Hi Oj,
why are people so selfish and cruel when they can see you need all the support you can get. How awful of Steves brother. My mother upset me yesterday, I have had to go for blood tests this week, and she said "see you are getting old like the rest of us, now you know how I feel ". Harry is not well and she knows I am very worried, so I said to her, yes Mum I think I do know how you feel, but at my age I can`t afford to feel like this, I have three kids to look after. She looked at me and said, well thats your fault, it was your decision to have them. I nearly exploded, then said, yes Mum it was our decision, but our lives were turned upside down at the time if you remember. It was so hurtful esp at this time. So what it must be like for you Oj , just remember, what goes around comes around.