camping tho

I dont do mud or cold or spiders or long tramps to shower blocks or or or......
i'm a rubbish camper areen't I?

She does sound threatened Lully. Her issues not yours.

Am going to London the Wed after next, for 5 lovely days. Am excited. Was a spur of the moment decision, taking dds. Maybe look for a dress in London.

oooooh sounds good

should I reply to her.....or leave it?

It depends - do you have a friendship with her? Do you think you could discuss it reasonably? Has she explained why she feels it would be so tense for her?

Come camping again in North Norfolk Bee, so then you can both come for a picnic again.

Not a friendship ..no
She is not someone I have warmed to I must admit
But I have always made an effort

What do you think her problem is? Is she jealous of your friendship with her dp?

I think I would reply, Lully, and say you are very sorry to hear this as you enjoyed Christmas and didn't feel there was a problem and you are sad to hear she was uncomfortable and you are sad to think you can't still be in the same group of friends and is there something you can do to make her feel happier?

I'm not really thinking it is your responsibility to do this, but perhaps might mean you can sort the problem out between you...I am presuming she is jealous, then? of anything in particular about you, or just vague and general...oh dear is very awkward

100 I am sure you will manage to help her somehow. Just what you have said this afternoon might start trickling down in a few days time. It's good for her to get support from you and to hear alternate viewpoints, even if she doesn't decide to act on them. I am not sure what more you can do?

Bee am sorry to hear about the row and the diet coke and everything. Can we help?

Boco how do you feel now?

I have been to gym. 10 mins on bike and 15 mins on treadmill, plus some very light weights. I was hoping it will help strengthen my back but I expect I am about a year too late for that

I feel happy but a bit twingy

Me and dcs decided to after lunch to go for windy walk at NT property. We arrived and lady said 'I'm sorry you can't bring in your dog after January' and we were

DS1 said 'Why?'
DS2 said 'What happens in January?'
DD said 'but this is Johnny Jet!'

And she looked all uncomfortable in her portacabin ticket office and looked at me pleadingly.

So then we went for a walk in a wood, and it was full of stinging nettles and JJ got stung or stood on a bramble and had a nervous breakdown, and it was very cold. And dcs made a den and fought off invaders and JJ and I sat on a log and discussed his paw problem. It was all a bit cold and annoying really.

Fra - well done on gym.

Lully - she is probably uncomfortable and it is her problem, but also I think quite responsible of her to ring you - though really she needs to talk to him about it doesn't she. I'd email and say have you talked this through with X? What can we do to make this better for you? Is it anything I do? Though I bet it isn't.

Boco - also sorry to hear about sickness, but pleased to hear about long London trip.

Hi

Have been wearing DS for 5 hours now, he has been sick since midnight, and i have changed beds 3 times and his clothes 8 times. I have washing coming out of my ears and am exhausted. Dh and i have been taking it in shifts, but he has taken DD out.

Worried about DS due to poor weight gain issues, he has only started eating prperly again the last few days, after over a week of very little food and when he had his last check up he had lost 7 oz anyway. I am getting increasingly anxious.

sorry for all of you that need cossetting they are not getting.

Lully I agree with 100 re ex's gf.

100, vey restrained of you with SIL I would have not been able to bite my tongue.

oh Wombling vomitty bugs are the worst...

ohI am fine I hope I didn;t make it seem urgent - the diet coke was shocking wasn;t it.

I am still thinking about 100 sil and the dark room - i had a dark room stage metaphorically. I hope she is alright - she will be alright but getting to the alright bit is not always very easy is it.

When we get all ill like this on 10/10 I imagine a newbie looking in and then getting all scared and going out for a McDonalds.

My house is a mess and I stay up late working and then fall asleep on the setee mid afternoon whilst my children play lego and I do that murmuring conversation.

Veyr sorry for your SIL 100x. I am trying to think what I was like when DS was very small. Totally shell shocked really. And distinctly remember when he was 7 weeks old saying to DH I had no idea why we thought it had been a good idea to have a baby (by 8 weeks things were a lot better).

I did join in lots of things (very unlike me). Tried a bit of doing a book that shall not be mentioned . Stopped that very soon .

With me I think I was depressed but not PND. Didn't really bond with DS until he was about 15 months although looked after him and loved him. Also didn't want to be away from him for the night (wasn't until DD was born when he was 22 months).

Don't think I would have had him in a dark room listening to Mozart though, although if I had thought it would have improved things, I might well have done.

I don't think I would have

yes diet coke very shocking Bee

I have had salad and chickpeas and oh dear it's a shame potatoes don't count tbh and erm 2 satsumas and that's it

but I did go to the gym (thank you for noticing Avi). We have run out of nice fruit but I shall try to have some more dull fruit later

midwife came, all well
am booked in for homebirth, just because if you are NOT, they don't like you deciding to have one on the day
am not particularly wanting a homebirth but am very much wanting to have choices left open

Idris I think that confusion sums it up for a lot of people
we just muddle through don't we?
sorry to hear it was very hard at the beginning