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ONLYJOKINGS THREAD

747 replies

TripleyTigger · 05/03/2008 20:49

Done!!

OP posts:
misdee · 01/04/2008 22:26

oh oj

i am so so sorry they are fcking you about regarding funding. they fcked us about for 8months regarding funding. but time is something you dont have.

i'm hoping the 1st of april magic works for you guys soon and lovely steve gets home where he belongs.

xx

ps, you are always welcome to txt my mobile or email me, or even call if you want. my mobile is as tempermental as my msn though, and since peters transplant i do like to leave it off at times, but do text or email me. i will get msn fixed soon.

misdee · 01/04/2008 22:27

elliots hair is getting longer he looks very grown up in the new picture

hippipotami · 01/04/2008 22:29

Just read your news. Am very and for you.

Miaou · 01/04/2008 22:29

Oh NO

I logged on just to check this and held my breath whilst it loaded - I can't believe they are dragging their feet on this (well I can but it still beggars belief). So sorry OJ. But maybe as you say with it being a new financial year it might work out OK - I really hope so.

Izabella · 01/04/2008 22:32

Oj, I just can't believe this!I am so very sorry. I had such high hopes for the meeting today. Can I do anything to help? Its my day off tomorrow & I'd be happy to make a few phone calls on your behalf.

I think you should contact your MP. If you know where they live, I would deliver the letter by hand in person. So sorry I don't live closer to you. Much love. xxx

imaginaryfriend · 02/04/2008 00:04

Lovely lovely pictures OJ. I hope you get resolution soon to all this really annoying stuff which I'm sure you don't want to be wasting precious time over.

3NAB · 02/04/2008 08:10

I can't bloody believe this!

There MUST be something that can be done! This is not fair.

I was in bed last night thinking about you and had the craziest idea. Please forgive me if I am being really stupid, but my idea was to just take him home and once he was there MAKE your GP, etc sort out the help you need.

I just wish there was something I could do to help. Is there anything at all?

I am so sorry.

If it is about money can we help with that and you get yourself private help?

onlyjoking9329 · 02/04/2008 10:22

Thanks for all your kind words and thoughts, i don't really have a clue what i need right now, i don't need money we will manage somehow, we do have savings.
it might seem like i am rejecting r finding excuses for not doing anything but i think the truth is that i am to worn down by it all, i am only really managing to get throu the days on essentail things and don't feel i can tackle anything else as i have no energy, Steve would have been a huge support in helping me deal with this sort of stuff but sadly he is not able to be aware of any of it, i really do need to pull myself together and find some energy to fight but i am just feeling so overwhelmed with it all i have 3 kids who are worried and upset cos they know their dad is going to die i have to help them throu it the best i can and at the moment that is using up all my energy.
sorry if i don't sound like i am helping myself here, i hope to be back in full battle dress soon.
thanks for all your patience.

Christie · 02/04/2008 10:29

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ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 02/04/2008 10:33

Oh OJ. You'll be back on fighting form before you know it. You just need some time to take a breath and gather your strength again. Just when you think you've used up every last bit of you, there's always some left in the tank. God knows how it gets there, but it does.

I'm sending you all my love and strength xx

shabster · 02/04/2008 10:35

Oh shite OJ (sorry for the swearing) I know Im far away from you but can i kick anyones butt for you - I like kicking butt

LilRedWG · 02/04/2008 10:36

I bet you get some strange looks on the school run dressed like this.

onlyjoking9329 · 02/04/2008 10:37

tis my standard attire

3NAB · 02/04/2008 11:05

OJ, darling, of course you are worn down by it all. It is crap right now for you all. Please think if there is anything any of us can do to make things easier - cleaning, errands, food delivery, etc etc.

You know we are all here for you.

TimeForMe · 02/04/2008 11:23

OJ sweetheart, you are doing amazingly well and I for one am surprised at how well you cope and how you do manage to keep going. You are an inspiration. Never in any of your posts do i sense that you feel sorry for yourself (for want of a better expression) you just keep going no matter what! I am not surprised you are feeling worn down.

I am sending you lots of love and wishing you all the strength you need to get through this. I'm sure I am not the only one who wishes there was something I could do to help you. I think of you everday and I know one thing, if the power of thought could help you, you would be sailing through this. Everyone is rooting for you OJ.

Lots of love xxxx

trulymadlydeeply · 02/04/2008 12:18

Lots of love and positive vibes. Hope you burnish your battle dress again soon - can one of us wear it for you for a while?

Love and hugs

xxx

lilyloo · 02/04/2008 12:19

OJ it's no surprise your worn down by it all it's just so wrong you have to focus your energy on fighting for what your family rightly deserves

Izabella · 02/04/2008 13:08

OJ, its no wonder you're really struggling. Anyone would who is facing what you are let alone all the additional stresses & strains that you have put up with would not have coped as well. You don't have to be positive or be a fighter everyday because there are going to be days when you just can't & that is ok. You are doing an amazing job with your kids (even though it might not feel that way to you) and they love you for it even though they might not be able to express it in the same way. I am in tonight if you want to chat. Much love and ((((((hugs)))))). xxx

Madlentileater · 02/04/2008 19:57

Hi OJ, just looked at your profile and your lovely dts - of course the others are all lovely too of course, but I have a soft spot for girl twins, mine are a bit older...and I was thinking, you've done the 3 under 3 bit (as I have) PLUS SN, that's hard too, and you did it, you are clearly wonderwoman even if you don't feel like it right now. I can well understand your concerns about your famiy's privacy and of course you will have to choose the best way to use your resources. We're all madly frustrated on your behalf, but don't expect you to start campaigning unless that feels like the right thing to do. Trust that your instincts will lead you to the right decision for you all- and put yourself in that equation, too.

VaginaShmergina · 02/04/2008 21:29

Evening OJ, how was your visit today ?

Did you manage to speak to someone ?

triplets · 02/04/2008 21:49

Hi Oj.............I feel for you so very much, my long long is only just beginning, yet I am scared, bewildered and exhausted with worry already, and we have three young children too, and my beloved Matthew who I prayed sooooooooooo hard to for his Dad to be ok, if I was nearer I`d be by your side to do what ever I could, my love and thoughts xxxx

Tickle · 02/04/2008 22:40

Liking the battle dress LRWG

At least Steve is currently in a place where there are good people to help at all times - so although it is far from ideal for all of you, he is still getting good care.

Hope you had a nice visit today, and that Steve is more comfy.

x

LordGodAlmighty · 02/04/2008 23:54

OJ you are an amazing woman. Don't think you are expected to be superhuman though. Focus on conserving your strength for you and your family.
My experience is that in some ways the terminal illness diagnosis is harder on the person who is responsible for keeping it all together than it is for the patient. You are expected to be strong and together all the time - you can't be. Allow it to be all too much for you sometimes, you can't be strong 24/7.

Triplets, if you are reading this thread, I don't know if you have seen this

(I am Rosa, btw, must change my name back.)

onlyjoking9329 · 03/04/2008 09:15

spoke to consultant yesterday who is still waiting for people to return phonecalls and emails, she will ring me as soon as she knows anything.
Nab3 i will email housework and ironing to you pronto
Izabella thanks for the chat last night it really helps.
everyone else too many to name thanks as always

Grouchyoscar · 03/04/2008 11:35

Every strength to you and your's at this difficult time. We are all rooting for you x